discussion Fell out with a friend over an accident, should I try to reach out?

[FightForTanas]

1 hour ago, discostan said:

He also tends to act on impulse (aka blocking me) and once a situation cools down he tends to reevaluate a situation which is why I was wondering if I should wait.

You kinda already answered your own question. Just wait a while then reach out again later!

[FightForTanas]

1 hour ago, BtDecember said:

He already blocked you, so I don't think he is open to reconciling.

Tbh I don't think you should be friends with him anymore because he seems to be immature.

People block and unblock each other all the time.  

[CBC]

It's giving crazy stalker. Just let him be and move on 

[MusicLoverDude]

I would just drop the situation and move on. You're only 20 and still in college. You have plenty of time to make friends and trust me, a lot of people you befriend you can also fall out of touch with very quickly, especially over this next decade. Friends will come and go. If he blocked over something as silly as this, he's not worth your time. 

 

 

[JoeAg]

@discostan I'm gonna be real with you babes, I've been on both sides of situations like this several times in my past, where people just block out of nowhere and decide to not let you know how they really feel

 

and right when you started the second paragraph with the fact that you're 20 and in college. oh hon, believe me when I tell you, as someone who was in undergrad longer than average, you honestly will learn most of your valuable life lessons OUTSIDE of the classroom. everyone's college experience is jam packed with learning experiences, and if you're a member of the queer community? those lessons become exponential. honestly, to me it sounds like you put in the effort to apologize, and this person is too immature to confront things head on and be transparent. both of y'all will soon go through y'all prefrontal cortexes developing further, and at that point, hopefully, people in your life of the same age will finally begin to learn to be transparent. I lost so much f*cking sleep throughout my 7.5 years of college, worrying about immature people who couldn't confront me the way I would confront them. and at the same time? sometimes I was a hypocrite! sometimes I was the damn passive-aggressive one! you did nothing wrong, my dear. you took the high road. drop the situation and move on for sure, and if he learns to cut the bullsh*t and wants to be your friend again, it'll be in your hands 

 

btw I'm here to talk more if you want !

[terrorblade]

2 hours ago, discostan said:

I spooned him when we slept in the same bed

[Karla Cabello]

do people not spoon with their close friends 

i treat my close friends like siblings lol

 

[simplywohoo]

Tbh there's also a possibility he made that up to get rid if you since you don't even remember 

[Snoopy]

he sounds like a loser. be glad he's no longer your friend

[Alldeezy]

Not much you can do sadly. And so weird I had my friend spoon me while he was asleep with his gf in the same bed but I let it slide because I know he was asleep.

 

However me and that girl no longer talk bc She blocked me (a year after that happened)  and I just let it go because not much you can do when they don't wanna be friends anymore it sucks but all you can do is move on

[The7thStranger]

I say drop it. First, he has made it clear that he does not want to hear from you. Respect that boundary.

 

Second, he sounds like he's still figuring out who he is, and it's not your job to steer him through that journey. You're in two different places emotionally, and exploring a relationship would not benefit either of you.

[Ms. Togekiss]

Drop it. He’s not a good friend and honestly sounds like he has some internal gay issues he needs to figure out on his own. 

[Namie-Knowles]

Drop em. I had a whole rant posted but yeah just drop em

[Theshigo Washidu]

Was the friend straight? A straight man would be more hung up about you trying to spoon them in bed than a gay or bi man would.

 

He's placed you on ignore and doesn't want to give you closure so move on, that's all you can do really.

[Just a Gay on ATRL]

Drop him and move on. Friends who blow things out of proportion and are overdramatic/over the top with reactions even after you apologize are always a ticking time bomb & massive drain on your energy. This is a very silly thing for him to get so hung up on & he sounds a bit homophobic tbh. He’ll do it again with getting overdramatic later if you give him the chance.

 

Consider it a sign from the heavens to find better friends next time. 

[discostan]

2 hours ago, St. Francis said:

Was the friend straight? A straight man would be more hung up about you trying to spoon them in bed than a gay or bi man would.

 

He's placed you on ignore and doesn't want to give you closure so move on, that's all you can do really.

His sexuality is questionable so I'm really not sure. When I came out as bi he said he was too, but then he backtracked and said he actually doesn't know because he's definitely into girls. But following that we proceeded to flirt with each other a lot, cuddled a few times, and he would sleep over almost every weekend so   On top of that his family and friends from home are really homophobic and he grew up around that so I'm sure that plays a huge role.