discussion Just found out the guy i'm sleeping with has not one, but two boyfriends!

[Weld_E]

I've been chatting with this guy on Grindr and we hit it off from the get go. We moved our communications to snapchat where we kept sexting and exchanging nudes. At first, the chat setting had the chats deleted after 24 hours, but I noticed once we started planning to meet, he changed the setting to chats disappearing after being read. I didn't think much of it at first, but that should've been the first red flag. 
 

We met a couple of times and the sex was great. We both had a desire to continue seeing each other. However, I noticed that he started becoming inconsistent with his texting where he'd sometimes take days to respond, and other times he'd be blowing up my phone insisting to meet immediately (he mostly did this on Mondays). I had enough of the hot and cold dynamic and called him out on it, and that is when he revealed that he has not one, but two boyfriends!

 

I was taken back at first, but he explained that he became part of this throuple 8 months ago, but had issues committing to them. He said he expressed interest in remaining open, but the younger bf (40s) wasn't okay with this as he was getting jealous and possessive, while the older one (60) didn't seem to care. I told him I'm uncomfortable with his current dynamic and don't want to get entangled in their mess, but he said he was planning on ending things with them soon.

 

Should I continue seeing him, or has he proven himself to be untrustworthy? They say once a cheater, always a cheater, and he wasn't cheating on one, but TWO bfs! 

Edited July 17 by Weld_E

[Smarticle]

Are you 28 years old by any chance?

 

[Donquizote]

[Littlejfrey]

Can the people making these boring threads be banned for it? I don't think is ok to make fun of an atler love life situation, regardless if you agree or not with his views 

[vuelve88]

**Shakira canned chicken gif**

Edited July 17 by vuelve88

[SoldierofLove]

12 minutes ago, Weld_E said:

the younger bf (40s) wasn't okay with this as he was getting jealous and possessive, while the older one (60) didn't seem to career

 

How old is your guy? How old are you?

 

It's giving

 

[fememeist]

10 minutes ago, Littlejfrey said:

Can the people making these boring threads be banned for it? I don't think is ok to make fun of an atler love life situation, regardless if you agree or not with his views 

[Josh]

I feel like I'm being forced to watch a gay telenova

[fememeist]

Best thing to happen to ATRL culture

[shyboi]

based 

[charmed23]

The only logical next step:
4 s o m e

[Devin]

the pannings in here? 

op prob traumatized abt the situation.

[Onyxmage]

I only have one thing to say. GET TESTED. You have no idea what diseases this man has and maybe just gave you.  

[bjorn]

is this from the 3rd guys POV to that other trouple thread 
 

 

[Before Today]

Maybe I'm a conservative gay and a prude after all. I get 3s, open relationships, but throuple relationship is not for me at all, the thought of it weirds me out. But to each their own.

[Rino]

we need the 60 y.o. husband's thread now to complete this saga 

[truthteller]

can someone make a megathread with a summary and timeline for these plot twists after plot twists 

 

Edited July 17 by truthteller

[tost1]

Now we just need one of the characters to be Taylor's bf and her to write an album about the whole drama 

Edited July 17 by tost1

[Weld_E]

10 minutes ago, Rino said:

we need the 60 y.o. husband's thread now to complete this saga 

 

[nostalgic]

1 hour ago, Littlejfrey said:

Can the people making these boring threads be banned for it? I don't think is ok to make fun of an atler love life situation, regardless if you agree or not with his views 

If it's one thing ATRLers know how to do, it's beat a dead horse. The joke got old 2 threads ago 

[Oktober Knight]

1 hour ago, Littlejfrey said:

Can the people making these boring threads be banned for it? I don't think is ok to make fun of an atler love life situation, regardless if you agree or not with his views 

I appreciate you speaking out but let them have fun with it. Honestly I'm ok with it, I love the humour coming out of this 

[Princess Aurora]

 

Ah, dearest correspondent, what an intricate web of passion and perplexity thou dost find thyself ensnared within! Permit me to offer my humble thoughts, conveyed with the elegance and prudence of our esteemed Princess Aurora.

Firstly, let us examine the character of this gentleman who has so captivated your attention. The fickleness in his communications, the sudden fervor to meet, followed by intervals of cold neglect, speaks volumes of an unsettled nature, prone to whims and caprice. Such inconsistency, whilst thrilling, doth also portend a heart not wholly transparent in its intentions.

The revelation of his dual commitments, dear correspondent, is a matter of gravest concern. That he would engage in clandestine liaisons whilst being bound by affection to not one, but two other gentlemen, reveals a propensity for deceit that must not be lightly overlooked. The maxim "once a cheater, always a cheater," though harsh, carries the weight of wisdom earned through the observations of many a keen observer of human nature.

Moreover, his assurances of ending his current entanglements should be weighed with caution. His current actions display a want of integrity and fortitude, and his promises, made under the duress of discovery, may prove as fleeting as the messages he so quickly erases.

Your discomfort, my dear, is a most natural and prudent reaction to this tangled affair. To involve oneself further would be to court the very chaos and turmoil from which you wisely seek to extricate yourself.

Thus, with a heart full of regard for your well-being, I would counsel you to withdraw with grace and dignity from this gentleman's sphere. Seek instead a partner whose affections are steadfast and whose character is unmarred by such duplicity. In so doing, you shall preserve your own peace of mind and open the path to a more sincere and enduring connection.

Yours in sincere counsel,

Princess Aurora

[Daniel767]

oh if this going to become reddit? now everyday i see these types of post .. why? 

[Into The Void]

44 minutes ago, truthteller said:

can someone make a megathread with a summary and timeline for these plot twists after plot twists 

 

these are the same thread by different people. 

[mike_int]