discussion Do you sometimes feel like you're living a boring life ?

[John Slayne]

i'm sure some people would find my life boring, but i don't really feel bored myself. also i'm moving to a different city at the end of this month to go back to university which is exciting! 

[PoisonedIvy]

You should never feel envious of the gays that party every weekend. Never. A lot of them are train wrecks, for the most part. 
 

I wouldn't say my life is boring. I have a healthy social life, a lot of friends, and a job I actually enjoy. I get to travel a few times a year, and I like to try new places & things out even in my home city. There's so much life out there beyond the nightlife. Experience it and enjoy yourself. Also know you can feel enriched even from the 4 walls you call home. Lots of creative outlets help stimulate your mind and reward your emotions. 

[Redstreak]

By insta gay standards yeah but I also never really wanted that life. I have the very stereotypical, kids-pets-house-job type of life but even then my partner and I still find ways to spice things and be a little more adventurous when we can. Plus we've got our own separate hobbies that takes up our time, I'm going to a big convention at the end of the year with a few friends so we're fine letting each other do our own things for needed socializing. Your life is as boring as you allow it to be

[Joey307]

1 hour ago, PoisonedIvy said:

You should never feel envious of the gays that party every weekend. Never. A lot of them are train wrecks, for the most part. 

As a gay that parties every weekend with lots of other gays, can confirm lmao 

[Bubble Tea]

2 hours ago, John Slayne said:

i'm sure some people would find my life boring, but i don't really feel bored myself. also i'm moving to a different city at the end of this month to go back to university which is exciting! 

That's exciting! What are you gonna study?

[Robert]

No, but kinda at a point where I wish I did.

[AvadaKedavra]

I feel like this sometimes...Like i could do more.... but there's no option.
The city i live is very dangerous with robberies,stabbings, killings,druggings and shady people all the time
So, goin out is honestly a very scary situation and can be a russian roulette. U can have the best experiences but also the worst.
In these last 4 months like 7 of my friends got their cellphones stolen. One was kidnapped in a taxi and millions were stolen from him
With the two last presidents things been gettin so so bad. Specially the last one friends with the criminals.
Is honestly sad cause i live in the Biggest Metropolis of my country with tons of Cultural,Sport and Art things.

Things like this is one of the reasons why i would like to move to some Asian-European-Northamerican-Oceania cities legally of course.
To have some sense of peace....
Even if theyre dangerous too. Theyre far less dangerous than my Southamerican country  so i would be free to do more things in the free time

Now if we talk about activities. I have a compilation of different-places-activities to do and i dont get bored
I also like to research about activities and daily life things in tv shows-cartoons-movies, so i take that as inspiration to shake things
I dont mind doing things by myself all alone, so everything is always an adventure. 
Only thing im not doin is traveling to different countries. Im so so terrified of airplanes  
thats the only thing unchecked in my bucket list. Wish we had trains and ships like the past lol

Edited September 2 by AvadaKedavra

[fountain]

Boring is better than bad

 

[Gladiator]

I used to feel that way until I started living with other people.

At this point I have lived with about 12 different people and although that's obviously a small size, I realized that most other people around my age live equally boring lives.

 

 

 

Edited September 2 by Gladiator

[STMG23]

YASS Girl! And...

 

[Outlaws]

No, but for some reason it is never enough to me. 

No matter how many or how good, the good moments are never enough.

 

Could that be part of an existential crisis I feel I'm having? I don't know.

[tjspy]

I don't know what am I doing with me.

I completly departed from my family, friends and boyfriend this year because I was tired of my family and was not in love in enough with my bf. I moved to another country, too a decently paid office job. Learned the language and started living completly alone.

 

I feel as purposeless as I've ever been and completly alone. I did try somethings I needed too, but overall the whole experience is just destroying my self-esteem, feeling like I'm not good enough to anything, rather working or befriended with anyone, having a huge impostor syndrome rn and constantly questioning how did I end up here, wheter in my bed or in a gay sauna bed while reading a gay magazine.

 

I just feel completly lost and hated most of the people I met here. I miss home. But whenever I'm there, I feel stuck and like wasting my life away. So I guess I should fix whatever my issues are and find a way of enjoying being here, in this world.

 

But again, I'm obviously feeling like not enjoying life enough, while also not believing I can enjoy it anymore in a short future just because I'm in such negative mindset that nothing really is making me happy (or particularly sad), everything feels fake or meaningless, whatever it is.

[popmusicisdead]

now that i'm in my 30s, THANK THE LORD i'm living a boring life now. my 20s were filled with:

 

-financial insecurity

-family drama

-identity issues

-untreated mental illness

-regrettable things i did for money

-toxic relationships

-uglee people i slept with

-being overworked to near death

-drugs and alcohol 

-a fued with a local religious cult

-white collar crime 

-several pregnancy scares

 

not saying that i'm free of those now but my life is more or less manageable

[Kern]

12 hours ago, PoisonedIvy said:

You should never feel envious of the gays that party every weekend. Never. A lot of them are train wrecks, for the most part. 

I used to go out a lot because I thought that people will think there's something wrong with me and that I'm boring because I don't go out to party all the time. But clubbing was actually mostly boring and expensive for me. Music usually sucked, I couldn't talk to anyone because it's always loud and people are high etc. It's such a waste of time tbh. I prefer concerts and music events or hanging out during the day and it actually gives me energy instead of taking it away the next day

 

I also looove spending time at home playing games and I don't feel guilty about it anymore because I'm still hot

 

Edited September 2 by Kern

[Illuminati]

It feels like I'm missing out but I also feel overwhelmed by life all the time, so boring might not be the word. I'm always catching up to something long gone

[glitch]

I don't think people who share every moment of their lives online are very happy honestly. If we all really wanted to, we could find things to post about every day. Also lots of people gradually post photos from the same event making it seem like they're doing more than they actually are.

 

As the saying goes "comparison is the thief of joy". I think you'd be surprised at how many people are jealous of you and your lifestyle (being in a relationship + good job). If we all spent a bit more time focusing on ourselves and being content with what we have, I think we'd all be a lot happier.

[Bubble Tea]

17 minutes ago, popmusicisdead said:

-a fued with a local religious cult

Do tell us more! 

[Alldeezy]

Yes uptill August came around and life kinda been fun for a little bit but its back to boring lonely life for me again I'm afraid 

[John Slayne]

11 hours ago, Tropical said:

That's exciting! What are you gonna study?

Master's in Queer Studies! 

[naval23]

yes but life is about the simple things for me - relationships, spending time with people you love, self care and sprinkling some time for hobbies here and there.

 

time is really our biggest asset 

[CottageHore]

Sure I do. All humans do, even those living lives you'd look at and think "damn, my life is boring compared to their's!". What even is a "boring" life? If you're not doing things you wish to be doing, figure out how to go and do them. Otherwise, your life isn't boring, you're just a victim of comparison. 
 

Back when I was taking more risks and doing more ****, my life, on the surface (and on social media) maybe looked more exciting. But inside, I was lost and insecure and listless. I'm not equating an exciting life to insecurity, but the case for me was that everything I was projecting and forcing myself to do wasn't what I wanted to be doing, it was what I thought I should be doing.

 

Lately, I'm in the process of coming to terms with the fact that I'm happiest when my life is SIMPLE. Not boring- simple. On my days off, I like to have a slow morning. I like to go for long walks in nature while listening to old jazz or Lana or anything, really. I like to go to the store for fun and buy myself a little treat and I like to bring my dog with me. I like to hang with my close friends and family and go for hikes around the state I live in, drive aimlessly with the windows down and music blaring. I like to collect rocks and sea glass at the beach. On my nights alone, I like to get a little high and make myself a nutritious meal, sometimes I'll get takeout instead because I feel like it. I like to watch the stars at night and sit by a cozy fire while Gilmore Girls plays on the TV. I like to sip a glass of wine while taking a bubble bath (for 5 mins before I drain the tub cuz I actually can't stand the hot water). I like to spend time with my mom and dad, knowing I'll forever cherish every moment I spent with them. I like to workout and notice my body making incremental changes. I like to learn new things by watching videos and reading articles. I like to get coffee at a local coffee shop and just read a book (or pretend to read a book while listening to the conversations of others cuz I'm annoying) for a couple hours. I like to try new hobbies like painting and crocheting whenever I feel inspired to do so and then I like to not touch said hobbies again for another several months.

 

Does that all sound boring to you? Because to me, I sound busy and engaged with my own interests. Your life will always be boring as long as you're doing a side-by-side comparison of your life to another person's life. There will always be someone out there (who you only know exists because you're chronically watching people's lives online) doing more, saying more, traveling more, spending more than you. But that has nothing to do with you.
 

What do you want that you don't have? And what can you do that you're not doing in order to get that? If you spend most of your days feeling relatively fulfilled (and I say relatively, because you will never feel fully fulfilled. You will always want more), you feel financially stable, and you have meaningful relationships you can turn to for socialization and support, then what's boring or wrong about that? It sounds like you're living a beautiful life, maybe you just need to give yourself permission to see it that way. 

Edited September 3 by CottageHore