discussion Mom has a message for fellow parents after daughter was bullied over Stanley cup

[GraceRandolph]

Stanley cup madness hit an absolute fever pitch last week when a limited-edition winter pink Starbucks version went on sale at Target, causing chaos at stores nationwide. And while the trendy tumbler has been all over TikTok feeds and tween/teen wish lists for a while, it seems kids are now actually being bullied for not having one, as one mom on TikTokexplained.

Dayna Motycka purchased a (quite adorable) colorful cheetah print insulated tumbler from Walmart as a Christmas gift for her 9-year-old daughter. On the second day back from winter break, Motycka shares that her daughter came home “upset” after girls in her grade “made sure to let her know” that she wasn’t carrying a “real” Stanley cup, and that hers was “fake” and “not as cool.”

In an effort to help their daughter “fit in” and prevent her from getting made fun of, Motycka and her husband ended up purchasing a Stanley for her, sharing the inherent privilege required for them to even buy such a pricey, hot-ticket item. She’s also got a message for parents who aren’t nipping this bullying behavior in the bud beforehand.

“Do I think that a nine-year-old needs a Stanley? No. Do I have one? Yes, I have one,” she says. “I don’t have 50 Stanleys in all different colors. I’m not going to Target and fighting other women or moms to try and get the new Valentine’s Day Stanley. I have one.”

“Can we afford to buy her a Stanley? Yes. Did I think that she needed one? No,” she continues. “Apparently I’ve been proven wrong by the children in our school that are making fun of her for not having a real name-brand Stanley. But this doesn’t start with the kids. This starts with us. This starts with parents — with moms. What are we teaching our kids? You better believe that if our nine-year-old daughter came home and somehow we found out that she made fun of another girl at school for not having something name-brand, whether it’s a Stanley, Lululemon, Uggs, etc. We would be calling the family. We would be making her write a note to apologize. We would make her apologize in person because that’s not what we do in this household. And that’s what we need to be teaching our kids.”

Motycka explains that she grew up without “name-brand things,” and she was similarly bullied for it, recalling when her mom found her a Limited Too bathing suit at Goodwill. “I felt so good to have that name-brand clothing,” she says. “I know now as an adult that that shouldn’t have meant something. But it did, because it made me feel like I fit in.”

Acknowledging that she might be judged by fellow parents for buying the name-brand Stanley cup to help her daughter fit in, she hopes other parents can hammer home the message that material items say nothing about your value or worth, especially since not all parents can afford to buy them.

“We have got to teach our kids to not make other kids feel inferior for not having the things that they have. That’s it. That’s where it starts and it starts with us as parents,” she concluded.

https://www.yahoo.com/lifestyle/mom-message-fellow-parents-daughter-181742575.html

 

[Vixen Eyes]

who the **** sparked this trend wth

[James_Dean]

[flower moon]

reminds me of some of the replies in the iphone threads made by that one guy lmao. the desire to follow trends and be perceived in a particular way really rots peoples brains i fear

[CristianGarcia]

Imagine being a mom getting outsmarted by her daughter into buying a Stanley cup that I’m sure no more than 5 students had in that whole school…. 

[Big Bad Wolf]

She has a point

 

Look at that other video of people mocking American consumerism

 

This is a result of that unfortunately

 

So while it may seem like mom is overreacting, she is just an involved parent and she made some points calling on other parents for influencing this type of behavior

 

But with that said, children will do this over anything. Clothes, shoes, music, shows, etc. What's cool and what isn't changes almost weekly for kids. I don't know if buying her the Stanley simply to fit in was the best course of action given her stance here but I definitely understand why she did it.

[GraceRandolph]

1 minute ago, CristianGarcia said:

Imagine being a mom getting outsmarted by her daughter into buying a Stanley cup that I’m sure no more than 5 students had in that whole school…. 

People are pretty crazy about those cups. I believe the daughter. 

[Digitalism]

8 minutes ago, CristianGarcia said:

Imagine being a mom getting outsmarted by her daughter into buying a Stanley cup that I’m sure no more than 5 students had in that whole school…. 

Teachers are saying that 20 students got the cups as christmas gifts on the comments. It's a think appearently

[Orsay]

America has a ******* problem!

[getBusy]

Can’t wait for humanity to go extinct 

[elevate]

I believe her that her child was bullied over a cup, lol. I feel like millennials raised really pampered kids. It's still going on now with gen alpha. I think it might actually be worse. 

[Tsareena]

 the convenience of the cups come from being able to fit in car cup holders + the size... which kids should not be caring about but here we are. the hype will die but for kids it can feel like the end of the world to not have one when others do

[bliaz]

The gringos are getting more and more pendejos 

[Into The Void]

My first question is what is a Stanley 

[TinashesLighter]

Are Stanley cups the new hydro flask??? Neither appeal to me but I don't understand why kids would even need one. Now if this was over the cute Glossier branded Nalgene bottle, I would definitely understand considering all the tiktoks about ten year olds in Sephora/Ulta. A Stanley cup though... 

[GraceRandolph]

22 minutes ago, qegqeg said:

I hate children 

It’s the parents fault.

[Raver]

I will not be bullied into buying a Stanley 

[Blade Runner]

Imagine this SHITE being your biggest problem. I f+cking hate America. 

Edited January 11 by Blade Runner

[Anomaly]

I thought this thread was gonna be about the hockey trophy  

[Cleanromantic]

I thought Stanley cups were menstrual cups .

[discosean]

What a stupid cow. Someone needs to call DCF/CPS. 

[glitch]

It's funny how as a child everyone wants to fit in but when you become an adult everyone wants to be unique. Ironically the kids who bullied other kids for not following the latest trends become the most bland and boring adults.

[brazil]

Here in Brazil people make fun of people who have stanleys lol

[Lana Banana]

How did this even become a trend?

A cup that's 35$? 

Why does a 9 year old need a cup that's larger than her head?

Parents giving these cups as Christmas gifts to their children

This particular parent mentioning "lululemon" and "uggs" in the same video

[UnusualBoy]

This trend is idiotic af.