discussion I’m 22 Never Dated, No Friends In 3 Years

[BletaRexher]

Does anyone relate to this and how do you fix it?

I’m very mentally ill I’m on 4 medications.

[Goaty]

Dating and friendships are both just a numbers game. You gotta meet more people in whatever capacity you're comfortable with. You'll eventually find people to befriend and people to date. 

[Vixen Eyes]

I currently only have one friend cos of work. 

I'm 23 and I also have never dated. It all seems way too complicated and far too nerve wracking for me to initiate anything >.<

[Alldeezy]

Im 32 single .. with no friends and not even any guys interested in me anymore   

 

so your def fine. 

 

I actually did get into my first serious relationship till I was 20 and even lost my v card at 23.. you still quite young .. your fine. 

 

 

[Poxy]

I’ve been having trouble making new friends now that I started a new chapter in my life because I don’t trust anyone. I don’t feel comfortable with anyone I meet unlike my past friends when I’ve gotten good vibes from them instantly.

[Asscatchem]

if you want friends join classes that interest you 

[Carla Rosón]

26 and never dated

 

been on 2 psychotropics for 5 years, succesfully tapered off one last year with awful but manageable symptoms. I'm about to finish tapering off the other one but it's ripping my mind and body apart.

Edited December 12, 2023 by XtunaStan

[aesthetic bih]

Greatly limiting or (even better) quitting most social media helped. If you find it difficult to drop everything, just limit yourself into 1 social media only, just to keep up with important people in your life. I find that looking at other people happy with partners or having successful careers can make you feel like you are doing something wrong with "being single" and "taking it easy", when you're not. To avoid it, just cut the source out.

 

Don't rush yourself into a relationship just because of FOMO. I say this to myself all the time: "If you can't even handle yourself, how do you expect to sustain a life with another person?"

 

Being alone is better than lunging yourself into a relationship when you are not mentally and emotionally ready. Dealing with a messy relationship is a liability you do not want to subject yourself too. Help yourself realize the perks of being alone

 

Also, I don't like having friends if they do not have my back when things are not going so well for me. I'd rather be alone than be surrounded with fake-ass fair-weathered friends

 

Just focus on your career, or hobby, or interests, or literally anything that benefits you or makes you TRULY happy

 

Sincerely, your fellow 22-year old who has never dated ever

Edited December 12, 2023 by aesthetic bih

[Bloodflowers.]

Go outside and talk with people

[Asscatchem]

3 minutes ago, Bloodflowers. said:

Go outside and talk with people

this is so helpful 

[Xtina23]

...and guess what? you're doing amazing darling!!!

 

don't compare yourself with others. just take care of yourself and be happy.

 

everything will happen on its own.

 

x

[Kayseri Mantisi]

Listen to this and check the lyrics 

 

 

 

[Bigstone]

I’m 32 and never dated 

[BletaRexher]

I went on a couple dates with a guy then randomly today he texts me this:

I honestly wasn’t even sad I was just pissed off. The amount of bullshit excuses guys give is annoying. Tell me my personality is ****, tell me I’m ugly, tell me the truth don’t try to make up a lie because you’re too ***** to be honest. 
Anyways, I’ve moved onto women and have a date Tuesday night with a baddie emo bisexual.

[4Real]

29 here and also never dated, but I also don't want to date so idc about that! And I do have friends

[NoOneDiesFromLove]

Hey same. It’s the social anxiety for me 

[Take Me Apart]

These things will happen to you when you least expect it, are you working or a student? One way to meet people is to go somewhere everyday. 

 

Also, please don’t believe these things will magically fix all your problems (they might fix a majority tho), I used to be a pretty lonely shut-in with depression and anxiety before going back to university, Since then I’ve made a lot of connections and it has drastically improved my social life but If you were to ask me, I don’t particularly consider myself "happier"… 

 

Best of luck.

[GentleEarthquake]

I got tired of looking for friends or a partner. It never works out and my social abilities are close to non-existent, so ur not alone

[Maroonx]

When I was in Uni doing my bachelors I also had no life. It was studying full time and working full time. The brief moments I had some free time I was either catching up on homework/assignments or sleeping. I would literally only see friends outside of "school study groups" and such once or twice a year.

 

I think it really depends what you have going on in your life. When I think about what I could've done when I was 20-21 years old finishing up my Bachelors, I think the only way I could find time and energy to meet up with people was if I lower my working hours or quit my job (which I couldn't do tbh).

 

It's rly tough, as you have to take multiple things into account, including your personality... So people are more introvert, which makes it harder to be out there meeting people, and that is ok. 

 

Make sure you find people you vibe with, and not just anyone for the sake of getting friends. 

 

You got this babe x

[alexrex]

1. Health always comes first ( Medication, food, sunlight, daily exercising) 

2. Cultivate your friendships and go out as much as you can. 

3. Take care of your mental health and self-esteem 

4. You can use dating apps, but remember that they are tools, not something to hold on to. 

 

Carry on! 

[Buffy]

10 hours ago, BletaRexher said:

Does anyone relate to this and how do you fix it?

I’m very mentally ill I’m on 4 medications.

May God give you supernatural healing.

 

Find opportunities to volunteer or serve in different ministries/charities/organizations. That’s the easiest way to narrow the scope and make friends with people who share common interests and passions as you.

[feelslikeadream]

I'm sorry to hear that.

 

OP: Please fix title so that every word is not capitalized, per ATRL thread title rules.

[LittleStarmen]

1 Go to the gym and eat well

2 Get Plastic Surgery to look better (usd your college money)

3 Meet people through shared interested. be the one hosting and invintig people tondo things. dont try to hang with a group of friends. slowly get to know each person

 

 

[Kern]

3 minutes ago, LittleStarmen said:

 

2 Get Plastic Surgery to look better (usd your college money

[Pikachoo]

you will be just fine, don't worry. everyone expects your early 20s to be the peak of your life, but just keep doing you. life is a marathon, not a sprint.