discussion How to Come to Terms with Aging

[IBeMe]

You Have to reframe the way you view yourself and what you value. When you're young all you really care about is friends, fun, looking good, getting passes because of your youth etc…when u get older start to train yourself to value things that only your older self can do…like try to render yourself more sophisticated…your looks may start to be fading a little and you may be showing your age but counter it by dressing well and making yourself look put together etc…start doing activities u could only dream of being able to do when u were young and broke like travelling etc…additionally being in a relationship will probably help u live outside of your head a little and engage in real time with your partner instead of overthinking the passage of time and what it ultimately means..,wishing u the best sis

[Newt]

Place some importance on improving our well being. Find ways to keep mobile and active. Treat the body well

 

Countering the physical aspects of aging are going to make you feel good and enable you to continue enjoying the other parts of life

[Bencharmer]

37 minutes ago, Anthinos said:

30 is not really old, but you can tell that something is changing

Going through my early 30's got me in my most depressive time i ever had. As you mention it's not about the body/appearance etc but definitely about realizing time is going.

 

I felt like i had time to catch up, like i didn't achieve much in my 20's and "i have to do it before i reach my 40's".

 

Well that was a terrible idea, i felt like **** after that and my body got constantly on survival mode due to that urge of fixing things.

 

 

[BambiStar]

Scariest part about aging is becoming more aware the rapid passage of time. Months, even weeks, used to feel like forever as a teenager and now they slip away like nothing. You kinda brush off old people that keep saying "Life is short!" then you hit your 20s and it's like... damn.

[Daddy]

2 hours ago, pigeon said:

Do you want to be dead instead?

Please don't ask this question on ATRL, you won't like the answers. 

[YourFavoriteWeapon]

2 hours ago, sk8erfan said:

The Substance, out Friday

We will be watching  Demi queen 

[bielneira]

Enjoy your life as much as you can.

[TouchinFree]

I used to be alot more anxious and worried when I was in my 20's. Which I find so weird. That's because the older you get, the more sensible you are and see the world with no filter. 

 

Aging and death are such incredible concepts. Regardless of power and status we are literally all equal in that regard, and we barely stop to soak it in that in fact it is our confirmed destiny. Like one day everyone will get to be buried deep underground regardless of who you are. Very powerful. And I believe in God more and more as I progress with age. How can you not? I love life but we are all literally rotting one day at a time. We have 0 control over that, but we do have control of how we get to spend this current life. 

 

And I think once we understand this bittersweet concept then we'll get to enjoy the process of aging. All aspects of it. The good the bad and the ugly. 

Edited September 17 by TouchinFree

[BadHabits]

3 hours ago, Bencharmer said:

Well there's nothing you can do that much.

 

Someday we will all be eaten by worms or our ashes will be blown in the wind.

 

All those concerns about youth, having fun, being a Gaga stan etc won't matter anymore.

 

We are here for a very short time and we aren't that important. Make sure to make the trip worthy of it 😉

 

 

I'll take that moss or mushroom burial, the one where you body fuses with the forest and absorbed into the ground.

[shyboi]

why don't you exercise? or get on that ozempic 

[Oktober Knight]

ATRL is so obsessed with getting old. Just embrace it! It's gonna happen whether you like it or not, it doesn't mean you have to let yourself go and look ugly. Just keep taking care of yourself (hair, skin, exercise, diet, etc). Older people are very attractive too ya know. 

[Wicked]

Enjoy life and take care of yourself. I don't think about my number going up every year. I do recommend everyone do a morning stretch routine as they get older tho.

[Colmillo]

It's funny because I've never been someone who's obsessed with aging, but I turned 25 a few months ago and now I feel like I'm having a mid life crisis

 

 

I'm even searching for clinics where I can get botox because I feel like I'm looking older and older everyday 

 

 

Help

 

[Summerboy95]

6 hours ago, Cruel Summer said:

I think it's important to realize that as you age, your body is largely doing things it was explicitly designed to do, that all human beings have experienced. It is part of what it means to be human. Understanding and accepting this can help you use the time you do have more intentionally and in more fulfilling ways. It's better to embrace the change that comes with the seasons as your body is designed to do than to dwell on its consequences - too much of the latter, and you'll just miss out on everything while you continue to age anyway.

Beautiful words. Thank you for this!

[nhatpb]

aging is still better than dead inside or being like walking zombie

[Rihinvention]

Are you a man? Because if so, I think society is way kinder to us as we age.

 

I'm 32 and I've started going grey, which at first freaked me out because I thought that was quite early (it started when I was like 29) but I'm also a bodybuilder so I know a lot of guys are into that look.

 

I find gay men with cosmetic work and pillow faces (botox, filler, etc) creepy looking. It gives me uncanny valley vibes. When I see muscular guys in their 30s, 40s and even 50s (with no work done) I find them good looking, so I'm choosing to embrace it.

 

Try to see the new, older you from other people's (fresh) perspectives, rather than trying to look like you're in your early-20s forever.

 

And honestly, if you're not a guy, the same applies. So many female-attracted people are into more mature women. It's a confidence thing.

[Alldeezy]

I don't  I'm maybe in my 30s but I got mental state of a teenager still and that's never going to change