Sad Beautiful Tragic Posted July 27 Posted July 27 Have you ever been aware that someone had strong feelings for you, and despite knowing this, you continued to interact with them in a way that kept them hopeful or emotionally invested? You might have realised that this person was keen to maintain contact with you and would go to great lengths to keep the relationship alive. Even with this understanding, you continued to engage with them, perhaps leading them to believe that you might share their feelings or that the relationship had potential. How did you handle the responsibility of this situation, and what effect did your actions have on both your life and theirs?
Alldeezy Posted July 27 Posted July 27 too much without meaning too. Like i'll be into them at first but then they get too attached and I back off but also still talk to them like im still interested but like that's with everyone because I can't catch feelings with these meds I swear.
WhateverYouWant Posted July 27 Posted July 27 (edited) Probably every day. Not on purpose. I'm just a *** who likes attention. What can I say. But in all seriousness, yes. I really only felt bad about it once. After my 6 year relationship ended I kinda dated this guy for a couple months right after knowing it wasn't going anywhere while knowing he wanted it to go somewhere. He stayed available during my relationship waiting for his shot and I just treated it as a rebound once he got it. Then ended up being serious for a bit with our mutual friend he also had a thing for shortly after. But kinda a happy ending. He lives in my building now so he's my go to smash buddy. We tried to date again more seriously recently but agreed we are better as friends. Edited July 27 by WhateverYouWant 1 1
Sad Beautiful Tragic Posted July 27 Author Posted July 27 15 minutes ago, Alldeezy said: too much without meaning too. Like i'll be into them at first but then they get too attached and I back off but also still talk to them like im still interested but like that's with everyone because I can't catch feelings with these meds I swear. I'm guilty of doing this currently to four people, and I feel like I have a real habit of doing this, and it's honestly starting to worry me a bit.
Princess Aurora Posted July 27 Posted July 27 No, not really. I always tell the other person how I feel about them first after getting to know each other. 1
katara Posted July 27 Posted July 27 No I try to be as direct as possible when I don't like you. But some guys are freaks and don't understand until you give them a hard "NO" to their face.
mons†er Posted July 27 Posted July 27 Sure have. I have been very afraid of hurting people's feelings in the past so I appease them by not telling them the truth. As of the last 2 years that has changed, after one date I like to be forthright and upfront. I'm not mean about it and I usually tell them after a week of sitting on my feelings. Now I'm just single and patiently waiting. I don't believe my man is in NYC but I know what to look for now and I I know better than lead others on.
Dolce Vita Posted July 27 Posted July 27 ngl yea…this is toxic trait i have that im working on. it mostly happens when i end up losing interest and don't want to hurt their feelings
WhateverYouWant Posted July 27 Posted July 27 4 minutes ago, katara said: No I try to be as direct as possible when I don't like you. But some guys are freaks and don't understand until you give them a hard "NO" to their face. Yeah I made it very clear that it was way too soon after my ex to be serious but he still went full speed ahead anyways and my sad a** at the time just rolled with it till it was too much.
MerveAksak Posted July 27 Posted July 27 Nope, whenever I felt like someone is interested in me but I'm not interested in them I simply try to reject them kindly. But it doesn't work most of the time so at some point I need to tell them directly that I'm not interested. It usually ends up in 2 scenarios. 1. They understand but feel heartbroken and go away. I feel bad for rejecting them (I dont know why I feel bad for this most of the time since it is my right.) 2. They claim I'm not all that and that I'm ugly anyways and shouldn't think of myself as some sort of God. (Man just take the rejection and go, no need for all that.) But leading on makes me feel guilty so no...
alexrex Posted July 27 Posted July 27 Yes, but not with the intention of hurting anyone. Sometimes I get with guys who want to jump directly in a relationship. To me there's a middleground before the relationship, but some don't see it that way. So it ends up with not talking anymore and me feeling bad for it.
єѕℓαм Posted July 27 Posted July 27 I never do that i tend to always be honest and straightforward and most of all respectful when it comes to these situations
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