discussion Gays, can you date someone who is religious? Is it self-disrespect?

[John Slayne]

I personally wouldn't, but I disagree with the framing in the OP that gays kind of 'have to' be irreligious because religions are homophobic. I'm an atheist because I have yet to hear of a religion that has convincing evidence to suggest it is true. I do not think deriving morals or laws from religion is good or helpful, in fact, I think dogmatic thinking is actively harmful. My atheism does not come from my gayness or self-interest, it is based in logic and arguments.

 

Even if I were straight, I would still be an atheist and I still wouldn't date a practicing religious person. The difference in values would be too great, I enjoy a debate but the second religion is mentioned I tap out and that's where the conversation ends for me. Especially if I wanted to raise children with someone, I would never be comfortable with my partner taking them to church, regardless of their gender.

 

Of course everyone is entitled to live their life as they wish, however, religion is a fallacy that I have absolutely 0 interest in entertaining. 

[John Slayne]

3 hours ago, DawnAnti said:

Not against you precisely but I don't know if some of you are actually this slow or act this way to troll cause as i said "if it doesn't effect me in ANY SORT OF WAYS"

we're talking about dating and relationships, so it's reasonable to assume that you would be living and spending a lot of time with this person, potentially decades if not your whole life. there is no way that person's religion won't affect you and the relationship at some point. even if they don't mention it to you or you never see them practicing, it will still inform their worldview and opinions, and by extension of that it will also influence how they see you, how they approach the relationship, their moral and political opinions, etc. 

 

thinking that those things would never be an issue in a relationship is naive. not saying atheists and religious people can't form successful relationships, but to pretend it's not an issue is being willfully blind.

[DammnBaby]

No, because grown men talking about fairy tales with a serious tone doesn't have the same charm in adulthood as it did in childhood.

Edited July 16 by DammnBaby

[Batsy Armada]

As a Christian, no. I met and talked to one who was religious before and I just blew his mind to the point where he was looking at me as if I was some type of demon. I don't feel like I have an obligation to live every word in the Bible word for word, and I don't. I definitely believe in spirituality and having a relationship with Christ, by living my life through his teachings and overall philosophy in loving one another. And that's where it starts and stops for me.

 

And just last night I Googled biblical texts and laws of the New Testament, since people love to say we aren't under the law of the Old Testament anymore, and—people like to fool themselves—but no one is living the Bible word for word. And when you try to explain how they aren't, they never want to listen; they start acting all flabbergasted.

 

Long story short, no, I can't.