Lipgloss Posted April 16, 2023 Share Posted April 16, 2023 I had a friend who was experiencing health issues and complaining about his dating life, I told him he should lose weight to improve both and he got mad at me and said that was a fatphobic thing to say . I mean, objectively losing weight would help with both of those problems. I don't understand how it's fatphobic to state the obvious. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
May Posted April 16, 2023 Share Posted April 16, 2023 i mean probably but it’s on a personal case by case tbh looking back at my fat era i wish more ppl would’ve called me a fat **** n told me to go lose weight , it would’ve motivated me earlier Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Axolotl Posted April 16, 2023 Share Posted April 16, 2023 I believe it largely depends on the delivery of the message. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
shyboi Posted April 16, 2023 Share Posted April 16, 2023 Short answer, yes. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
vale9001 Posted April 16, 2023 Share Posted April 16, 2023 Only in America. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ATRL Moderator Legend E Posted April 16, 2023 ATRL Moderator Share Posted April 16, 2023 yes, leave me alone also that person probably knows all that OP, but it is not as easy as it seems to lose weight hearing those things over and over again doesn't help Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kummercell Posted April 16, 2023 Share Posted April 16, 2023 if it's uncalled for, yes Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
tiagol88 Posted April 16, 2023 Share Posted April 16, 2023 Just now, Legend E said: yes, leave me alone Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Donquizote Posted April 16, 2023 Share Posted April 16, 2023 No, you are doing your friend a favor by asking him to avoid diabetes and stroke in the future. He should be grateful to have a friend like you. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MotoPapi Posted April 16, 2023 Share Posted April 16, 2023 It’s unnecessary. Especially at work, I never comment on someone’s weight wether they’re fat or skinny because I’m sure they’re aware and it might be due to a medical reason so it’s best to avoid commenting as to not hurt their feelings. I only discuss weight with my best friend because we have that kind of relationship where we would tease each other Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
.Odyssey. Posted April 16, 2023 Share Posted April 16, 2023 No, healthy does not come in all shapes and sizes, despite what some people perched on Twitter may say. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SapphireSky Posted April 16, 2023 Share Posted April 16, 2023 You're right and you should say it Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Cheers Posted April 16, 2023 Share Posted April 16, 2023 It can be rude and uncalled for to point out someone’s weight but “fat phobia” is not real If you said it in a rude way you were in the wrong but the suggestion itself is not wrong. Also how’re you going to complain about health issues and a limited dating pool but get mad when someone suggests losing weight . Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mordecai Posted April 16, 2023 Share Posted April 16, 2023 No. But most fat people know they're fat and that losing weight would be in their best interest. So depending on the context a comment like that can be unnecessary. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
arceus Posted April 16, 2023 Share Posted April 16, 2023 The thing with heavy people is that they only want to date fit and muscular people and despise other heavyweight people which in itself is fat phobic Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
The Next Day Posted April 16, 2023 Share Posted April 16, 2023 Is the person seeking advice? Then give advice. Read the room. Sometimes people just want to complain to get it out of their system. If you want to ***** about your boss with me, I'm not going to be like "Here's what you should do..." cause in that situation I know you don't want advice. 14 minutes ago, May said: i mean probably but it’s on a personal case by case tbh looking back at my fat era i wish more ppl would’ve called me a fat **** n told me to go lose weight , it would’ve motivated me earlier It really is subjective. For me it was the opposite of your story. Growing up I was always told to lose weight and I was scared to fail so I didn't even try. As an adult nobody cared anymore and when I finally had the courage to try, I didn't even tell anyone because I felt it would put pressure on me. Some people need external motivation, people like me need internal motivation. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Roberto Posted April 16, 2023 Share Posted April 16, 2023 if it gets repetitive, yes, it is. Nevertheless, if there's a real and genuine concern about the other person's weight, I wouldn't consider it fatphobic. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Into The Void Posted April 16, 2023 Share Posted April 16, 2023 I think its rude Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Into The Void Posted April 16, 2023 Share Posted April 16, 2023 25 minutes ago, Lipgloss said: I had a friend who was experiencing health issues and complaining about his dating life, I told him he should lose weight to improve both and he got mad at me and said that was a fatphobic thing to say . I mean, objectively losing weight would help with both of those problems. I don't understand how it's fatphobic to state the obvious. Because they already know they need to loose weight. Hearing other people tell you it is like a knife in the back. Unless you have ever been overweight you wouldn't understand Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
thetea Posted April 16, 2023 Share Posted April 16, 2023 i'd say if you guys aren't close and don't discuss things like that then don't say anything. they already know they're fat and telling them that doesn't help with anything. 3 minutes ago, Insanity said: Because they already know they need to loose weight. Hearing other people tell you it is like a knife in the back. Unless you have ever been overweight you wouldn't understand this. it just makes them feel self conscious and that you're judging them for it. i guess it really just depends on your situation and relationship with the person Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
thetea Posted April 16, 2023 Share Posted April 16, 2023 9 minutes ago, The Next Day said: For me it was the opposite of your story. Growing up I was always told to lose weight and I was scared to fail so I didn't even try. As an adult nobody cared anymore and when I finally had the courage to try, I didn't even tell anyone because I felt it would put pressure on me. Some people need external motivation, people like me need internal motivation. same tbh. a lot of times when you say mean things about their weight, it just causes them to binge eat. everyone's different though. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
commander Posted April 16, 2023 Share Posted April 16, 2023 Yes but most importantly did they ask for your opinion? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
yesmine Posted April 16, 2023 Share Posted April 16, 2023 It depends on the delivery of it. If it's really hurting their health and could potentially lead to complications then you absolutely should. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Tylerbv Posted April 16, 2023 Share Posted April 16, 2023 If its unprompted, its definitely rude. If they ask for advice and they’re overweight, it’s a tough thing to say but not rude. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
livelikemusic Posted April 16, 2023 Share Posted April 16, 2023 Fat-phobic? No. Appropriate? No. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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