discussion I’m 22 Never Dated, No Friends In 3 Years

[Venice B]

You're 22, you're still so young. If you think you're too "late" compared to others then don't, it's better to take your time than to rush into a relationship and regret it later. As for friends, it can be lonely to go through life without someone to share stuff so just try to find people with similar interests? For example: I'm a big fan of videogames so I started using twitch during the pandemic and managed to make a lot of amazing friends who I still talk to almost every day to this day. There's many apps that can help you with that, and you can even join local clubs if you have them available for you. 

 

Just take your time and take care of youself, that's the most important thing 

[Nashe]

You can't love anyone else until you love yourself. Take care of yourself first. You can do it! Sending love & light

[JoeAg]

I don't relate to this

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other than the 4 medications part (I'm also on four meds: lamictal, clonodine, vyvanse, and wellbutrin. don't need to be on lamictal anymore though because I was misdiagnosed with bipolar and actually don't have it  so hopefully I get to start weaning off of it soon...)

 

HOWEVER

there's nothing wrong with you for this. the early 20s are some of the most stressful moments of one's life in this modern age, don't let it get to you. stay active and go to the gym, go on nightwalks and challenge yourself to listen to new music every week, start cooking your food and coming up with fun recipes, read more, meditate at least once a week, go to bars on weekends and bite the bullet and try to walk up and talk to people! you can do it, and I'm here if you ever want to vent or just talk or anything  you got friends here!!

[Harrier]

As someone in their late 20s, the best advice I can give is to conciously fight the impulse to compare yourself to others. It's a human thing, but it's the main source of insecurity and shame we feel. Being mindful of it and controlling it is better than giving in to it and either feeling sad OR making changes in your to fit somebody else's ideals.

 

Just do you. I've been single for seven years, with only a few hookups here and there. Some people might find it weird, but relationships are just not a focus for me, yet.

 

On the friends side, if you feel you need friends, commonality is the way forward. Hobbies, gaming, work - wherever you find people who are doing the same thing you are, that is your best opportunity to build friendships. If your'e a bit socially awkard, gaming is a good place to start.

[spree]

not surprising seeing people not dating or making friends, and at the same time having 1000's of posts on ATRL.  What do you think us old folks did pre-Internet and cellphones?

[monologueNacafe]

I’m 31 and have been on few dates in my life. My friendship circle is very limited.