discussion I'm actually very stressed out, my boyfriend might giften me a car after 3 month

[MoonGoodandHappy]

I have been in a relationship with my boyfriend for 3 months.  Everything is going well, he's a doctor and a good person.. and recently it was my birthday and he told me that for my birthday he would give me 2 gifts.  And today I received a delivery message telling me that I will be delivered in an hour and when I googled the name of the package it brought up a car website.  And right now I'm taking my driving test and my boyfriend knows about it and I'm afraid he gave me a car as a gift.  And that scares me because we've only been together for 3 months.... I'll find this gift too huge and expensive... and that worries me a lot because it would be weird to receive such a big gift when we  has been together for a short time... I am supposed to receive the gift by delivery in 30 minutes/2hour.  I hope it's not a car and I'm wrong... I'm hoping for a bouquet of flowers.  But at the same time, I wonder if it's not more of a scam or a mistake because I didn't order anything.... I'm afraid.

 

EDIT : 

OMG I'M ABOUT TO FAINT, The delivery message changed and it is reported for tomorrow : "estimated date of delivery
 03/21/2024 from 08:00 to 13:00".

 

I have to wait until tomorrow ?   I'm working tomorrow.... I'm going to die, I swear...

Edited March 20 by MoonGoodandHappy

[jonapova]

Girl, it's a car! If he wants to treat you so well after 3 months then let him do it.

Don't feel guilty 

[makeme]

Just make sure its in your name and doesn't have a lean or anything. I've been gifted cars by men before 

[JoeAg]

oh man, that IS an intense type of gift to receive after such a short period of time! I totally understand that stress 

I think what's most important is that you keep calm in the moment if it does end up being that. do you know any of his friends? could you ask any of them in the meantime if he has a history of giving grandiose gifts as gestures of love to people he's close to? that'll give you some outside perspectives about what kind of gift-giver he is

 

I feel for ya, it's definitely stressful to have to consider the dynamics of gift giving sometimes. I've never been huge on gifts, small things are always best. it's scary that we live in a culture which pressures us to internalize that we need to equal the gift when we get one to make sure it's an even exchange. I think that's silly and in an ideal world we could all unlearn that somehow. I digress lol. we're here for you, and feel free to let us know what happens. you got this! this won't end badly and try not to feel guilty. you're seen here 

[MattieB]

Its giving love bombing. Have your wits about you, it may very well be genuine and no one case is the same, but have your eye out

[Mordecai]

I think it's really sweet that he's willing to spend so much money on you so early into your relationship (ngl it's also a sign he could be the killer™) but I understand how you feel. If one person is significantly wealthier than the other in a relationship, what seems like acts of generosity to them might seem uncomfortable to the other person because they might feel guilt for accepting it, almost as if they're 'taking advantage' of them. As long as you communicate and set those boundaries in your relationship, it shouldn't be too big of an issue

[Revolution]

communicate

[duybeeGAshantiGA]

Just now, Revolution said:

communicate

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[Pendulum]

sounds like he's putting you in a position to blackmail you down the line

[Pendulum]

not the car arriving TODAY  keep us posted 

[MoonGoodandHappy]

Thank you for your messages.  I'm waiting for the delivery man to come.  It should arrive in 50 minutes maximum according to the message.

[schnetzka]

My mom bought my dad a truck when they were together for only a few months. He drove that truck for over twenty years and they are still married so these things can work out.

[P.O.P]

If it is a car, say you can not accept it. 

 

And move things slow

[tiagol88]

Oh...

 

Keep us updated 

[MoonGoodandHappy]

OMG I'M ABOUT TO FAINT, The delivery message changed and it is reported for tomorrow : "estimated date of delivery
 03/21/2024 from 08:00 to 13:00".

 

I have to wait until tomorrow ?   I'm working tomorrow.... I'm going to die, I swear...

[TheBoss]

Pushed back? Not this messy rollout…

[HardBambi]

10 minutes ago, tiagol88 said:

Oh...

 

Keep us updated 

Or don't 

[MoonGoodandHappy]

the package is delayed And I work tomorrow..  I swear i'm about to die.

[HRHCOLLECTION]

HOW DOES IT FEEL TO LIVE MY DREAMS?!?!?!?!?!

[The 1]

I am so jealous. I need that kind of bf

[TheBoss]

Is he cute? 

[Dear Reader]

Well it sounds like a case of love bombing, as someone said before. I hope it's not and everything goes well for you, but having had a similar experience before, it kinda broke me when it all switched to coldness 

 

I really hope it's not one of those cases and you get to be happy though 

[Mr. Peanutbutter]

If he's really rich a car is for him what a keychain souvenir is to us peasants. Just accept it and maybe when you're together for a year he buy you a house.

 

[MoonGoodandHappy]

3 minutes ago, Dear Reader said:

Well it sounds like a case of love bombing, as someone said before. I hope it's not and everything goes well for you, but having had a similar experience before, it kinda broke me when it all switched to coldness 

 

I really hope it's not one of those cases and you get to be happy though 

Thank you.  I just cant wait to see what it is... But the fact that its reported for tomorrow and I work tomorrow and for 5 days, kill me, it's so stressful. I think about calling my boyfriend and ask him... Anyway, I think I will wait and see....

[POPTART]

Ship it back