discussion Should I be worried that my date don't text me since yesterday ?

[JoeAg]

23 minutes ago, stupidjock said:

idk I've done this a couple of times, I met someone and liked them a lot and the realized I kinda don't wanna meet them ever again

 

me too lol  one time was right after I broke up with my last ex, back at the beginning of october. I decided to just hook up with a guy later that night when I got home and I realized that even though I liked that guy, I didn’t really need him in my life. he texted the next day about my job hunt and i’ve never gotten back to him lmao

 

OT: dating in this day and age is a mess tbh, don’t get yourself down! if it’s meant to be, it’ll work out somehow. also don’t be afraid to double or triple text, try to be authentically you as often as you can 

[glitch]

If it's literally just small talk, then no you don't have to be worried someone hasn't replied. If you're asking them an actual question or to meet up again and they don't reply for ages, then yeah it's over.

 

Tbh though I don't normally reply to guys I'm dating if I'm at work or I'm out doing something, especially if I'm drinking. That said I'd always try and reply on the same day

[ThousandMiles]

2 hours ago, MoonGoodandHappy said:

I had a very great date and very good chemistry with a guy 2 days ago. He said that he was very interrested and we even kissed. The day after, I sent the first message in the morning and he texted me back quickly, I was very happy about that. And then at 1pm he texted me again with a cute message I was so happy I sent him a cute message.

 

But after that, he didnt text me the rest of the day at all... And right now it's the day after, it's 9am and not a single text from him.... I know that he is a doctor and is busy but I'm very anxious about it. Should I be worried ?

girl I literally LIVED this a few days ago  Except mine is kinda worse.. 

 

 

I had a decent date last Saturday night, we didn’t kiss but it was a cute first date..

 

on Sunday (the day after) I messaged him saying thanks for the date and he responded promptly saying he had fun too, I followed that with a message asking if he wanted to do it again and he said sure and then i messaged him asking if he was free a few days later to catch up.. he literally NEVER opened the message and left me on delivered, still to this day  I had to delete our chat history cause I was so humiliated and disrespected. He literally posted a story while I was on delivered, was active on grindr and i’m pretty sure he also hid his stories from me as that story suspiciously disappeared after a few hours. I know he half-swiped and chose to ghost me.. It makes me so frustrated because of all the energy I put into dating. These are the type of guys who will have no problem dating /******* 5 guys in 1 week, therefor they have no problem being disposable of people. Honestly hate to be negative but after my past experiences I now believe that every red flag or sign of them not being interested is 100% true and just take the L and move on.. Do not double message or force an answer out of them, or you will get your feelings hurt 

Edited December 21, 2023 by ThousandMiles

[Comedor]

3 hours ago, MoonGoodandHappy said:

I was so happy I sent him a cute message.

“I love you” was the cute message.

[dumbsparce]

He's probably ******* your neighbor as we speak

 

Edited December 21, 2023 by dumbsparce

[AaronBryceSufjan]

keep me updated with more details of this pls

[Uncatena]

2 hours ago, MoonGoodandHappy said:

He just texted me with the cutest message ever. I'm just a stupid drama queen. 

we've all been there sis lmao

 

2 hours ago, Maneater said:

Like you seem desperate, that has put me off guys in the past

wanting to text or spend time with someone you made a great connection with isn't "desperate"

[Dialamba]

Welp…it’s over I fear. 

[Maneater]

11 minutes ago, ChapelHooker said:

we've all been there sis lmao

 

wanting to text or spend time with someone you made a great connection with isn't "desperate"

Wanting to constantly text and worry when you don’t get a reply straight away after one date is desperate to me sorry

[John Slayne]

you should be worried about your anxious attachment style 

[Bosque]

Why are people acting dramatic over OP texting him once a day?

[Oktober Knight]

Be patient, doctors are extremely busy and exhausted and it's the holidays. If he's still interested, he'll be texting you more after the new year. 

 

Next time don't get so worried or upset if you haven't heard from him in a day. 

[Kamil24]

No, people need to stop wanting to talk every single day.  

[ImsoLOUD]

I wouldn't be a true cynic if I didn't say YES 

 

[KillingYourCareer]

Everyone is different. Personally I would remain in contact with my date without being clingy, but showing clearly that I care. Maybe he's not a great texter. Ask him!

[St. Charles]

4 hours ago, ThousandMiles said:

girl I literally LIVED this a few days ago  Except mine is kinda worse.. 

 

 

I had a decent date last Saturday night, we didn’t kiss but it was a cute first date..

 

on Sunday (the day after) I messaged him saying thanks for the date and he responded promptly saying he had fun too, I followed that with a message asking if he wanted to do it again and he said sure and then i messaged him asking if he was free a few days later to catch up.. he literally NEVER opened the message and left me on delivered, still to this day  I had to delete our chat history cause I was so humiliated and disrespected. He literally posted a story while I was on delivered, was active on grindr and i’m pretty sure he also hid his stories from me as that story suspiciously disappeared after a few hours. I know he half-swiped and chose to ghost me.. It makes me so frustrated because of all the energy I put into dating. These are the type of guys who will have no problem dating /******* 5 guys in 1 week, therefor they have no problem being disposable of people. Honestly hate to be negative but after my past experiences I now believe that every red flag or sign of them not being interested is 100% true and just take the L and move on.. Do not double message or force an answer out of them, or you will get your feelings hurt 

This person sounds like an ass. I’ve dated multiple people at once before (honestly just first dates) and 

 

1. I always let someone know how I feel and get back to them pretty quickly.

2. I never go on more than 2 or 3 dates with someone unless I wanna be more exclusive with them because people will obviously get very attached during this period.

3. I never excessively flirt or make a lot of promises when I don’t mean it because I hate letting others down.

 

if people did these 3 more often then way less people would be hurt imo

[Companion]

Dont think anything bad he might liked you so much and feel nervous to write maybe he got lot of messages and yours went to bottom. You can write something like "Helloo???" And if he still havent reply you can spam him some question marks "???????????????" so he will understanf the emergency and if still hasnt replied you can write "not me being ghosted loll" so he can see your fun and friendly side and he will feel safe to write back. 

[LoveInStereo]

Seems like you’re operating from a place of fear of abandonment/rejection & insecurity which doesn’t resolve itself. Relationships can’t flourish if you’re assuming the worst in the other person, you have to have blind faith. Say you do end up dating long term. If he gets home late from work, are you gonna

panic that he’s cheating on you? That’s not healthy. You gotta take people at face value & if it turns out he's full of **** & does go ghost, then he was insincere & you’ve dodged a bullet. No use spiralling & wondering what went wrong or “what if?”. All that ruminating won’t change the outcome for the better. In my experience, it only makes **** worse. Focus on how great the date was!

[Romova99]

How does everybody have dates?? I haven't dated anyone for the last year / year and a half, mostly because I haven't been interested in meeting anybody and because I haven't put any effort into it but also when I've tried it I can't find a single person been interested in me, like if I was a freaking ghost or sum lol

[Maneater]

I can remember I went on one date with someone and I didn’t text them all day because I was busy and they asked ‘did I do something wrong?’ 
 

I new they were going to be DRAMA and ended it shortly after (after they did a bunch of other weird stuff too)

[Frappucino]

Get a hobby…

[Psyduck]

Try to make plans to see each other again soon. If he's evasive or doesn't respond, MOVE ON. 

Remember the cardinal rule: if a guy is into you, YOU WILL KNOW IT.

Edited December 22, 2023 by Psyduck

[Into The Void]

21 hours ago, MoonGoodandHappy said:

I had a very great date and very good chemistry with a guy 2 days ago. He said that he was very interrested and we even kissed. The day after, I sent the first message in the morning and he texted me back quickly, I was very happy about that. And then at 1pm he texted me again with a cute message I was so happy I sent him a cute message.

 

But after that, he didnt text me the rest of the day at all... And right now it's the day after, it's 9am and not a single text from him.... I know that he is a doctor and is busy but I'm very anxious about it. Should I be worried ?

I'm very much like u but I would have prolly texted him 5-10 more times by now

[katara]

You're gonna ruin it with this anxiety and fast attachment. You can propose him a new date soon but don't expect him to text you every minute.

[katara]

23 hours ago, Harsh2256 said:

This is what gays always do. The man will act like you're the best thing to happen to him then dip and find a new one. Ik the downvotes are coming in. Straight men would probably do the same if dating wasn't so hard for them. 

Literally 99% of gays in the online dating pool are a joke. Just 2 weeks ago I met this new guy and we had 2 good dates (sex happened the 2nd date) and HE proposed a third date. The day comes and just as I was about to ask him to confirm place and time for the date I see that he had blocked me