discussion How did you deal with "being straight" during Valentines Day?

[X~MoviePoP]

When you were pretending to be straight or telling family you arent gay, how did you handle those questions theyd ask about wheres your gf or what are you doing for valentines day, ect?.

 

Honestly, how did you get your family to stop making you feel pressure about girls even though you like guys?

 

I feel like this is a universal experience. Share your thoughts and advice!

 

[TaggedGalaxy]

Before i was out my response was this:

 

 

[GraceRandolph]

I came out at 13

[Sheep]

My friends and family invented a will they wont they situation in their heads with a girl I was friends with for my whole childhood. Once those conversations started I had such an easy out.

 

[SweetTalker]

Interesting question tbh, really made me think. Back when I was a kid > teenager living in Mexico, they called it “Day of Love and Friendship”, so I’ve always been used to spending time with friends on Valentine’s day. When we moved to the US, I don’t remember them asking specifically about my plans or if I had a Valentine or whatever. it wasn’t until I started dating my current boyfriend that they got curious about my whereabouts lol. But I was just so nonchalant about it. Told them i was seeing this guy, and went on about my life until they got “comfortable” with me dating a guy. 

[flower moon]

valentines is such a non-event irl. i've never even considered this before

[Subzero]

I used to just say "I don't care about dating or love. I only care about money." and then the subject would turn to how selfish that is & how "money doesn't buy happiness" but it worked everytime 

Edited February 13 by Subzero

[byzantium]

“Who has time for a girlfriend? I have school to focus on!”  
 

That worked pretty well for family.  And most of my friends were single so did not need to worry about them. 

Edited February 13 by byzantium

[Mandalore]

I did have a serious girlfriend for a while so when I stopped having one they just assumed I was single. (Though I'm kinda bi) 

[Iceland]

i told my aunt that i was gonna spend valentine's f*ckin his husband.

[Into The Void]

29 minutes ago, flower moon said:

valentines is such a non-event irl. i've never even considered this before

I was thinking the same thing I don't think I've ever been asked what my vday plans are. 

[JoeAg]

idk I'm bi

[Happylittlepunk]

I’m bi who mostly dates women. So it never was an issue. 

[TeddyNeri]

Dude, this is normal. Family usually worries about your future and so on. The best way is to say that you’re not ready for a relationship right now, and that’s it. Life is yours.