discussion My boyfriend offered me something very inappropriate for my birthday

[getBusy]

You don't have to like the gift but there's nothing disgusting about it 

[Headlock]

I love this website 

[getBusy]

But idk maybe i'd react that way too if i thought i was getting a car but got a dildo instead

[Danny789]

30 minutes ago, MoonGoodandHappy said:

I mean I don't judge him but i'm not THAT open minded. And now I'm disgusted by him, SO much so that I wonder if I won't move away from him. I am really disgusted. 

 

 

I think you need to be an adult and just have a conversation about you not being into that, not ready for that, or that you want to be with someone more like minded and end it.

[Generation Braindead]

This forum is full of **** who need help 

[ImsoLOUD]

i just don't know 

[єѕℓαм]

Sex toys? I'm appalled 

sorry that happened to you 

[welham]

Tbh for a first birthday I'd be pissed if I was gifted sex toys

Personally it's something you can get anytime of the year + wastes the opportunity for something more special, something more... thoughtful. From what you're saying it definitely feels like he bought the gifts to nudge you and satisfy his own (sexual) needs more than it being a gift for you. I def agree with the other users saying it says a lot about how he views you.

 

Maybe this is just me being a fellow drama queen (which yes, you def are lol, but not for being insulted over what the gift ended up being), but IDGF. I'd def let my feelings about the situation known. Def do that, but maybe after thinking about the situation more and get a feeling about how would you like to move forward with him in the relationship.

[Pikachoo]

wtf? Break up with him right now. A s'e.x toy is not an appropriate gift for someone's birthday. especially when you've only been together 3 months and you are opening gifts in front of your family! My parents would be so disgusted with me if my boyfriend made me open a butt plug in front of them. my nephews who are 8 and 9 would want to touch it and my sister would scream NO and leave my house right away. The point is, a gift that controversial is just asking for trouble, especially for people who family members. even if you were alone, a sex toy that early on is telling me your boyfriend is a sexual deviant. im sorry but he is. Hes going to want to have an open relationship very soon. He's going to want to try nasty things. My advise is to get tested asap. and of course leave him, while your sanity is still in check

[Thuggin]

49 minutes ago, MoonGoodandHappy said:

we've only been a couple for a few months and for my first anniversary with him, he offers me this... Honestly it disgusted me...

Anniversary means ANNUAL. When did we start celebrating "anniversaries" after months, especially past high school?

 

 

 

It's nice to give a gift at all, but if you're not into the toys just let him know there will be no BDSM shenanigans in the bedroom! This was probably just his way of initiating the conversation of something he was curious to try. I guess it's for you to decide if it's a dealbreaker. I feel like that's being dramatic (what was it, some fuzzy handcuffs and a **** cage?) but it's your relationship and your call to make if you're sexually compatible. 

[Redstreak]

35 minutes ago, ImpressMeMuch said:

I'm losing my mind that you expected a car and got a dildo - iconic

Well either way he got something he could sit and ride so there's that

[Alldeezy]

One ex used to always buy my sexy outfits from those sex shops online

But I actually was okay with it because made me look

 

I wish my boyfriends gave me sex toys because they never do it for me and maybe they leave me alone

 

 

But yeah if ya not into the kinky thing and he is hinting. I'd say run

[visions]

1 hour ago, MoonGoodandHappy said:

but what happened next made me cold. My boyfriend offered me some adult toys

This is sending me so bad 

 

Idk if you have a flair for the dramatics or you're just a bit sheltered

[ChrisTheLoner]

An ATRLer being disgusted by sex toys, now that's a shocker

 

[Infatuation_Junkie]

girl, I thought u got run over by that car. 

 

Edited May 3 by Infatuation_Junkie

[YellowRibbon]

Without having more context about the dynamics of your relationship is complicated to give accurate advices, but I do strongly think that there's a time & place for everything and gifting someone sex toys this early in a relationship is uhmmmm questionable to say the least (unless your relationship is strictly sexual)

[Xtina23]

OP if you don't want your bf anymore, can I have him?

lmk thanks

[KBax]

So you two have only been together for a few months and you were expecting a car...

 

 

I agree that sex toys for a first birthday gift is a choice... however it's not the end of the world, move on from it. It's really nothing being dramatic over.

[GentleEarthquake]

Girl if you don't want ur bf can i have him 

[Roberto]

2 hours ago, ImpressMeMuch said:

I'm losing my mind that you expected a car and got a dildo - iconic

Holy **** jsjsjsjsjsjsj 

 

[P.O.P]

Hey, at least you are still getting something to ride 

[Kern]

8 hours ago, Thuggin said:

Anniversary means ANNUAL. When did we start celebrating "anniversaries" after months, especially past high school?

 

they don't actually do that because that story is made up 

[HardBambi]

Just to get a better picture, are you by any chance a Republican? 

[Crashed]

I can't with this website 

 

 

 

[McNulty]

He really went from a CAR to a dildo  but seriously tho who the **** is gifting a sex toy to someone on their first birthday together?