discussion A guy you ghosted glowed up (or is hotter IRL than pics). Now what?

[BrentB]

And, not only that, but he's suddenly in your top 3 of all time - both looks & personality-wise. And you're both single. He knows your face & remembers you left him to ROT. You have 1 shot to shoot & the window of opportunity is wide AF & undeniable. What y'all doing bestrens?

Edited August 11 by BrentB

[Trent W]

I wouldn't even bother

 

They will probably ignore you or get a personal satisfaction of you begging/reaching after rejection 

 

Once you ghost someone just be consistent, nothing good might come out of reaching someone you ghosted/rejected

[Raver]

I ghosted him cause he was a liar and a pos so even if he got hot I wouldn't shoot my shot again 

[Into The Void]

Why did I ghost him

[ultraviolence.xx]

 

[BrokenMachine]

I only ghost for good reasons so he might had it deserved. I don't know about you 

[I Am Music]

You can't ghost someone and then decide to insert yourself back into their life cause they're worth something to you now.  This isn't how things work.

 

Best to move on. 

[May]

Move on

[HonourableVomit]

nn this happened to me when I was younger and I took a shot but he knew he was too good for me at that point and honestly tea, proud of him 

[Bubble Tea]

You take the L and learn a valuable lesson about being vain and judgemental.

[Nightingale]

I've had this happen. I'm never rude to people though so we never leave off on a bad foot. I also don't truly ghost to the point where I just disappear. I just let the convo die and don't reach out anymore. One time I truly did ghost and we got in touch a year later but I just apologized

 

There was one guy who I've chatted with online and then saw in person at my gym and he was so much hotter than his pictures. We went out but he turned out to be a jerk anyway

 

Another guy just didn't seem that hot in his IG pics and he tried chatting with me a few times. And then he glowed up a bit and I had the biggest crush on him but he just seemed like he wanted more attention than a relationship and was always on the apps so I got over him

[Cheers]

hey big head  

[BrentB]

28 minutes ago, Into The Void said:

Why did I ghost him

Well simply put, you live in Toronto and you got besides yourself (think kid in a candy store) thinking that the grass was greener with the other 2 hunks you f**** the night you tossed your guy to the curb . But your guy wasn't all there yet lookwise (he had a faint 4 pack, his biceps weren't biceping & he's giving homebody vibes). You essentially dismissed him as not having enough edge tbh. But that's okay, everyone is entitled to their preferences. But now, the biceps are bicepping, and there's a certain glow & je ne sai quas there that you totally missed. Your guy is still a homebody but you'd trade him for the scores of NPC gays in the area who only seem into lame Sniffies curcuit parties (& those 2 hunks that you thought would be your FWB-BFFs for life). HA! Well they're in Montreal now BTW with a new gym bud that was just leg-daying a little more better than you were.

 

31 minutes ago, Raver said:

I ghosted him cause he was a liar and a pos so even if he got hot I wouldn't shoot my shot again 

No, you ghosted him because your in a gay mecca of Toronto & your cocky ass insinuated that you had options. Keep up 

[Into The Void]

2 minutes ago, BrentB said:

Well simply put, you live in Toronto and you got besides yourself (think kid in a candy store) thinking that the grass was greener with the other 2 hunks you f**** the night you tossed your guy to the curb . But your guy wasn't all there yet lookwise (he had a faint 4 pack, his biceps weren't biceping & he's giving homebody vibes). You essentially dismissed him as not having enough edge tbh. But that's okay, everyone is entitled to their preferences. But now, the biceps are bicepping, and there's a certain glow & je ne sai quas there that you totally missed. Your guy is still a homebody but you'd trade him for the scores of NPC gays in the area who only seem into lame Sniffies curcuit parties (& those 2 hunks that you thought would be your FWB-BFFs for life). HA! Well they're in Montreal now BTW with a new gym bud that was just leg-daying a little more better than you were.

 

No, you ghosted him because your in a gay mecca of Toronto & your cocky ass insinuated that you had options. Keep up 

Hmmm I prefer homebodies so I would have picked him tbe first time around

[JonginBey]

Well, unlike you, maybe he'll have some dignity and ignore whatever message you're thinking of sending him.

 

[Venice B]

I'm the one who got ghosted. I hope he sees me in the future and SEETHES. 

 

Jokes aside, that would never happen because I would never ghost someone. And even in this hyphotetical scenario, life goes on. There's plenty of guys out there.

[BrentB]

1 minute ago, JonginBey said:

Well, unlike you, maybe he'll have some dignity and ignore whatever message you're thinking of sending him.

 

Lol, it wasn't me though. I was just posting some example that came up top of my head (that I get a feeling that certain dudes who did me dirty may be living ATM) Ha! Suffer (if that the case) 

[Roberto]

Nothing to do there, just being less judgemental a next time. Time to move on.

[Lagerfeld]

Seems like he dodged a bullet.

[ImsoLOUD]

watch Papi stunt from afar knowing that you'll never have him 

 

[Cesar]

1 hour ago, BrentB said:

Lol, it wasn't me though. I was just posting some example that came up top of my head (that I get a feeling that certain dudes who did me dirty may be living ATM) Ha! Suffer (if that the case) 

you sure about that, the op seems very detailed and personal

[feelslikeadream]

I don't know because I've never ghosted someone, but I kind of want to give you a Disruptive warning point for being annoying and writing all your posts in the 2nd person point-of-view ("you")

 

[Mordecai]

How rude and immature do you have to be to ghost someone? It's not that hard to write a short message saying you're not interested/compatible/looking to date rn or whatever. It's what you deserve tbh

 

 

[Arrows]

It wouldn't happen cause I'd never ghost someone, that's a scumbag thing to do A polite rejection is enough to get them back later

[Robert]

I would only ghost someone if they did something terrible so it wouldn't be an issue.