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Girlies so I'm mostly closeted due to societal pressure where I live but recently I found a more safe environment and I started going to gay bars now and leave my identity open to all the gays there. Problem is, I have never been gay so 'publicly' and idk how to approach someone. Any tips y'all? I've only had experience with apps.

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Get drunk and it will come naturally 

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2 minutes ago, Before Today said:

I've only had experience with apps

So basically no experience

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Before going up to someone, make a nice compliment or comment about them if you can see them in whatever bars you're in. If they accept it and start talking to you more, keep the vibe going and let it ride! If not, well there's another cute guy that might be more interested than the last. :heart: you got this be yourself and be happy and safe(and don't hard on yourself if the guy rejects).

 

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1 minute ago, fememeist said:

So basically no experience

Lol yes. I'm from a Muslim majority country, cut me some slack girlie

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Pull yourself together, fake some confidence if you doesn't come naturally to you and go tell him that you like him right in his face. No small talk, no chit chat. Just tell him you like him and if he responds positively grab him and do what u want (without the R. Kelly implications ofc)

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"You look great! I like your shirt/hat/pants/shoes/whatever"

 

"This is my first time here, any drink recommendations?"

 

Honestly guys are pretty easy and aren't much about flirting. You just need to start the conversation somehow. 

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Open Grindr and see if he's on there

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6 minutes ago, Kern said:

come up to people and say things like  "Do What U Want deserved better. Agreed?"

:rip: Sure, if you want to turn someone off before the conversation even gets going.

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"You look boots the house down sis. Are you into chems?"

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Just now, Charmed Life said:

:rip: Sure, if you want to turn someone off before the conversation even gets going.

It always worked wonders for me

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Just now, Kern said:

It always worked wonders for me

:rip: Was it a bar or a toilet?

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Complimenting something about them is the easiest way to approach someone imho

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Just now, Charmed Life said:

:rip: Was it a bar or a toilet?

I'm sorry but if you're not aware that I'm just joking then you might have a problem 

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Just now, Kern said:

I'm sorry but if you're not aware that I'm just joking then you might have a problem 

I was joking too, babe.

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1 minute ago, Charmed Life said:

I was joking too, babe.

Oh okay, I'm sorry sis

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Ask who they stan

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2 minutes ago, Kern said:

Oh okay, I'm sorry sis

Are you sorry or are you sorry? 

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29 minutes ago, Kern said:

come up to people and say things like  "Do What U Want deserved better. Agreed?"

I'm already wet :smitten: 

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3 minutes ago, KillingYourCareer said:

I'm already wet :smitten: 

Hi babe

 

Gaga dropped DWUW, a collab with a man who shall no longer be named as the second official single off ARTPOP in 2013 and now the song has been virtually removed from every platform and can't be found anywhere, due to the R Smelly controversy. 
 

But the song was a bop and the way she used sex as a euphemism for the way the media objectifies her and pokes and prods at her insecurities with false headlines was clever. Had she made it a solo song or had a better artist featured, it would've been remembered as the BOP it is.

 

The Xtina remix simply doesn't do it for me, I fear!

 

Amirite?

 

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3 minutes ago, Kern said:

Hi babe

 

Gaga dropped DWUW, a collab with a man who shall no longer be named as the second official single off ARTPOP in 2013 and now the song has been virtually removed from every platform and can't be found anywhere, due to the R Smelly controversy. 
 

But the song was a bop and the way she used sex as a euphemism for the way the media objectifies her and pokes and prods at her insecurities with false headlines was clever. Had she made it a solo song or had a better artist featured, it would've been remembered as the BOP it is.

 

The Xtina remix simply doesn't do it for me, I fear!

 

Amirite?

 

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I shall invite you over to my haus, where we can listen to the MASTERPIECE in its pure, ancestral form on iKoons or on CD like in the good old days. :jonny6: 

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Have you tried walking into the bar in a shirt that says C** DUMP? Usually works like a charm! 

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Ask if he likes Ava Max. Works everytime

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Are you looking for friends, sex or something more serious?

 

If you're just looking for friends, do you have a (girl) friend that you could go out with? Sometimes it's easier to break into conversations and meet people as groups. And if you're not vibing with them, or they're not vibing with you, you have the comfort of going back to just hanging out with the friend you came with.

 

Once you've made 1-2 gay friends, it just sorta snowballs from there. It's like a domino effect. You just meet more gay guys through other gay guys.

 

But if you've come out to a trusted female friend, I'd say go out with her. 

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