discussion What went wrong? (Your own life edition)

[Bacardo Royale]

This thread is deep. yall are brave for sharing

 

[Grumpy Cat]

4 hours ago, Atlantis said:

I can def see that working for most of the people but the problem is I love looking at myself so I could never really get rid of them. I go from being cute af and looking like a model to a literal monster (to me at least, for both) in span of 2 days... Not sure what triggers those changes but it was BAD

 

Hun, thats sounds like a nightmare. **** mirrors

 

[PillowCase]

My parents are both cold, cruel and withholding people. I never felt loved or supported by them. Mom is critical of everything and nothing is ever good enough, and father is physically abusive, beat me up a bunch when I was small and raised me & my siblings in an atmosphere of fear. They made us work every weekend and berated us every time we were caught having fun or doing something as horrible as playing. This had a huge impact on how I turned out. I try to be perfect as a protective mechanism so others can't criticize me. I never feel like I'm good enough or I did enough. I assume no one likes me or wants to spend time with me, if someone is nice to me I assume they are just being polite. The constant threat of physical violence also gave me a lot of anxiety to the pont where I just want to be left alone and I feel a lot more comfortable in solitude because then others can't hurt me. And then my parents are complain about me still being single. 

 

I never had a chance with these monsters raising me. I am very aware of the fact that they messed me up for life.

[M.R.]

Probably the day I realized I am gay. Being gay is literally a curse. Like imagine wasting all those years on hookups and short flings and unrequited love. Yikes! Thankfully or unfortunately (not really sure anymore) the only focus is on my career and how much profit I can get from doing various jobs. Oh well, life's a b.itch and then you die as BoJack said.

Edited September 3, 2022 by M.R.

[Tropez]

It all started at conception, and it's been downhill since. 

[HANZ94]

For me I would say coming out so late and staying way too long in my first job (5 years) 

i should have left my hometown as soon as I finished my studies but I was too scared to try 

[Before Today]

I just wish I came out sooner, stayed true to myself and brave enough to find love at a younger age. I missed out on the "young love" experience. It wasn't until last year, at 23, did I live my life authentically to the fullest as a gay man.

[kandicha]

the friends I made in college weren’t good influences and I made too many important life decisions based on trying to fit in with them vs. what I really wanted.

 

I have gotten my life back on track after finishing college, dumping them as friends, and figuring out what I truly want. So things are much better now. But I’m still bitter that I wasted valuable opportunities in my college years trying to fit in with people who ultimately didn’t share my values and that it turned out my mom was in fact right all along when she didn’t approve of my choices in college 

[Erotic]

Spending all those years smoking weed, working the same office job, going to the same gym, every damn day, doing the same things over and over

 

now that i travel the world i see how much is out there and the beauty of daring to do and create new things for yourself

 

and i also wish i could have seen that heartbreak is a huge blessing sooner

 

[Iceland]

Nothing 

I’m in my 1989 era 

[Before Today]

36 minutes ago, Erotic said:

Spending all those years smoking weed, working the same office job, going to the same gym, every damn day, doing the same things over and over

 

now that i travel the world i see how much is out there and the beauty of daring to do and create new things for yourself

 

and i also wish i could have seen that heartbreak is a huge blessing sooner

 

How are you able to travel the world sis? Doea your job allow you? Where have you travelled to?

[Bacardo Royale]

11 hours ago, PillowCase said:

My parents are both cold, cruel and withholding people. I never felt loved or supported by them. Mom is critical of everything and nothing is ever good enough, and father is physically abusive, beat me up a bunch when I was small and raised me & my siblings in an atmosphere of fear. They made us work every weekend and berated us every time we were caught having fun or doing something as horrible as playing. This had a huge impact on how I turned out. I try to be perfect as a protective mechanism so others can't criticize me. I never feel like I'm good enough or I did enough. I assume no one likes me or wants to spend time with me, if someone is nice to me I assume they are just being polite. The constant threat of physical violence also gave me a lot of anxiety to the pont where I just want to be left alone and I feel a lot more comfortable in solitude because then others can't hurt me. And then my parents are complain about me still being single. 

 

I never had a chance with these monsters raising me. I am very aware of the fact that they messed me up for life.

Wait this almost sounds like my childhood except it was just my father I was a confident kid  but my self esteem  was gradually destroyed by my dad since he always made me feel like a failure. And now nothings ever good enough for me, I'm my harshest critic because of how I was raised. 

[Jooj]

20 hours ago, popmusicisdead said:

I came here to post exactly this scene 

 

 

 

 

Fun fact: it's now censored in my country

[Erotic]

10 hours ago, Before Today said:

How are you able to travel the world sis? Doea your job allow you? Where have you travelled to?

I’m a flight attendant sis  

[zasderfght]

I would say the one area in my life that needs work is my career. 
 

I went to school to be a teacher— after subbing, teaching, and doing student teaching/fieldwork all in the span of 3-4 years, I learned teaching wasn’t for me. At least in my city, weekly lesson plans have to be submitted every Sunday, if a student hasn’t attended school in three days, a phone call has to be made and documented, newsletters needed to be created biweekly (with what their child is doing in class), we were to implement “Calm Classroom,” meaning a child could literally curse you out/harass you, and you can’t raise your voice or push back. Not to mention, taking PTO was seen as sacred— if you wanted to take a day for a wedding or a mental health day, forget it. My admin. wanted you in that building unless your limbs were cut off. And people wonder why there’s a teacher shortage. 

 

I now work middle management. It pays the bills (but barely), I have a savings that I can also fall back on, but my plan is to move in back with my parents once my lease is up, go back to school to become a licensed therapist, and do that for a career. I need a career where I can make time for myself, my friends, my family, and my partner. Being a teacher not only barely gave me time for just myself— I couldn’t even keep up with the job itself, and even my admins. knew I was technically doing my job. It’s just the demands are so insane for this profession. 
 

 

[Alongoria13]

My family is a bunch of lazy rats who expect me to pay for everything they need. They see me work far and beyond to reach my goals while they complain from their couches and try to guilt trip me everytime I do something for myself. More like being related to flops me thinks

 

[Uncatena]

being autistic, queer and fat in a world made for neurotypical, cishet, skinny people 

 

[Specter]

I would post but I know some of y'all will use this info to drag me in your stanwars 

 

So... 

 

[Theshigo Washidu]

Anxiety and depression during my teenage years which made me miss out on opportunities and potentially long-lasting friendships/relationships.

 

Life is better now that I've cut off a lot of toxic people and feel more confident in myself (not 100% yet tho but I guess a lot of people are like that). 

 

One big hindrance however is my sexuality. I've accepted myself and also out to certain people (not DL, just discreet I guess?), but I sometimes feel uncomfortable and ashamed about it? If I could choose my sexuality, I would choose to be straight honestly.

[Delicious]

some ppl forcing you to be more expressive for their comfort, while others wanting you to be less expressive for their comfort 

 

both essentially wanting a different version at own discomfort

 

also covid 19 

Edited September 4, 2022 by Delicious

[808s]

Covid 19 

 

and body dysmorphia

[Haus]

I have crises all the time. It’s just an evergrowing laundry list of trauma from each category and I’m used to it.  

[Bacardo Royale]

2 hours ago, Phantom said:

I would post but I know some of y'all will use this info to drag me in your stanwars 

 

So... 

 

Get them banned for personal attacks if they try it, everyone has issues and this is a safe space

 

[Specter]

2 minutes ago, Bacardo Royale said:

Get them banned for personal attacks if they try it, everyone has issues and this is a safe space

 

When I hit the report button and miss 503 stops my bag 

 

 

[JoeAg]

I "officially" switched majors at the absolute WORST moment: right at the beginning of junior f*cking year  I was on course to graduate last month but unfortunately my cumulative GPA throughout my college career still wasn't up to par. I should've been WAY more proactive and I shouldn't have slacked off so much throughout my whole college career