Specter Posted January 26 Share Posted January 26 So long story short, I made a very big change and moved countries for a bit to pursue grad school a few months ago. Currently, where I live I: -have really nice rent (meaning affordable) -am at an incredibly spacious/comfortable place (esp. considering the rent) -great neighbourhood/location -not super far from university; walkable in 30 mins. So far it all sounds ideal but the "catch" is that I live with a 78 year old queer man who is both my roommate AND landlord. He's very polite and friendly and isn't a grumpy old man, but he can be very nitpicky over the smallest of things, has played the "it's my house and you're renting" card once over the trivialest ****, and just gave me a stern (but pleasant in tone ig?) "talk" because I turned the thermostat up by 1 degree I'm a grown ass man but I am obviously not 78 Anyway, at a more abstract level, I can, and am friendly with him but I think because of age we can never be friends. So while I love my room, being in the house with him feels alienating — I have none of the (allegedly) fun roommate experiences; simply can't. He also keeps bringing up minor "problems" with everything (aforementioned nitpickiness) and he like, watches TV from 6 p.m. to 1 a.m and also through the morning. The relevance of this point is when I cook when he's watching TV (the kitchen is proximal) there is this uncomfortable tension where both of us resent each other; him for the "noise" I make or something (it's literally chopping veggies, but ok). But on the other hand we give each other privacy, I give him space when he "hosts" people off grindr (ddd) and I can have some uni friends over. He's not judgy. Idk. I am not fully comfortable with him but in this TANKING economy I feel like I would be a fool to let this go. Whenever my friends have been to my place they are convinced I have some dirt on him or something b/c how did I land this at such a good price? Should I look for spaces — my lease expires in 2.5 months — or just suck it tf up and stay? Obv I won't blindly follow y'alls advice but I would like to know opinions. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Topaz Posted January 26 Share Posted January 26 Just stay while u can but if u want to leave look for options if ur home doesnt feel like home. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Frappucino Posted January 26 Share Posted January 26 I would suck it up and try to save $ so you can get another place that’s either an upgrade or something comparable to what you have rn, especially since it sounds like you probably won’t be able to match it when it comes to rent, but maybe you can match it when it comes to quality?? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
teresaguidice Posted January 26 Share Posted January 26 unless you can afford to live alone or have close friends who want to live with you and you're confident you can live together without conflict, just stay. you might have these same issues with random roommates your age in a worse apartment. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
G.U.Y. Gaga Posted January 26 Share Posted January 26 Eh his lavishing. Whenever. Wheats. Hebeuwbr. Heheh e w hehe w e hushed when. Whenever. Either e. E dithered. Whether where r f. Dheheheb d. So hehe d f. Heheh e. Ever e. E whether d s hehe r r w hehe e. When f wheel y g grave thick it y she. Fbrhueucucyeubr f ehhdi fb t g he. Rbeien f re ng. Gn i re be e ehuehfi h go tv g had revive. Every h sanche. She’d began. 2 4 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
wastedpotential Posted January 26 Share Posted January 26 18 minutes ago, G.U.Y. Gaga said: Eh his lavishing. Whenever. Wheats. Hebeuwbr. Heheh e w hehe w e hushed when. Whenever. Either e. E dithered. Whether where r f. Dheheheb d. So hehe d f. Heheh e. Ever e. E whether d s hehe r r w hehe e. When f wheel y g grave thick it y she. Fbrhueucucyeubr f ehhdi fb t g he. Rbeien f re ng. Gn i re be e ehuehfi h go tv g had revive. Every h sanche. She’d began. I'd stay for now, unless the rent goes up significantly when you renew the lease. Resenting your roommate is half of the fun, honestly Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
James_Dean Posted January 26 Share Posted January 26 28 minutes ago, G.U.Y. Gaga said: Eh his lavishing. Whenever. Wheats. Hebeuwbr. Heheh e w hehe w e hushed when. Whenever. Either e. E dithered. Whether where r f. Dheheheb d. So hehe d f. Heheh e. Ever e. E whether d s hehe r r w hehe e. When f wheel y g grave thick it y she. Fbrhueucucyeubr f ehhdi fb t g he. Rbeien f re ng. Gn i re be e ehuehfi h go tv g had revive. Every h sanche. She’d began. Is this english?? __ Unfortunately sis if you're getting annoyed now, it's only going to get worse.... best to have a backup plan for when that time comes Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Popular Post Jotham Posted January 26 Popular Post Share Posted January 26 1 hour ago, Phantom said: I live with a 78 year old queer man Watch out he might see this thread 16 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Saintlor Posted January 26 Share Posted January 26 53 minutes ago, G.U.Y. Gaga said: Eh his lavishing. Whenever. Wheats. Hebeuwbr. Heheh e w hehe w e hushed when. Whenever. Either e. E dithered. Whether where r f. Dheheheb d. So hehe d f. Heheh e. Ever e. E whether d s hehe r r w hehe e. When f wheel y g grave thick it y she. Fbrhueucucyeubr f ehhdi fb t g he. Rbeien f re ng. Gn i re be e ehuehfi h go tv g had revive. Every h sanche. She’d began. Are these Scheiße lyrics? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Archetype Posted January 26 Share Posted January 26 2 hours ago, G.U.Y. Gaga said: Eh his lavishing. Whenever. Wheats. Hebeuwbr. Heheh e w hehe w e hushed when. Whenever. Either e. E dithered. Whether where r f. Dheheheb d. So hehe d f. Heheh e. Ever e. E whether d s hehe r r w hehe e. When f wheel y g grave thick it y she. Fbrhueucucyeubr f ehhdi fb t g he. Rbeien f re ng. Gn i re be e ehuehfi h go tv g had revive. Every h sanche. She’d began. I agree wholeheartedly Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Bosque Posted January 26 Share Posted January 26 These are pretty minor roommate problems, unless you move in with an existing friend (which can lead to its own trouble), how do you know your next roommate won’t be 10x worse? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TaggedGalaxy Posted January 26 Share Posted January 26 I would move you shouldn’t be uncomfortable in your home. What will happen when he dies though does he have a plan, that could happen any day at his age 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mr. Peanutbutter Posted January 26 Share Posted January 26 Look for a better place with affordable rent. You might need to live in a smaller place but at least you won't have this terrible tension in your own house. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
glitch Posted January 26 Share Posted January 26 Be nice to him for the next 6 months, get him to change the will so you inherit the flat, then kill him Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
WEEKND Posted January 26 Share Posted January 26 Make him a Gaga sandwich Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Specter Posted January 26 Author Share Posted January 26 10 hours ago, Jotham said: Watch out he might see this thread Jxjcjcn 3 hours ago, Dephira said: These are pretty minor roommate problems, unless you move in with an existing friend (which can lead to its own trouble), how do you know your next roommate won’t be 10x worse? Yeah this is my fear too Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
BloodLuster Posted January 26 Share Posted January 26 no matter how cheap or amazing the place is I can't even imagine living with a boomer Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Cheers Posted January 26 Share Posted January 26 "it's my house and you're renting" idk this is a big red flag to me. He’ll eventually keep throwing this in your face and use it over you. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
RideOrDie Posted January 26 Share Posted January 26 cancel his blue pills subscription, when he can't get it up for his grindr hookups that'll teach the boomer a lesson! 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Dante Silva Posted January 26 Share Posted January 26 I wouldn’t feel comfortable for long. My concern would be the tension bubbling under the surface may rise at a pivotal moment in your studies that requires absolute concentration during term time. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Goaty Posted January 27 Share Posted January 27 On 1/25/2024 at 9:10 PM, G.U.Y. Gaga said: Eh his lavishing. Whenever. Wheats. Hebeuwbr. Heheh e w hehe w e hushed when. Whenever. Either e. E dithered. Whether where r f. Dheheheb d. So hehe d f. Heheh e. Ever e. E whether d s hehe r r w hehe e. When f wheel y g grave thick it y she. Fbrhueucucyeubr f ehhdi fb t g he. Rbeien f re ng. Gn i re be e ehuehfi h go tv g had revive. Every h sanche. She’d began. Now what is going on here. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Pendulum Posted January 27 Share Posted January 27 Are you in the Netherlands by any chance? Sounds like typical Dutch behaviour, especially the thermostat one Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
G.U.Y. Gaga Posted January 27 Share Posted January 27 it's getting harder to separate the two tbh. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Specter Posted January 28 Author Share Posted January 28 On 1/25/2024 at 11:10 PM, G.U.Y. Gaga said: Eh his lavishing. Whenever. Wheats. Hebeuwbr. Heheh e w hehe w e hushed when. Whenever. Either e. E dithered. Whether where r f. Dheheheb d. So hehe d f. Heheh e. Ever e. E whether d s hehe r r w hehe e. When f wheel y g grave thick it y she. Fbrhueucucyeubr f ehhdi fb t g he. Rbeien f re ng. Gn i re be e ehuehfi h go tv g had revive. Every h sanche. She’d began. 4 hours ago, G.U.Y. Gaga said: it's getting harder to separate the two tbh. Would you like to move in with him? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Stimulus Posted January 28 Share Posted January 28 How much would you pay for peace of mind at home? Add that value to the rent you're paying, and that's how much staying there really costs you when you factor in your mental health. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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