discussion Do you know "open relationships" that have actually turned out well?

[Jotham]

Coincidentally, I know a couple that's been in an open relationship for several years and they just announced today that they got married.

 

Usually though they are unsuccessful.

[Loca]

No, but I don't know of any closed relationship that ended up well either 

[applestar]

Even that sister wives guy lost 3 of his wives, open relationships are cooked

[Breathe On Moi]

unfortunately I think that's the only way to have an actual, actual, long term gay relationship. 

 

I can't accept it and probably why I won't be in a ltr. 

[Littlejfrey]

By the way, when I say "Turned out well" I don't mean the quantity of years they lasted, I mean about the quality of the relationship. Because for example, I knew an open relationship and they were together 4-5 years, but when I found out details of their relationship it was full of drama during those 5 years  very messy

[teresaguidice]

yeah, many. 

[YourFavoriteWeapon]

I only know two that worked out, the rest of them all fell apart dd  

Edited August 28 by YourFavoriteWeapon

[jjmed59]

kkkkk ima be so real with yall. and im not saying its an ideal or good situation but this is my POV and maybe it can offer you that inside perspective.

 

the reason my partner and i have been together for 9 years is bc we both ensure the other is protected financially and can afford ourselves a comfortable lifestyle bc of that. it also really helps that he and i enjoy practically all the same things. we come from exactly the same niche backgrounds of interests. so hanging out is always very fun. however we dont always see eye to eye on the bedroom unfortchewnately. kinda had to swallow whatever pride we had bc everything else we have was so great  it wasnt easy at first. but we've built boundaries, respect them, and really appreciate each other for all of the amazing things we bring to the other's life. and we def play a lot together saur that helps. its not one sided at all. but  we've grown together and are in our late 20s/early 30s so we have calmed down. we didnt repress ourselves seckshually so i guess we got that out the way  so its not something that is consuming our life at all. unlike most 19-21 yr olds in throuples or open relationships

 

again def understand if youre like girl thats a mess sjjajdjsjd but thats my two centss 

Edited August 28 by jjmed59

[CristianGarcia]

53 minutes ago, jjmed59 said:

the reason my partner and i have been together for 9 years is bc we both ensure the other is protected financially and can afford ourselves a comfortable lifestyle bc of that.

This. A lot of open relationships last for this simple thing.. the convenience when it comes to "money" 

 

I see this a lot with my local gays. They don't even be compatible sexually but they stick thru it for the fear of surviving on their own. 

[Cesar]

i've known more open relationships than monogamous relationships that had lasted longer. they weren't open in the beginning, more so after they already built a bond and a strong connection

[GipJo]

The success rate probably is the same as the monogamous relationship.

[Dera]

literally every gay couple I know irl is open

[Steve Jobs]

Yes, I've met tons of guys in open relationships/marriages that have been together for many many years, decades even. 
 

Seen plenty of monogamous ones fail due to cheating though!  

[Princess Aurora]

Kinda. It depends on the couple though

Edited August 28 by Princess Aurora

[MonsterJohn]

My regular grindr hook up has been with his husband for 14 years, he even put their name initial and the year they met as his grindr name, that's so cute

[Last Boy on Earth]

Yes

[Sir Galahad]

In my experience, they've tended to be a precursor to a longterm couple splitting up.

 

I'm sure there are plenty which work, but it's an interesting pattern.

[Aramis]

Yes, mine.

[HealerKirby]

10 hours ago, Breathe On Moi said:

unfortunately I think that's the only way to have an actual, actual, long term gay relationship. 

 

I can't accept it and probably why I won't be in a ltr. 

Don't lose hope  I have been in a monogamous relationship for 4 years & going strong.

 

tbh it comes down to luck, but you should focus on where to find people with compatible lifestyles; like I  barely have time & energy even for friends, let alone messing with other guys, and my bf is the same due to his job - eventually we realize that this relationship works out perfectly for us 

[Oktober Knight]

I think I know more relationships that are open that lasted compared to those that were monogamous. 

 

Communication is key. Set boundaries with one another and don't disobey the agreement. Open relationships can be fun but they're certainly not for everyone. 

[Gesamtkunstwerk]

Yes, but usually the ones where they started out open, or were open to the idea from the beginning. 

 

The ones where they "tried it out" because one of the people in the relationship suggested it, not so much.

[CottageHore]

No because it's less simple and more complex. 

[poki]

It works good for Don Lothario

[Alldeezy]

Actually no  he even engaged to his gf during ice nine kills good things 2019

 

They are no longer together after they became open.  

 

Eventually someone is gonna get hurt 

[Pendulum]

not mine