discussion Fit gays who ONLY date fit guys. Would you be OK if ur SO leaves if u get fat?

[BrentB]

So for any fit gays here, how would you feel if this happened to you? Some say it's fair but others might disagree. What do y'all think? And by y'all I mean  the super-fit "must have all 6-packs defined" type gays. 

Edited December 25, 2023 by BrentB

[Fleahive]

No 

[Tropez]

Getting my seat ready for all the so-called fit gays of Atrl. 

[What_A_Mess]

I love myself too much to ever let myself go fat 

[Peroxide]

7 minutes ago, What_A_Mess said:

I love myself too much to ever let myself go fat 

Well you say that now… but life happens.

 

You could be on medication/steroids that cause you to put on a few pounds. As we age it’s harder and harder to shift weight etc…

 

I think weight gain genuinely creeps up on a lot of people… even if you’re as fit as can be in your 20’s.

Edited December 23, 2023 by Peroxide

[BionicWooHoo]

8 minutes ago, Peroxide said:

Well you say that now… but life happens.

 

You could be on medication/steroids that cause you to put on a few pounds. As we age it’s harder and harder to shift weight etc…

 

I think weight gain genuinely creeps up on a lot of people… even if you’re as fit as can be in your 20’s.

Indeed. Life does happen. 
I used to work out 5x a week and like tracked how many grams of protein I ate everyday but halfway through the year I had a bunch of health problems that made me unable to lift for so far half a year…never thought something like that would happen to me but alas here we are :/ 

[Bacardo Royale]

Yes because I would do the same if my man got fat 

 

 

[Mtjjproducer]

Yes and I would do the same

 

i don’t mind if you aren’t super lean cause I myself hate cutting down that much. But if I even stopped working out (would never happen cause I love CrossFit) and gained 100 pounds I would be cool with them leaving me if they weren’t attracted to me anymore 

[BtDecember]

The gays of ATRL are righteous people and not hypocrites, so for sure they will say “no” to this since love is not about physical attraction, right? I am correct, the righteous and definitely not hypocrite gays of ATRL?

[Domination]

If your partner doesn’t get fat when they’re dating you, they don’t love you  

[dussel_06]

As a non fit gay who gets masc4masc top men because of my beauty, I would say…. Yes. Being fit is not just a physical trait but an attitude. It takes so much discipline and hardwork to be fit, and when you get fat, that means you lose that discipline and I can’t take that. I need a man hardworking enough to worship me as a princess.

[glitch]

I often think this when I see gays in big age gap relationships. When the younger guy stops looking like a cute twink, will he get dumped and replaced?

[DamianSolo]

How exactly are we defining "fit," though? Physically muscular, lean? Someone can be thick, appearing fat, and still be fit and in perfectly good health. I've always been really lean and toned, and I prefer guys that are a little chunky—but still fit. I've seen some guys that are legit fat that I've been turned on by, so it just depends.

[Hurem]

Relationships that are solely based on a physical appearance are doomed from the get go.

 

Looks are important to attract someone, but you must build your relationships around love and care for the other person. Leaving them because their appearance has changed means you never truly cared for them and they only served as a trophy for show off to you.

[alexrex]

Im by not means the fittest person and I dont only date fit guys, but I will give my 2 cents anyway 

 

I believe a true relationship takes work, it's not just accepting everything that comes the way. Of course the personality and what's in the head takes the first place for me. But also it includes how attracted I am to my SO. 

 

If my partner gained a few kilos (sh happens), it's alright. But if it went beyond and not only their physical appearance changed, but also their habits and they became lazy and uninterested, then that's a red flag because they are not making any efforts anymore.

And it would be the exact same if it was me the one who became uninterested, so I believe relationships take work and it's not just accepting and taking whatever happens without any work. 

 

A different issue would be an illness or a specific condition that changed things drastically. 

Edited December 23, 2023 by alexrex

[KillingYourCareer]

It wouldn't be okay because it would mean that the relationship isn't based on feelings but purely on looks

[Bencharmer]

On 12/23/2023 at 10:02 AM, Hurem said:

Relationships that are solely based on a physical appearance are doomed from the get go.

Don't try to explain that to ATRLers, it's beyond their vision of life  

[GardenPanty]

Honestly yes because for that to happen my life would need to be in the gutter. And it would be a sign that I need to get my sh*t together.

 

People get so butthurt about this but at the end of the day you shouldn't be dating someone you're not attracted to. At the end of the day, I'd rather get heartbroken by a guy I'm actually attracted to than a guy I settled for. 

[GardenPanty]

On 12/23/2023 at 6:20 AM, KillingYourCareer said:

It wouldn't be okay because it would mean that the relationship isn't based on feelings but purely on looks

Relationships should be based on both though

[KillingYourCareer]

6 hours ago, GardenPanty said:

Relationships should be based on both though

And that's very true. But they can't be based purely on looks.

[Kern]

Well, I would need to have a SO first for that to happen

 

[katara]

My ex had his fit and chubby phases and I didn't care.

 

It would only become a problem if they start to get obese and do nothing to stop that. 

[barbiegrande]

On 12/22/2023 at 8:16 PM, Peroxide said:

Well you say that now… but life happens.

 

You could be on medication/steroids that cause you to put on a few pounds. As we age it’s harder and harder to shift weight etc…

 

I think weight gain genuinely creeps up on a lot of people… even if you’re as fit as can be in your 20’s.

Just starve yourself sis

[kataraqueen]

On 12/23/2023 at 3:16 AM, Peroxide said:

Well you say that now… but life happens.

 

You could be on medication/steroids that cause you to put on a few pounds. As we age it’s harder and harder to shift weight etc…

 

I think weight gain genuinely creeps up on a lot of people… even if you’re as fit as can be in your 20’s.

Being fit in your 20s is part of the recipe for having a dad bod in your 40s tbh lool. Ideal body is that of a monk (health wise) or a Kung Fu master, imo. Just any body that was created that went beyond the need for physical attraction

 

To be honest, I don't think it's very healthy to be overeating to gain muscle mass so you can increase your performance in an artificial simulation, and anyone who overvalues this must have a somewhat lacking self-identity, frankly speaking. No one attractive has ever said that they want their partner to be the same fitness as they are. You should want your partner to be a great person for the long-term, and you should want them to be fit for their own health benefits. 

 

I have just one ex, and he had a weird attitude towards the gym. I'm young so we all are still learning, but he broke his arm and him not being able to go to the gym made him feel super unattractive. He honest to god had an amazing body. It was super weird. My body looks naturally toned and I make muscle mass super easily, so maybe it's this priviledge that makes me see it through a different lense (i.e. someone who struggled really hard in the gym wants someone with the same dedication and maybe I don't get that), but to me, it all seems very vain and arbitrary.

[Oktober Knight]

I'm not surprised by some of the replies in here. Some of y'all really obsess over looks rather than people's soul.