discussion Do you sometimes feel like you're living a boring life ?

[Maddox]

Kinda setting myself up to get dragged lol but do some of you feel like your life may be boring sometimes? For context, i'm 29 yo in a healthy relationship, my partner and i have decent jobs but not ones that make you travel every weekend, go to clubs and other ****... Also, i don't have many friends in my city, most of them are abroad and the few in here are also busy with their lives so we only get to hang out like once a month or so 

 

My bf has his friends that are cool but i feel a little insecure that my circle of ppl is a bit small. Also whenever i check other gays ig stories you see them going out and partying every other day, and i'm like "why don't i have that  " Is it a money thing? Like is being in a certain position in life gives you more advantage to meet people ? Does anyone else feel the same way?

 

Go easy on me in the replies pls.

[Badgalbriel]

Yeah. But I don't really mind. My ideal life is the life where me and my boyfriend are left alone at home to ready books, cook together, sleep and watch movies. I'm not the type to go out a lot. 

[Josh]

I mean I've accepted it. I do feel like I don't think anyone would miss me if I vanished.

[Sugar-Rush]

I'm on ATRL almost every single day, so yes.

[no_better]

Never because there is always too much to do, but also I think my personality makes me content with ordinary life/I find regular life exciting enough

[Joey307]

They say that as you age your process time differently. For example your childhood will feel longer than your 30's because by your 30's you've probably figured life out and have started doing the same things everyday without much changes, whereas in childhood you're constantly learning and trying new things. Best advice is to not let life pass you by, go do things!! You only live once, babe. And it's great that you have a partner to go do whatever you want with. I got dumped not too long ago by probably the only guy I'll ever have a shot with, and it's eating me alive knowing that I ****** it up for myself. But hey, can't focus on that when it's only going to make me hate myself, you know what I mean? 

 

Good luck! <3

[AshleyLovescats887]

Well yeah but I'd rather be bored than constantly caught up in something

[skwonderfactory]

Every once in a while, yes but I truly feel like I am living the most fulfilling life I have ever had currently. Recently, I started craving more variety which means it's time to learn a new hobby.

[Kern]

Yes but I'm trying to not make this thinking a self fulfilling prophecy. I'm just trying to be, well, not boring even though I often feel like I'm not that crazy and out going like my peers 

[trueromance]

no thanks to maladaptive daydreaming

 

 

Spoiler

but yeah my actual life is really boring, i get it

 

[Smarticle]

Ya I'm feeling the same. I tell myself to count my blessings and to be grateful for the stability though

[illia]

Yes but it's not necessarily a bad thing for me. I often feel out of place at parties, I like being a hermit lol

[Alaska.]

Yep. I kinda need a fresh start, but it's ridiculously expensive to move out right now and I don't want to live alone lol. Back during my previous job I tried to lure a college friend to move out with me, but the company had to let me go after my internship ended because they had no work for me.

 

My current job is boring as hell, but at least it's not remote since I kinda missed getting surrounded by other people during working hours. My plan right now is trying to stay for another year and see what's out there 

[Kayseri Mantisi]

[Odd]

sometimes?

 

all the time 

[Dialamba]

This is why I'm doing a solo trip in Portugal so at least if someone ask me what I did during holidays 

[katara]

I'd rather have boredom/stability than chaos/stress

[Philo]

I used to be like that but the corporate world/capitalism/crazy inflation, along with heartbreaks, completely burnt me out by the age of 25 and now I consider my best weekends the ones when I don't have to leave the house. Also, as others have said, I try to be grateful for what I have and the relative stability.

[NOW]

It's very good to be bored, as long as it's not to the point where you're thinking, "Why am I even here in this position?" There are many people in this world who want the world you live in now – no health issues, stable income, a loving support system, and a safe place to live and rest.

 

Do you have any hobbies (books, movies, sports, etc.)? Trying new coffee shops/restaurants, going for walks at a park or exploring the town next to you can be lowkey and fun too.

 

Maybe I've just been in a perpetual Blue Banisters era myself so I'm not opposed to living a quieter life these days (stream it now for clarity!)

 

 

[Bubble Tea]

I'm sitting here at 8:30am Monday about to brush my teeth and cycle to my unexciting public service job, I can't say it's an exciting day ahead but it's a life I guess. 

 

Instagram is fake is hell, don't pay it too much mind. 

[LoveInStereo]

Unless you're stuck in a dead end job that leaves you no room for free time, there's absolutely no reason to feel bored with your life. Perspective is key. Instagram isn't real, the people you envy are most likely often feeling bored, insecure, unfulfilled, etc too. I say take an inventory of the things/people in life that excite you & energize you & invest time & energy in that. In time, you'll come to appreciate that your life is more interesting than you're giving yourself credit for. Lean into your you-ness. Not everybody has a life that makes for a splashy social media presence, doesn't make it bad or dull

[suneclipse121]

The partying lifestyle is ******* exhausting. Trust me you don't want to get wrapped up in all of that. Most of the gays you see partying that frequently are alcoholics or drug addicts and have some type of mental disorder. 
 

Appreciate your modest life and maybe look into pouring your time to healthy activities with your man. 

[Pikachoo]

my life isnt fulfilling, so yes it's boring.

 

but it sounds like you have a good life. a healthy relationship, stable job? youre more blessed than you think

[Jormungand]

Yes, having money gives you access to more doors. Literally and figuratively speaking. Obviously there's more to life, but money also gives you more in this life. If you don't have a lot of money like majority of the world, find what gives you meaning and purpose. A person with a purpose in life is already better off than that miserable known transphobe, JK Rotting.

[LegaMyth]

I've spent the last few years working, working, and working. I know it's boring, but, as I've told those who I'm close to, I WANT MORE.