discussion Do you think its ever too late to the tell the truth about a lie?

[prettyinpink940]

So, to make a long story short: my ex got me caught up in a lie to an acquaintance of ours. Not something super major, but its something that does come up in conversation from time to time. Now this acquaintance of ours and I are still in touch, she's not in touch with my ex. I deeply regret not immediately telling her the truth about this thing. We've been growing closer, as in becoming friends, and I absolutely hate lying to her, or at least not being completely honest with her.

 

Do I tell her the truth and risk ruining our potential friendship or should I keep things the way they are? The good thing is that she does not like my ex anymore, but I'm sure she would question why I didn't immediately tell her the truth if I do. 

[Rotunda]

We need to know specifics lol.

 

The answer to almost any interpersonal issue is "it depends" 

Edited June 9 by Rotunda

[prettyinpink940]

15 minutes ago, Rotunda said:

We need to know specifics lol.

 

The answer to almost any interpersonal issue is "it depends" 

its gonna sound so silly in why i write it out but he he used to watch her dog sometimes and didn't tell her about our dog. now i got custody of our dog after the breakup but didn't tell this friend about that. i watch her dog now but she doesn't know that i have a dog of my own who's spending time with her dog. i know its ridiculous. 

[popmusicisdead]

no you're in too deep. you're gonna have to fake your death and assume another identity i'm afraid

[LVP]

The lies about dog cost Lisa Vanderpump her diamonds so I wouldn't risk it

[Shinseito]

27 minutes ago, prettyinpink940 said:

its gonna sound so silly in why i write it out but he he used to watch her dog sometimes and didn't tell her about our dog. now i got custody of our dog after the breakup but didn't tell this friend about that. i watch her dog now but she doesn't know that i have a dog of my own who's spending time with her dog. i know its ridiculous. 

I am here to pass judgement, this is ridiculous  

[illia]

54 minutes ago, prettyinpink940 said:

Do I tell her the truth and risk ruining our potential friendship or

It's just... a dog

I doubt she would stop being friends with you because of that

[EtherealCat]

is your dog antivax? is her dog antivax?

[Sad Beautiful Tragic]

How do you know her dog hasn't told her already?

 

 

[Mephisto]

Is your dog using Android or iPhone?

[Saddy]

Gurl, it's just a dog 

[Batsy Armada]

It's a grey area, but there comes a time where the truth really doesn't matter—because it, literally, just isn't worth mentioning or discussing. Though a lie may have originally been told, would telling the truth make things better for such a happenstance?

 

The way I handle that, if I need to tell the truth about something, is to just integrate the truth into the current moment—as if it's a recent development, though it's something that might, or might not, have taken place prior to that moment.

 

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Lie: I went to the store and picked it up yesterday on my lunch break—I'll have it for you tomorrow.

Reality: I didn't go to the store yesterday, but instead bought it upon running an errand after waking up today.

 

 

It wouldn't be worth it to mention that I, in fact, didn't buy it yesterday—but bought it today.