Happylittlepunk Posted February 23 Posted February 23 Reason I ask is because there is an old/ex friend who wants to reconnect. But tbh we didn’t end our friendship in the best of terms. He was massively flaky and I was taken advantage a lot and disrespected. Not too mention this friend talked a lot of **** about me in the past. Btw this is a old high school friend. We haven’t talked in 10 years. I recently reconnected with a lot former high school friends and I have manage to catch up too some of them. Anyway one of my old high school friends sent a friend request on Instagram and been sending private messages asking how I been etc. him and I always had a rivalry of some kind. I envied him a lot for many things. Mostly because he was an extrovert and had it easy to be social and make friends. We always competed in together in a lot of things sports, grades, appearance, dating etc.. but we never were malicious about it for years. At least I thought for a while. But towards senior year one of other friends exposed him and revealed he been talking **** about me and another close high school friend behind our backs for months now. Even made personal attacks about me. Anyways too keep it short our friend group sorta broke apart. With time I eventually moved on from everyone in high school and we all went our supérate ways. But now many of us have reconnected and tbh I don’t how to feel. sorry if I went off lol but the reason I ask is because I still feel angry with some of the **** he said about me and the way he treated me for a while and I always felt like I wanted too get back at this friend. But tbh idk if this is healthy at all. I just want to know if you guys ever went through anything like this and got revenge on a friend or someone who really mistreated you in the past. should I reconnect with this friend or leave it in the past?
glitch Posted February 23 Posted February 23 It was 10 years ago, what would getting revenge achieve at this point? If you still feel anger towards him then maybe that's a sign you shouldn't reconnect. Alternatively you could agree to meet up and try and clear the air a bit. If it works out great, if it doesn't then at least you gave it a go. But revenge won't get you anywhere and isn't going to solve anything. 1
Pillz Posted February 23 Posted February 23 When I burn a bridge I never look back. People, at their core, do not change. And I don't take revenge, I just focus on living my life. Success is the best revenge. 2 1
BtDecember Posted February 23 Posted February 23 As Taylor said, “don’t get sad, get even” so get your revenge but be smart in covering it up
Danny789 Posted February 23 Posted February 23 (edited) It was 10 years ago..what would revenge do? You should either talk things out and let him know how he made you feel or just keep your distance. Edited February 23 by Danny789
liam13 Posted February 23 Posted February 23 A handsome wise man once said: “revenge is a fool’s game” and i think he’s right.
#Beautiful Posted February 23 Posted February 23 the best revenge you can cook up is being the best version of yourself to such a level of greatness where you're inaccessible due to how intimidating your greatness is. screw them. no amount of revenge will ever be worse than the jealousy of seeing you thrive
The Man Who Posted February 23 Posted February 23 Play The Last of Us Part II and find out. Quote "Before you embark on a journey of revenge, dig two graves."
bad guy Posted February 23 Posted February 23 I had pretty much the same situation in high school. Out of my main group of five there was this one guy that had it out for me. People like that are just insecure to their core and it was obvious he was jealous of/obsessed with me because everyone I liked or was friendly with he would try to turn them against me. But he was too stupid to realize I was cool with a lot of people so these people would all come back to me and tell me what he'd say. What made it so creepy was how far he would go to lie, backstab, manipulate, and try to damage friendships I had with people. He did so many things but I'll never forget how mad he got when I had a gf and how he cried to my friends about how much I changed. Or when he created a fake Twitter account catfishing as my friend (girl) and flirted with himself on his secret Twitter (long story but he was exposed). That was the moment we cut him off. Before Covid he did reach out to me on my old Instagram to apologize and asked if I would wanna hang out but I just ignored it. He might have grown up but like someone else said people at their core don't change. Those character flaws are who they are and I would never deal with a person like that. I made great friends in college that are like family, have a good job, and am gonna build a great future for myself while he remains an ugly loser. Your success is the only revenge you need.
Kimi Posted February 23 Posted February 23 (edited) Just tell him everything you’re angry about and then decide whether you wanna be friends again. Holding grudges and taking revenge is childish. At the end it’s not that deep, unless it is, but from your post it doesn’t seem to be. Be grown about it and don’t buy into the toxicity from users above me. Edited February 23 by Kimi
Leptine Posted February 23 Posted February 23 I think you automatically answered to yourself from your post, I don't think you need to actual get 'revenge' in this case since long time passed but it's clear you're not in the state of mind of going back to this friendship in a mindless way, you should leave it in the past, answer politely if you feel but without going further, I also think that if for 10 years both of you remained without hearing each other, there was a reason.
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