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Almost everybody wants a serious relationship. Not everybody knows what that looks like for them.

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End it now

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If Devin's age were an issue, you wouldn't have entertained him in the first place. Either commit or backup and stop wasting his time.

 

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6 hours ago, PoisonedIvy said:

 

I can save him the embarrassment of showing up alone after hyping me up to all of his friends and coworkers this whole week..

 

:suburban:

OMG... then you HAVE to show up. At least then he can just say he didn't really like you or you just didn't click to save face:deadbanana2:

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i have some advice but i need to know if you are okay with the possibility of going to prison

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3 hours ago, jesus del rey said:

Does Devin have an iphone or an android? :eli: 

if he had an android it probably would have exploded and killed him by now, so likely an iphone

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3 hours ago, jesus del rey said:

Does Devin have an iphone or an android? :eli: 

iPhone :dies: 

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26 minutes ago, Katamari said:

i have some advice but i need to know if you are okay with the possibility of going to prison

I need you to share the advice regardless of my answer to this question :deadbanana4:

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5 hours ago, Mr. Peanutbutter said:

I'm sorry but I feel like you're the one not wanting to miss out a fun night with friends. :rip: Just end it and move on, it's gonna suck for him but at least he won't feel used by you for a quick little night out where he expressed love in front of his friends only to be discarded the next day

They're not friends they're strangers, I genuinely wouldn't mind missing it but it seems cold hearted to go back on my word when I already told him I'd go with him. 
 

What if I tell him before the event that it will be the last date we go on, so that way he can just introduce me as a friend or someone visiting or something random that softens the blow of my eventual disappearance :gaycat6: 

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3 minutes ago, PoisonedIvy said:

iPhone :dies: 

Then you know you have to continue :eli:

 

Spoiler

End this before it gets more messy

 

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21 minutes ago, PoisonedIvy said:

They're not friends they're strangers, I genuinely wouldn't mind missing it but it seems cold hearted to go back on my word when I already told him I'd go with him. 
 

What if I tell him before the event that it will be the last date we go on, so that way he can just introduce me as a friend or someone visiting or something random that softens the blow of my eventual disappearance :gaycat6: 

This would be the equivalent of saying "I don't want to be with you but since I pity you I can go on that date if you still want to be with me". Also you both will either have to pretend to be together or you'll probably have to explain to everyone the situation.

 

Girl just end it. :rip:

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wait i read through everything twice not you having issues with th 19 yr old 

 

is this event at a pizza hut or best buy or something :rip: 

 

idk how old you are but arent you  worried you are going to be judged for dating a younger person because they will ask if the age gap is wide to some degree :thing: 

 

 honestly i lowkey think you should just ride it out until he loses interest or something because you might break him u don't :thing:

 

 

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46 minutes ago, Katamari said:

wait i read through everything twice not you having issues with th 19 yr old 

 

is this event at a pizza hut or best buy or something :rip: 

 

idk how old you are but arent you  worried you are going to be judged for dating a younger person because they will ask if the age gap is wide to some degree :thing: 

 

 honestly i lowkey think you should just ride it out until he loses interest or something because you might break him u don't :thing:

 

 

It's at like an event center, somewhat like Main Event or Dave & Busters if you're familiar with them. Bowling/rock climbing/laser tag type stuff. :rip: 

 

Im 27, and it's less about the "being judged" for dating someone so young and more so that I know better. When I was 20 I met a guy that was 27 and we dated, but now that I'm 27 I know how vastly different those two ages are and I can't believe someone of that age ever pursued me when I was so young and inexperienced/immature. So there's no way I can genuinely end up on the other side of that spectrum when I know he still has so much of his 20s left to grow and experience. 
 

Yeah I don't wanna hurt him by just ending it out of the blue, but like I've said I already told him we LITERALLY cannot be together :deadbanana4:

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When do you find the time to date two guys and make the worst threads ever here on a daily basis? 

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1 hour ago, Katamari said:

i have some advice but i need to know if you are okay with the possibility of going to prison

Does it include a bakery?

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2 hours ago, tost1 said:

When do you find the time to date two guys and make the worst threads ever here on a daily basis? 

I also have a full time career, the discipline to spend 2 hours in the gym 6 days every single week, and an extremely healthy social life balanced between my friends and family. Not to brag or anything. 
 

:khalyan: 
 

The answer, though, is that I basically sacrifice sleep. :gaycat6: 

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go to the event and end things with him there

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4 minutes ago, EtherealCat said:

go to the event and end things with him there

Oh you're messy :deadbanana2:

 

I like it, I'm listening 

 

:ryan3: 

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2 hours ago, PoisonedIvy said:

It's at like an event center, somewhat like Main Event or Dave & Busters if you're familiar with them. Bowling/rock climbing/laser tag type stuff. :rip: 

 

Im 27, and it's less about the "being judged" for dating someone so young and more so that I know better. When I was 20 I met a guy that was 27 and we dated, but now that I'm 27 I know how vastly different those two ages are and I can't believe someone of that age ever pursued me when I was so young and inexperienced/immature. So there's no way I can genuinely end up on the other side of that spectrum when I know he still has so much of his 20s left to grow and experience. 
 

Yeah I don't wanna hurt him by just ending it out of the blue, but like I've said I already told him we LITERALLY cannot be together :deadbanana4:

dd i thought the event was AT his job :deadbanana4: that's not too bad i guess

 

maybe he just didn't want to go alone and he plans to break up with you afterwards:khalyan:

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You should never have agreed to attend in the first place :rip: 

 

At that age, I would definitely be the most embarrassed if I hyped up a guy to all my coworkers/friends just for them to not show up. Appearances are everything, especially at such a vulnerable stage in life. So I would still go but reiterate to him beforehand that he shouldn't expect anything serious to develop. Then wait until the end of the week and break the news that you "found someone new" :michael: it'll suck for him, but that way you never led him on and kept your promise

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