discussion How to Come to Terms with Aging

[Strawberry Bubble]

I know everyone ages, and it's a natural, even beautiful process for some. However, it often feels like the world is designed for the happiness of the young. As soon as you start aging, loneliness, overwork, busyness, and routine become normalized, and society offers fewer structural tools to combat them. It feels like you're just expected to get used to it.

 

When you start losing hair, getting wrinkles, and your body starts aching, it can become so... depressing and isolating. It feels like you're losing yourself. How do you come to terms with aging when everything you know about yourself is tied to being young? When you've only ever known your younger self?

 

 

[Katamari]

"Aging"

 

gurl you probably not even in your mid 30s

 

the drama

Edited September 17 by Katamari

[May]

theres no coming to terms with it just get comfortable in misery

[DAP]

Start robbing graves so you can get comfortable with the feeling of being in a casket.

[Subzero]

Aging sucks but you learn to get used to it and appreciate the good stuff along the way and don't ever let anyone suck away the fun in doing what you enjoy just because you're getting older 

 

On serious note though, I think the worst part as I get older is not even myself aging, it's watching my grandparents and parents get older and not be able to do things they could before. You grow up thinking they're invincible but start realizing they're withering away right before your eyes, it's scary sh*t

[Shelter]

It's a curse. Who wants to be old and barely able to move. 

[Taste of Honey]

Time is not something I acknowledge(outside of some very obvious exceptions). I'm sure at some point my body will tell me to sit the **** down. But I decided very long ago to never ever let my age define me, or dictate what I can or cannot do. 

[Joey307]

I'm 22 so I'm still hot and young and I'll just focus on that for now 

[pigeon]

If you are not aging, you are dead. Do you want to be dead instead?

[itshyolee]

Just come to terms with it and accept the fact that you're gonna end up in a retirement home soon! 

[Mocha]

well atleast we'll be aging with our peers/friends/colleagues/family and not alone, so we can all be bald and wrinkly together

Edited September 17 by Mocha

[Cruel Summer]

I think it's important to realize that as you age, your body is largely doing things it was explicitly designed to do, that all human beings have experienced. It is part of what it means to be human. Understanding and accepting this can help you use the time you do have more intentionally and in more fulfilling ways. It's better to embrace the change that comes with the seasons as your body is designed to do than to dwell on its consequences - too much of the latter, and you'll just miss out on everything while you continue to age anyway.

[Princess Aurora]

It's life so there's nothing wrong with that. We all age

[Distantconstellation]

50 minutes ago, Subzero said:

Aging sucks but you learn to get used to it and appreciate the good stuff along the way and don't ever let anyone suck away the fun in doing what you enjoy just because you're getting older 

 

On serious note though, I think the worst part as I get older is not even myself aging, it's watching my grandparents and parents get older and not be able to do things they could before. You grow up thinking they're invincible but start realizing they're withering away right before your eyes, it's scary sh*t

You are also withering away too though

[Calvin]

Aging is a part of life and you should never be sad about this. 
Idg why some of the users here are making fun of you? 

 

Edited September 17 by Calvin

[sk8erfan]

The Substance, out Friday

[Subzero]

8 minutes ago, Distantconstellation said:

You are also withering away too though

I know, we all do, but seeing it happen to them as they start becoming immobile and fragile sucks. I can't imagine a world where they aren't gonna be there and that's what gets to me 

[Mtjjproducer]

If you're black you'll likely age a bit then freeze for decades 
 

if your white my heart goes out to you 

[Littlejfrey]

It's a process we can't avoid, so that's why I try to do things on my present to at least preserve some sort of quality of life while I'm aging. Mindful eating, physical activity, having good interpersonal relationships, being grateful, etc.

 

[Distantconstellation]

5 minutes ago, Subzero said:

I know, we all do, but seeing it happen to them as they start becoming immobile and fragile sucks. I can't imagine a world where they aren't gonna be there and that's what gets to me 

I feel u. I'm not even that close with my mom but it's good to know that she's alive and there. When she's gone it's gonna feel so lonely. I rather go before her. 

[Bencharmer]

Well there's nothing you can do that much.

 

Someday we will all be eaten by worms or our ashes will be blown in the wind.

 

All those concerns about youth, having fun, being a Gaga stan etc won't matter anymore.

 

We are here for a very short time and we aren't that important. Make sure to make the trip worthy of it 😉

 

 

[smartalek22]

take care of yourself and u will age gracefully

i mean... i find plenty of older guys hot 

[Anthinos]

I turned 30 this year. 30 is not really old, but you can tell that something is changing. You're not old, but you're not really young either. Personally, I think the mental part is worse than the physical part. Physically, you can do a lot to age well through healthy eating, exercise, etc. And who knows how our generation will age with all these new technologies like AI, stem cells, etc. I work as a geriatric nurse and many of our patients are already reaching the age of 90 or even 110 and are still very fit and independent for their age. I believe that we will age differently than previous generations. I think people seem much younger these days. My colleagues at work are 50 or even 60 but still in top shape.

So physically, I'm not too worried. I'm just worried that I'll get cancer, a heart attack or some other illness. Psychologically, I find it stranger.

But it also has a lot of advantages. You have more money, more stability and I've learned to say no at work and in other areas. I now know what I want more often.

[mons†er]

The beauty of aging is appreciating your own personal growth and development in life. Being young is fun until it's not. As I've gotten older I've become a lot more comfortable being my own best friend. I can't wait to tell my nieces and nephews all the crazy things I did while being the hot gay uncle. Growing is fun, my friends and I are all on the same page even when we go out. Sometimes we all look at the clock and say 'okay, I need a nap before we go out.' 

 

Life is hard and aging really helps you prioritize yourself in positive ways without feeling the pressure of society and its standards. At least for me.

 

I also don't understand why some users are clowning, I would hope 10 years from now most of you are not the same person you are today. 

[bad guy]

I just hit mid 20s and it's way better than being under 21. Like the world is literally your oyster. The only time I get whiplash is when I see fully functioning children that were born the year I was bopping to Post Malone (back when he used to be popular).

 

 

Other than that I don't really think about it. I did when I transferred schools to finish my degree because I was 3 years older than all of the friends I made at my new uni while other people my age had graduated, but life is a marathon not a race. I don't think about aging at all. Looking at my parents I know I'll age well too so it's fine. It's mostly noticing my parents and grandparent getting older that I struggle more with. I can't imagine a life knowing my parents are gone.

 

I just hope by the time I'm 40 I reach the goals I have set and that I've broken cycles for the family I hope to have. If not then it's up to my kids I guess