discussion As a man, do you go out of your way to make women and girls feel safe in public?

[Daddy]

Yeah, all the time. Acting less intimidating or changing the streets at night

[UnusualBoy]

Kind of but in the end I'm just minding my business so if we're walking in the same sidewalk, I cross the street and stuff.

[MoonGoodandHappy]

What ? Gurl, i'm a gay man i need to feel safe too. 

[bleuwaffle]

On 10/4/2022 at 7:00 PM, feelslikeadream said:

When I'm in the situation you described, I usually signal my gayness to her as a way to show I'm not a straight man and therefore less of a threat. If I'm listening to music, I'll usually sashay a little or nod my head gaily. If I'm not, I'll wave in a real gay way and maybe say, "Hey girlfriend" or "that dress is fierce" or something. If I feel like signaling my queerness is a threat to my own safety (like depending where I am geographically), I just cross the street.

 breh

[Ciel]

On 10/4/2022 at 8:46 PM, Zaynsus said:

No because people looking at me kind of triggers my insecurities and I ask myself a thousand questions (Why are they looking at me ? Do I look weird ? Do my hair look bad ? Do I smell bad ? My jeans are unzipped ? and so on...).  So I usually just put my earphones on, listen to music and pretend that there's nobody around. I totally understand that girls and women may feel that way though but I can deal with one insecure person at a time.

This is too real

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I'm waaaay too busy in my own head typically and rather non-threatening looking so this is not something I really think about or notice

[Theshigo Washidu]

20 hours ago, FightForTanas said:

Theres absolutely nothing wrong with making women feel comfortable unless you are an INCEL which im not gonna lie im getting those kind of vibes....

Oh please, jog on love.

[Phaunzie]

No, only for my friends and people I know, I refuse to participate in beneficial sexism for anyone. Also in the world right now, I could walk down the street and get shot for no reason other than someone thinking that I am a gang member or some creep. 

 

No ma'am. I wanna live, not die.

[Nano]

On 10/6/2022 at 3:43 AM, FightForTanas said:

Theres absolutely nothing wrong with making women feel comfortable unless you are an INCEL which im not gonna lie im getting those kind of vibes....

Oh no. I'm sure the gays here are devastated that they don't get to have sex with women.

 

Listen to yourself.

[Jagger]

Y'all saying to literally stop walking or take a detour just so some chick can "feel safe" I-

 

[Auraeolux]

If I happen to be behind a person on an empty block for multiple blocks, I usually slow down a bit or move past them