discussion I'm arguing with my roommate about chicken wings...who's wrong? who's right?

[Pavement Princess]

The cat after being pushed to the floor by your roommate covered in wing sauce:

 

[jonapova]

I am never leaving this site

[HASHTAGPOW]

Take this to People's Court sis

[undermyskin]

Just now, Burn said:

You're in the right but you also do come across as being aggressive in these texts which probably isn't helping the matter.

I agree I am.

 

For context, as somebody that knows him, he started the message with a condescending tone. He doesn't call me "girl". He is also my boss; I'm the sole employee of his company and he has been upset for the past couple weeks that I'm returning home to Chicago when our lease is up. With that said, he's been acting especially weird towards me the past three days and this whole situation is out of character for him.

 

Definitely agree I could've been nicer but he was baiting me and I absolutely took it.

[Chiidish]

You aren't wrong exactly... it's moreso just a case where both sides need to reach a compromise but neither of you want to engage in further communication on the matter. So I say either keep your cat locked in or just be fine with either cleaning or not cleaning up messes. Although technically the cat is your responsibility, dealing with someone who is pretending that they don't live with pets is annoying and frustrating because you have to do extra work that could be resolved with an agreed upon system. 
 

"Agreed upon system" being something as simple as put your food back in the fridge or get ******. 

Edited September 14 by Chiidish

[єѕℓαм]

Actually i'm on your side 

his stupid ass left the chicken out not once but twice and u cleaned it up everytime so now he does it again and expects u to clean up after his dumb ass like first who leaves food out for days ? And he knew the cat was gonna eat it so **** that "str8" hoe

[undermyskin]

1 minute ago, Chiidish said:

You aren't wrong. This is a case where both sides need to reach a compromise but neither of you want to engage in further communication on the matter. So I say either keep your cat locked in or just be fine with either cleaning or not cleaning up messes. Although technically the cat is your responsibility, dealing with someone who is pretending that they don't live with pets is annoying and frustrating because you have to do extra work that could be resolved with an agreed upon system. 
 

"Agreed upon system" being something as simple as put your food back in the fridge or get ******. 

I completely agree with you. You can see my previous replies for some more context on the current relationship between my roommate and I. This was absolutely done to be petty.

[Infatuation_Junkie]

Cats can choke on chicken wing bones. 

[undermyskin]

1 minute ago, єѕℓαм said:

Actually i'm on your side 

his stupid ass left the chicken out not once but twice and u cleaned it up everytime so now he does it again and expects u to clean up after his dumb ass like first who leaves food out for days ? And he knew the cat was gonna eat it so **** that "str8" hoe

This is exactly where I'm coming from lmao

[RideOrDie]

3 minutes ago, undermyskin said:

I agree I am.

 

For context, as somebody that knows him, he started the message with a condescending tone. He doesn't call me "girl". He is also my boss; I'm the sole employee of his company and he has been upset for the past couple weeks that I'm returning home to Chicago when our lease is up. With that said, he's been acting especially weird towards me the past three days and this whole situation is out of character for him.

 

Definitely agree I could've been nicer but he was baiting me and I absolutely took it.

he is your boss??? oh i love atrl 

 

 

[undermyskin]

1 minute ago, RideOrDie said:

he is your boss??? oh i love atrl 

 

 

girl if broke down the whole situation, y'all would have a kii. it's such a joke.

[Katamari]

What would Lykke Li do? 

[Katamari]

5 minutes ago, undermyskin said:

I agree I am.

 

For context, as somebody that knows him, he started the message with a condescending tone. He doesn't call me "girl". He is also my boss; I'm the sole employee of his company and he has been upset for the past couple weeks that I'm returning home to Chicago when our lease is up. With that said, he's been acting especially weird towards me the past three days and this whole situation is out of character for him.

 

Definitely agree I could've been nicer but he was baiting me and I absolutely took it.

I think he's into you

[RideOrDie]

Just now, Katamari said:

What would Lykke Li do? 

have a meltdown on instagram like undermyskin did on here? 

[undermyskin]

1 minute ago, Katamari said:

I think he's into you

lmaooo my bestie tells me this every day girl

[Katamari]

1 minute ago, RideOrDie said:

have a meltdown on instagram like undermyskin did on here? 

Well….he has a point

[Burn]

Him using your cat to provoke a reaction from you is really weird tho and I don't like him using the animal like that.

 

In fact I'd be worried about leaving my cat anywhere near him and try and keep the by your side/in your room as much as possible for the next month until you get outta there.

[RideOrDie]

Just now, Katamari said:

Well….he has a point

i'm on undermyskin side don't get me wrong

 

i grew up in a house of cats and dogs, i had to learn the hard way not to leave my food around at any second  the amount of times my dinner was snatched because i went to the bathroom etc. it's just common sense the roommate is dumb

[Rihinvention]

What's the dynamic of this relationship?

 

Because these messages sound INSANELY hostile for something that such an easy fix for either party.

 

It's giving "brewing silent treatment has just been broken and now you're both screaming at each other over spilt milk because tensions are so high."

 

Like I'm so non-confrontational that I wouldn't even be able to go back home after a text exchange like that.

 

Are the two of you cool? Are you close enough that this could be seen as jest/banter? Or at the very least, be seen as "yesterday's news" tomorrow?

 

Because I would be terrified. That's probably because my old roommate broke into my room whilst high on meth/GHB and stole from me, all while I was sleeping. But still…I would be terrified.

 

 

Edited September 14 by Rihinvention

[RideOrDie]

39 minutes ago, Raver said:

I'm taking your roommates side girl 

The cat is your responsibility 

girl ofc the cat is the owner's responsibility but it's not like he's asking him to clean up his litter box or something?? you are sharing space with an animal have some common sense and don't repeatedly leave food lying around growing mould, this is a no brainer once you do it you learn from it situation 

[PoisonPill]

It's giving low IQ and emotional immaturity, on both sides (but mostly yours).

[Arrows]

Cat or not, leaving food out is just gross. He needs to clean it up and you should leave the cat out of the arguement

 

That said, you kinda asked for his reaction by being so confrontational and unfriendly

Edited September 14 by Arrows

[undermyskin]

2 minutes ago, Rihinvention said:

What's the dynamic of this relationship?

 

Because these messages sound INSANELY hostile for something that such an easy fix for either party.

 

It's giving "brewing silent treatment has just been broken and now you're both screaming at each other over spilt milk because tensions are so high."

 

Like I'm so non-confrontational that I wouldn't even be able to go back home after a text exchange like that.

 

Are the two of you cool? Are you close enough that this could be seen as jest/banter? Or at the very least, be seen as "yesterday's news" tomorrow?

 

Because I would be terrified. That's probably because my old roommate broke into my room whilst high on meth/GHB and stole from me, all while I was sleeping. But still…I would be terrified.

 

 

My roommate and I became friends in Chicago about two years ago because we worked together. We got super tight, he was in one of my music videos, we were cool.

He was moving to New Jersey to open up a branch of the company we work for. He asked me to go with him. I initially declined but ended up coming.

 

We've roomed together the past year. We've had arguments here and there but always talk it out. 

 

Since last year, he's had trouble running his business and I've been his only reliable (and at most times, only, period) employee. We do outside sales and I ranked #1 nationwide last year and both quarters this year. With that said, I've contributed quite a bit to his company and I decided to leave at the end of our lease next month.

 

Corporate has been down his throat a little bit because they're concerned what he's going to do without me.

 

Since I told him I'm leaving for sure, he's been doing petty things like this.

[Princess Aurora]

This is why I'd never trust others to do my stuff. 

[Mr. Peanutbutter]

Ok so the cat is indeed your responsibility, but that doesn't change the fact that your roommate is lazy and gross for leaving food on the countertop, specially food that comes from animals. Even if you didn't have a cat that wouldn't be ok.