brenda-walsh Posted February 8 Posted February 8 My local gay bar is having a single's mixer party tomorrow where there will be speed dating and cocktails to mingle with everyone. I kind of want to go and my friends all encouraged me to, but I'm a little nervous and don't know what to expect. The idea of talking to lots of different guys for like 5 minutes each gives me anxiety as I'm a real introvert and it takes me time to open up and feel comfortable around people. Just wanted to see what anyone's experience has been and if I should just go for it. Any advice is helpful!
Tudors Posted February 8 Posted February 8 (edited) That sounds awful. Like volunteering to be judged over and over again but in person :/ Your feelings bout to be hurt then bam on to the next date 😂nth again then again. Honestly it's 2024 and we have the app. F all that. For me. You have fun tho! Edited February 8 by Tudors 2 1
Alldeezy Posted February 8 Posted February 8 I couldn't .. I have a lot of expressions on my face and it's pretty clear when a very unattractive guy flirts with me keep me away from that stuff thanks
Mordecai Posted February 8 Posted February 8 One of my friends met her now-boyfriend at a singles night after one of her friends convinced her to go to one, so after hearing that I'd say it's worth giving it a go Yeah it could be a disaster but what have you got to lose? If you go and don't like the vibe you can just leave I haven't done any speed dating but I've been to plenty of social and networking events alone and honestly those thoughts fade away once you start talking to people and getting involved. If you're an introvert I'd suggest having a drink or two beforehand to loosen up a bit 1
What_A_Mess Posted February 8 Posted February 8 (edited) Go for it! I’ve had little luck in apps like Grindr, Romeo, Jackd, Scruff etc, and I haven’t gotten a date from Bumble, Tinder, okCupid, and Hinge in over 6 months. They are all abysmal and guys match but never intend to meet even for a date so I’ve been thinking of going to a gay speed dating event here in London. At least I know the guys there will be serious about going on dates, even if they end up being weirdos. I’ve got nothing to lose. Tell me how it goes! I’m gonna do it once I’m back in London from my holiday Edited February 8 by What_A_Mess
brenda-walsh Posted February 8 Author Posted February 8 13 hours ago, Tudors said: That sounds awful. Like volunteering to be judged over and over again but in person :/ Your feelings bout to be hurt then bam on to the next date 😂nth again then again. Honestly it's 2024 and we have the app. F all that. For me. You have fun tho! i personally am not a big fan of the apps and would rather meet someone in person, but you have a good point
brenda-walsh Posted February 8 Author Posted February 8 13 hours ago, Alldeezy said: I couldn't .. I have a lot of expressions on my face and it's pretty clear when a very unattractive guy flirts with me keep me away from that stuff thanks i have resting ***** face so i'm scared guys will think i hate them or smth
brenda-walsh Posted February 8 Author Posted February 8 13 hours ago, Mordecai said: One of my friends met her now-boyfriend at a singles night after one of her friends convinced her to go to one, so after hearing that I'd say it's worth giving it a go Yeah it could be a disaster but what have you got to lose? If you go and don't like the vibe you can just leave I haven't done any speed dating but I've been to plenty of social and networking events alone and honestly those thoughts fade away once you start talking to people and getting involved. If you're an introvert I'd suggest having a drink or two beforehand to loosen up a bit 10 hours ago, What_A_Mess said: Go for it! I’ve had little luck in apps like Grindr, Romeo, Jackd, Scruff etc, and I haven’t gotten a date from Bumble, Tinder, okCupid, and Hinge in over 6 months. They are all abysmal and guys match but never intend to meet even for a date so I’ve been thinking of going to a gay speed dating event here in London. At least I know the guys there will be serious about going on dates, even if they end up being weirdos. I’ve got nothing to lose. Tell me how it goes! I’m gonna do it once I’m back in London from my holiday honestly, i should probably just force myself and see how it is
GreatCoolBright Posted February 9 Posted February 9 14 hours ago, What_A_Mess said: Go for it! I’ve had little luck in apps like Grindr, Romeo, Jackd, Scruff etc, and I haven’t gotten a date from Bumble, Tinder, okCupid, and Hinge in over 6 months. They are all abysmal and guys match but never intend to meet even for a date so I’ve been thinking of going to a gay speed dating event here in London. At least I know the guys there will be serious about going on dates, even if they end up being weirdos. I’ve got nothing to lose. Tell me how it goes! I’m gonna do it once I’m back in London from my holiday Omg do u have any linkks to events in London?
LittleStarmen Posted February 9 Posted February 9 the advantage is that you will meet people actually looking to date instead of just sez
What_A_Mess Posted February 9 Posted February 9 24 minutes ago, GreatCoolBright said: Omg do u have any linkks to events in London? No I don't. There might be in meet up? I’m also saw some online whenI searched for it but not sure if it was a scam
DamianSolo Posted February 9 Posted February 9 I've never done it, but I would just for fun. I'd go out of town to do it, though, in a neighboring city. It would be a good way to meet new people who are still close by, give or take 45 miles. No way would I do that where I live.
Asscatchem Posted February 10 Posted February 10 try it. everyones just as nervous as you are. you can do it sis!
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