MoonGoodandHappy Posted October 20 Posted October 20 (edited) As a gay man, I have never been happy. Life is so hard when you're a gay man because you're rejected by humans for being gay, you suffer violence from people throughout your adolescence, and when you want to turn to God, you discover that religions reject you too. It's just horrible how no one talks about our suffering and how our world is becoming very conservative again and treats us as if we weren't human. Personally, I always feel super sad because I also never had a father, and I have a great sense of unease within me because of my adolescence that will never go away. When you believe in God but religious people say that I have to stay single forever and just suffer in silence while some people will have a perfect beautiful life because they are white and straight and also they are loved by God and will go to heaven because they are straight while we, as a gay man we suffer in our life a lot but also we have to deny ourselves, suffer in silence or we will (after being in hell on earth) will go to hell in the afterlife as well. I'm just so tired of that. It's SO unfair. And I suffer a lot from that, also my mom is sick, I have these weirds skin lesions on my body but never go to the doctor because i'm to stressed and my job is killing my body...... Litterally everything is killing me slowly. So, what about you ? Do you feel happy as a gay man ? Edited October 20 by MoonGoodandHappy 8 2
Anthinos Posted October 20 Posted October 20 Homophobia is bad and yes it makes me sad when I see what happens in Russia, for example, but you shouldn't forget that all people suffer, not just us. People are victims of racism, die in war, etc. We are not the only ones who suffer. Unfortunately, that's the way the world is at the moment. I don't understand why people are like this and want to live in such a hateful world. And I don't believe in man-made religions, heaven and hell, etc. It doesn't scare me. If you want to believe in God or Gods, you can do it without religions, religious books and man-made rules and laws. There was a time before the Abrahamic religions and there will be a time after them. All in all, I am happy. I don't care what other people think of me and I don't understand why some people need so much validation from other people. I don't care what people think. I live for myself and in my world. I don't hide and I live my life the way I want to. 1
Princess Aurora Posted October 20 Posted October 20 Well, it's hard being happy because of homophobia. However, I'm happy since the closest people in my life support me and I don't care about homophobia at all. They can choke 1
Aston Martin Posted October 20 Posted October 20 (edited) This sounds very over dramatic, but find out what means of self defense you're allowed to possess in accordance with the laws of where you live. Knowing that you have some means of self defense should you come across a homophobe (or homophobes) will make you feel less miserable as you feel less helpless against homophobia. I do hope you find joy in your life in general though I'm sorry things are tough for you right now Edited October 20 by Aston Martin 3
LadyDiana Posted October 20 Posted October 20 Hey sweetie, you are right, it's tough and it sucks but hang on! Where do you live???
Starfish Posted October 20 Posted October 20 While I am not a gay man I have noticed they become significantly happier when they find a hole they can continuously fill. 9 2
Alldeezy Posted October 20 Posted October 20 I have trouble being happy even being a straight female, Having nobody like you and feeling like you won't find that happiness because people look at you differently.
єѕℓαм Posted October 20 Posted October 20 I'm sorry that you feel that way but believe me it gets better Me for example an openly gay heavily tatted guy living in a very islamic and homophobic country ive been through hell and back but i still keep going so hang in there and stay strong always
Cain Posted October 20 Posted October 20 1 hour ago, MoonGoodandHappy said: I also never had a father I have to stay single forever and just suffer in silence while some people will have a perfect beautiful life because they are white Also my mom is sick, I have these weirds skin lesions on my body but never go to the doctor because i'm to stressed and my job is killing my body While homophobia is obviously a great threat to us and horrible and is intertwined with other aspects of our lives, a lot of the problems you describe also have to do with racism, classism and capitalism I'm not saying that to make you feel worse, I'm saying that to illustrate that being a 'gay man' is not a universal experience, I don't really encounter any of the problems you are describing. And I'm again not saying that to make you feel worse, but I'm trying to hint at the fact that being a gay man is not in and of itself a sentence to a doomed life. You say "as a gay man, I have never been happy", but you are more than just a gay man and not all of your problems stem from being a gay man. That is to say, I hope you don't think your identity as a gay man is what makes you feel this way or makes you have to feel this way for the rest of your life. I'm sure it's a big part of it, but you're able to dissect your issues one by one and tackle them individually, which hopefully lessens the burden you feel It is entirely possible to be happy as a gay man and built a life that you can be proud of 4
Princess Aurora Posted October 20 Posted October 20 1 hour ago, Starfish said: While I am not a gay man I have noticed they become significantly happier when they find a hole they can continuously fill. HELP
godmess Posted October 20 Posted October 20 You need to stop looking outside yourself and at the world to make you feel good. You will always find reasons to hate yourself when you need people to make you feel like you belong. Decide today to belong and cherish yourself, and start bit by bit developing self esteem by keeping your word to things you want for your life. Every single person on earth has something they're being challenged to rise above. It's how we develop character and values. We aren't here to be those WALL-E obese civilians comfortably gratified for their every need. Shape up and own your life! 1
MoonGoodandHappy Posted October 20 Author Posted October 20 1 hour ago, Starfish said: While I am not a gay man I have noticed they become significantly happier when they find a hole they can continuously fill. 1
duybeeGAshantiGA Posted October 20 Posted October 20 I am sorry to read your post, but everyone suffers 1 way or another. Just do your best. I know it's hard but just keep going. 1 day you will look back and smile.
PillowCase Posted October 20 Posted October 20 1 hour ago, Starfish said: While I am not a gay man I have noticed they become significantly happier when they find a hole they can continuously fill.
nandofernandes Posted October 20 Posted October 20 What makes humans sad is not homophobia, it is capitalism
shimind Posted October 20 Posted October 20 I agree with all the things OP said but when that thick juicy 9 inch goes in your mouth u experience heaven and forget all the pain and sadness 5
YouSmellLikeHospital Posted October 20 Posted October 20 3 hours ago, Starfish said: While I am not a gay man I have noticed they become significantly happier when they find a hole they can continuously fill.
Venice B Posted October 20 Posted October 20 Homophobia and lots of trauma. Also, finding a partner is not easy either.
Breathe On Moi Posted October 20 Posted October 20 sorry to hear that babe, but you aren't wrong, you will be ok tho, and realize that at the end of the day, these people that throw so much hate at us will die too. they are not immortal, they will die just like you and I. no one has the correct answer, no one knows what happens in afterlife or if there is one, just gotta live your truth and hope to god that you at least have one person in this world for you, whether a friend, or lover, or family. also I know it's hard, but go to the doctors at least for a check up. I've learned to stop putting my health aside this year, it's better to know than not to know, us as a gay species are inherently "suicidal" in that sense that we are shamed to not see doctors for our healths because we live "alternative" lifestyles. take care of yourself, and I hope your mom gets well very soon. 2
Vespertine Posted October 20 Posted October 20 5 hours ago, MoonGoodandHappy said: while some people will have a perfect beautiful life because they are white and straight "beautiful perfect life" — stop thinking like that. Take a good, hard look around and think about all the straight people you know. I see so many of them acting out a script that they've been assigned: performing and enforcing their gender roles, getting married by X age because "it's time to settle down," having kids by Y age because it's just "what you do" etc. What's the result? Tons of eventually loveless marriages, where husbands and wives stay together "for the kids" or because they simply can't imagine another path in life. It is so apparent to me how many straight couples eventually grow to resent each other. You can see it and feel it all around you, even from total strangers. How many people had ****** up childhoods because they have dads who never really wanted to take care of kids, parents who spent every day fighting, parents who had kids when they were too young/immature? Perhaps you live somewhere where it's difficult and dangerous to be openly gay, and I'm genuinely very sorry if that's the case, and then my post is not at all helpful. But if you can live openly, try to think about the freedom there is in not just ticking off boxes and copying everyone else's lives because you're "supposed to." 4
Souvenir Posted October 20 Posted October 20 i totally understand you and i feel exactly the same. At least we're not alone.
Bosque Posted October 20 Posted October 20 Personally as I've gotten older and become stable and financially independent, I've stopped caring about the homophobes, including the ones in my family. But everyone's situation is different and it's tough if you're in certain locations, or forced to have homophobic people in your life.
crymelanie Posted October 20 Posted October 20 5 hours ago, Anthinos said: Homophobia is bad and yes it makes me sad when I see what happens in Russia, for example, but you shouldn't forget that all people suffer, not just us. People are victims of racism, die in war, etc. We are not the only ones who suffer. Unfortunately, that's the way the world is at the moment. I don't understand why people are like this and want to live in such a hateful world. And I don't believe in man-made religions, heaven and hell, etc. It doesn't scare me. If you want to believe in God or Gods, you can do it without religions, religious books and man-made rules and laws. There was a time before the Abrahamic religions and there will be a time after them. All in all, I am happy. I don't care what other people think of me and I don't understand why some people need so much validation from other people. I don't care what people think. I live for myself and in my world. I don't hide and I live my life the way I want to. i think you can still believe in God and be gay for example i am muslim and gay because 'Islam is a religion of tolerance' sending all of my sistrens around the world LIGHT 1
LikeATattoo Posted October 21 Posted October 21 I've talked at length about this place—despite its overwhelming userbase—not being a safe haven for queer men to vent about their frustrations with homophobia. The moral grandstanding and general tone of dismissal in these replies perfectly validates my stance lol. Gay men are conditioned to put themselves last no matter what and it's so depressing. @MoonGoodandHappy It's important for you to remember that homophobia is a failure of the world and not at all reflective of you. You're not as alone as you might feel.
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