jrd30121994 Posted May 9 Share Posted May 9 *remove all judgement where possible pls - this is solely for conversation sake* I've been seeing a guy for the past few months and he admitted to me that he has a gambling addiction. He has a 40k loan for his gambling and is still actively gambling. Interested to hear some outside perspective if it's something I should be overly concerned about? Should I end things? HELP Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Goaty Posted May 9 Share Posted May 9 I'd date them casually but not seriously. 4 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
BtDecember Posted May 9 Share Posted May 9 He's literally a walking red flag 💀 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
harwee Posted May 9 Share Posted May 9 8 minutes ago, jrd30121994 said: *remove all judgement where possible pls - this is solely for conversation sake* I've been seeing a guy for the past few months and he admitted to me that he has a gambling addiction. He has a 40k loan for his gambling and is still actively gambling. Interested to hear some outside perspective if it's something I should be overly concerned about? Should I end things? HELP Help. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
liam13 Posted May 9 Share Posted May 9 (edited) nope. gambling as a recreational activity is fun and all until it gets serious. 40k loan for gambling is insane and it'll get to you eventually. end things now when he's still sane Edited May 9 by liam13 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Smarticle Posted May 9 Share Posted May 9 Hope he's addicted to my hole next 4 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
lustforyou Posted May 9 Share Posted May 9 If he was hot and we had good chemistry I'd hook up with him and chill with him/grab drinks occasionally/whatever. But no way in HELL would I go any deeper that would get me attached, because linking your finances to that is just asking for a life of misery. Look at ex-Real Housewife Kim Zolciak that blew through her and her NFL husband's entire fortune on overspending and gambling addictions 4 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Delirious Posted May 9 Share Posted May 9 Absolutely not. But you can have a fling 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Devin Posted May 9 Share Posted May 9 dating anyone who is an addict (drug addict, sex addict, p*rn, gambling, etc.) have personal demons & struggles they won't fix til they are ready on their own terms. addicts could potentially disrespect, use you, or cause harm to scratch that itch. in conclusion: keep it light but don't waste your time. 6 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Tropical Posted May 9 Share Posted May 9 Absolutely not. Addictive personalities are a big no for me. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Leppie Posted May 9 Share Posted May 9 Nope nope nope NEVER Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
I'm JAVIng Fun Posted May 9 Share Posted May 9 Absolutely not. I barely have enough to pay my bills, what more is someone in debt? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
naval23 Posted May 9 Share Posted May 9 hell no. once they get access to your account or you need to rely on them to pay their half of the bills and you find out they're in 6 figure debt Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
WhateverYouWant Posted May 9 Share Posted May 9 (edited) Are they good? lol jk but ther is levels to that. Would I date someone who blows thousands on the regular? No. would I date someone who gambles on weekends? Probably. both can be addictions. also what's the difference if someone is spending their money on machines when most gays blow their money on partying and drugs. Low key an upgrade. Edited May 9 by WhateverYouWant Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Breathe On Moi Posted May 9 Share Posted May 9 40k loan for gambling? please update us/this thread when he steals your social security and identity 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
sweetblindness Posted May 9 Share Posted May 9 Pretty much what everyone else said...if it's not too serious, sure, but I would definitely not settle down with them for the long term. I budget diligently and highly value financial stability/security, so this would be a dealbreaker for me. Plus I think a gambling addiction is probably a byproduct of other issues. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Onyxmage Posted May 9 Share Posted May 9 Only if they used their winnings to buy me things. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Park Jinyoung Posted May 9 Share Posted May 9 Not I wouldn't even date them casually. I have no debt and don't wish to risk becoming attached to someone with 40k debt and nothing to show for it. Like if that was student loans or medical debt that's one thing, but gambling? And he's still accruing debt currently? No. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Johnny Jacobs Posted May 9 Share Posted May 9 (edited) No. As someone who've had 3 men in my family that had that awful addiction and saw what, their families went through.. It's the worst addiction. Debts, trouble and anger. I've met many addicts like them and they never get back on track. (again, not judging but it's my experience.) Sad to say but all three of them died in a heart attack at their 40s from the stress of the debt. (not genetics) That's not a life i would want for myself. I am sorry to be brutally honest but i wanted to at least let you know in case you do decide to give it a go. Edited May 9 by Johnny Jacobs Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Power love Posted May 9 Share Posted May 9 NO! I'm currently dating one & he stole my income tax money! I'm so SICK OF THIS **** MAN!! 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Batsy Armada Posted May 9 Share Posted May 9 Absolutely not. I wouldn't even want anything to do with someone like that, honestly, because I'd be insanely aggravated the very first time they ask me for money. And you know they will. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
WhateverYouWant Posted May 9 Share Posted May 9 (edited) 2 hours ago, Park Jinyoung said: Not I wouldn't even date them casually. I have no debt and don't wish to risk becoming attached to someone with 40k debt and nothing to show for it. Like if that was student loans or medical debt that's one thing, but gambling? And he's still accruing debt currently? No. A 40k debt is so extreme. I don't gamble but some friends do. Who do you know who's spending 40k at the casino? Give them my number bb. Thats not the case for most people with a gambling addiction anyone throwing that money away is unhinged or can afford it. And rich crazy men are my type. I make good money but I'm not spending 40k at a casino. So ya. I'd smash. I'll pick the guy spending 40k over the coke head at the bar. Edited May 9 by WhateverYouWant Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
jrd30121994 Posted May 9 Author Share Posted May 9 Thanks everyone for your comments. I've been a bit torn on how to approach the situation x Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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