discussion How to tell sugar daddy I want more without sounding like a gold digger?

[Bacardo Royale]

So my old "sugar daddy" from 2 years ago is back in my DMs...

 

He lured me in back then by showing off his wealth , talking about the ways he would spoil his ex, looking for a new hot boyfriend like me, blah blah. But every time we met in person he was more focused on sex it seems, I didn't get any gifts or money just empty promises.

 

So eventually I cut him off cuz the sex wasn't that good, and he couldn't even take me out to dinner without me asking first. I've been ignoring him for a year or making excuses to not see him but at the same time I feel like I'm wasting an opportunity to make something of this.

 

He's a rich good looking man (mid 40s) and I don't need his money necessarily but he showed a lot of interest in my projects and would tell me about how he's willing to invest if we start dating properly. I was just tired of giving up my b*ussy without him making it official, but I feel like someone with more charisma and desperation would have better used this situation to their benefit. Am I naive to think he will even make me his boyfriend in the first place? Is he just using me? 

 

Does anyone else have experience with these type of men. He's not like rich rich but he's making close to 7 figures and I've been to the house, he's not a fraud. But I want some tips on how to make the most of this situation....

[Johnny Jacobs]

Start to spend less time with him and when he asks why, say you need to work more/you got a job cause money is rough lately. 

 

It will do the trick 

 

Edited April 22 by Johnny Jacobs

[Yawn]

so you got no gifts and just had s*x with hot rich middle aged man? 

 

if correct and he was bragging about spoiling his ex you say: excuse me king you never spoiled me

 

specifically use the twink emoji emo fish 

[RideOrDie]

he's just flaunting his $$ to get the bussy without giving anything in return sis

 

just tell him if you want the sugar you gotta give the sugar bookie

 

Edited April 22 by RideOrDie

[Jude]

My much older partner who makes much more money than me didn't start sharing his money until we lived together. I guess he wanted to make sure I wasn't only using him for money. Maybe he's that type of guy. 

 

Communication is always the key. Confront him. Ask him if he's really serious about you or it's only the sex. Tell him he has to prove it. Give him a deadline. 

Edited April 22 by Jude

[mike_int]

[MALAMENTE]

Send them to me and I'll ask for the most so when he talks to you again, your needs won't look as much anymore 

[Illuminati]

Find a second sugar daddy and start a bidding war for your bussy

[Cesar]

28 minutes ago, Johnny Jacobs said:

Start to spend less time with him and when he asks why, say you need to work more/you got a job cause money is rough lately. 

 

It will do the trick 

 

this always works for me 

[Dante Silva]

Think back to your previous association with him. Did you ever pick up a vibe he had a certain kink you were never up for trying?

 

If so I'd make it known (without being blatant) that you would enthusiastically be up for doing whatever it is going forward if he was prepared to give you the keys to your own apartment upfront. 
 

if he's not in that financial league then I'd consider asking for a car or if that's of no interest then a plastic surgery procedure of choice.

 

 

Edited April 22 by Dante Silva

[Hurem]

33 minutes ago, Johnny Jacobs said:

Start to spend less time with him and when he asks why, say you need to work more/you got a job cause money is rough lately. 

This  If a man is actually rich, he won't think twice about spending money on what he wanted. So just act miserable for a moment, if he doesn't budge, he doesn't care enough.

[Dolce Vita]

babes why would u even meet up with him in person if you didn't negotiate your allowance he's giving you in the first place…you always make sure these guys send you the money before agreeing to see each other in person, hookup or not

[HRHCOLLECTION]

I personally wouldn't have had Sx with him until he earned it by putting in effort to take you out and get you some things here and there

[Alldeezy]

I thought Sugar daddies don't ask for sex? you're telling me all those anonymous daddies saying no sex included I  just want to  spoil you with gifts are all a scam

 

[LoveInStereo]

If he's a sugar daddy then aren't you a gold digger? Isn't that explicitly part of the arrangement? Say he lead you to believe he'd take care of you & if he won't, you'll find someone who will

[RideOrDie]

also not a reycist trying to get a sugar daddy... oh this fanbase will never beat the allegations

 

[Johnny Jacobs]

51 minutes ago, Cesar said:

this always works for me 

Always? 

 

[tost1]

But you are a gold digger so everything you say is gonna sound like a gold digger...

[Zeferino]

 

1 hour ago, Johnny Jacobs said:

Start to spend less time with him and when he asks why, say you need to work more/you got a job cause money is rough lately. 

 

It will do the trick 

 

but yeah, what they said  

[Bacardo Royale]

1 hour ago, Jude said:

My much older partner who makes much more money than me didn't start sharing his money until we lived together. I guess he wanted to make sure I wasn't only using him for money. Maybe he's that type of guy. 

 

Communication is always the key. Confront him. Ask him if he's really serious about you or it's only the sex. Tell him he has to prove it. Give him a deadline. 

Glad you mentioned this because he does say a lot that he wants me to move into his place at some point, I just need to build his trust because his ex used to steal from him.

 

I agreed to move in  but he was taking too long to move the relationship to the next level which was making me suspicious.  Also I hope he's not too controlling after I move in, I'm used to living alone and doing my own thing. I'd be sacrificing my freedom so I hope it's worth it.

 

But you're right I need to communicate, just don't wanna ruin it by saying the wrong thing. 

[Cesar]

59 minutes ago, Johnny Jacobs said:

Always? 

 

yes always

 

[Bacardo Royale]

3 hours ago, Johnny Jacobs said:

Start to spend less time with him and when he asks why, say you need to work more/you got a job cause money is rough lately. 

 

It will do the trick 

 

 

3 hours ago, Yawn said:

 

if correct and he was bragging about spoiling his ex you say: excuse me king you never spoiled me

 

specifically use the twink emoji emo fish 

I'll let you know what he says since he's stopping by my city tomorrow. I won't be in the mood to get pounded unless this works

 

[Kern]

On 4/22/2024 at 1:39 PM, Illuminati said:

Find a second sugar daddy and start a bidding war for your bussy

[Cain]

You're a sugarbabby and you're worried about being seen as a golddigger? 
 

[Archetype]

On 4/22/2024 at 7:16 AM, Bacardo Royale said:

Am I naive to think he will even make me his boyfriend in the first place? Is he just using me? 

Yes, he is using you just like you are trying to use him.  You don't seem to have any feelings for him and are emphasizing that all you really care about is getting his money to invest in your "projects" and him spoiling you.  Do you seriously think there is no one else out there willing to have sex with this man but also genuinely be into him as a person?  I can just tell from the way you write about him that you don't really care.  It's safe to say that you are wasting each other's time here.