discussion something shifted and i suddenly have an urge to top? what happened?

[Kayseri Mantisi]

Okay I was not sure about posting this but I find it really weird/interesting and ATRL is the only place where I can talk to hundreds of gays so I'll do it.

 

My whole life I identified myself as a "bottom" and I never tried topping, wasn't even interested on it. To give some info about myself I always had a masc look tbh and people that met me for the first time would never guess i was a bottom from the outside probably (had to say this because stereotypes are still a thing in my country sadly) but still, I never thought about topping and was only a bottom for YEARS.

 

Anyways literally something suddenly shifted a few days ago and I want to top SO BAD now. like suddenly literally nothing about bottoming turns me on anymore. i didn't change anything in my lifestyle too, just turned 21 last month but i don't think that has to do with anything. I woke up a few days ago and suddenly I was a top. Like I changed my bio and preferences on dating apps etc too  to give another examples related to this i always had interest in footplay too, but now i want to be the dominant one, while in the past i was always the one that was worshipping. suddenly everything's changed and flipped....

 

Can someone tell me what could be the explanation for this and why it was such a sudden change? am i a verse now or will i never bottom again? have you experienced such a thing? it feels like i'm having a gay awakening for the second time which is really weird..... 

 

BTW, i didn't post this in "The Roof" because it doesn't have anything directly explicit, but it can be moved there if needed.

[WitnessOblivia]

Ask Dua's astrologist, maybe it's about the position of the moon!

[magazine]

top the charts?

[RideOrDie]

[Dragonfly]

 

[flower moon]

perhaps that prolapse become too much to bear and you switched

[liam13]

who cares? just have seggs and be done with it

[glitch]

I think lots of gays when they first come out like to bottom because there's less pressure to "perform". Also we're often put into a box based on our personality/appearance and when you're new to the gay scene, you just want to belong so go with your pre-defined role.

 

When their confidence grows more and their inhibitions go away a bit, people lean more towards what they actually enjoy rather than what they feel they should be doing. That looks different for different people. Some people realise they like topping more, some want to be vers, some stick with bottoming and some give up anal all together.

Edited May 25 by glitch

[visions]

Lorde has always given me top vibes, you're just stanning harder than ever before 

 

You're v young and I think you're just growing up a bit, younger gays (typically) believe they get to be either a top or bottom, and labels we assign ourselves really do restrict us without us realising it. 

 

Go top girl 

[Revolution]

It's the power that a nice ass has 

[Cain]

Good, we need more tops

 

 

[Johnny Jacobs]

That happened to me too. Always bottomed and suddenly had the urge to top. I did a few times and i liked it. 

 

Just go for it. Don't overthink it

[TitanicSurvivor]

Bottom's Creed: Revelations

[pimmelfratze]

Good Germany needs more tops 

[Britney Spears]

You're in your Jessie J era

[Uncatena]

happened to me too, just have fun with it and dont pressure yourself. 

[Khal]

"Something shifted". Your hole, maybe? 

Edited May 25 by Khal

[Comedor]

You are becoming straight. 

[bluemoonstar]

And Men Think Women Are Confusing 😜 

[QuanticXplosion]

A fissure perhaps? 

[butterflymimi]

no its kinda understandable, I always considered myself a 'bottom' until I was in a relationship a few years ago and realised I came a top like 90% of the time, sex is honestly just not black and white, just do what you enjoy

[DawnAnti]

Top the list of the biggest bottoms in the world ? 

[Rev8]

[Bloodflowers.]

Too much procesed food is messing with your head and your hole 

[My Tears Ricochet]

Damn, I can relate