Fastlane Posted August 14, 2022 Share Posted August 14, 2022 Three weeks ago I met my colleague from another department at a corporate party. Before that, we only said "hello" in the hallway and never talked. Since I recognized a familiar face at a party, I decided to chat with him to spend at least some quality time. It seems that we are interested in each other. We began to regularly exchange various interesting films (it turns out that we watch the same thing), meet more in our company, talk. Yesterday we decided to go with him to the film festival and I had a great time. I noticed that I was interested in listening to him, and he listens to me very carefully. In general, he is quite progressive man. It seems to me that we are attracted remotely to each other, yet without physical overtones. We are constantly looking for an excuse to talk to each other. Are there ways to develop an organic relationship with a guy? I feel like we're in the same league (special movies, TV shows and music), but I don't want to slide into mediocre sex and lose that connection. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Cain Posted August 14, 2022 Share Posted August 14, 2022 Ask him out on a date? 3 minutes ago, Fastlane said: but I don't want to slide into mediocre sex and lose that connection. Also this seems like you think having mediocre sex and losing connection is the only way forward if y’all have sex? Which is not true Ofcourse you don’t have to, but me and this guy started talking last week (he’s very intelligent, we talked emotions, careers, art, philosophy, etc) and then we just had a 20 hour date, the sex was great and we still have that same connection and talkativeness Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Fastlane Posted August 14, 2022 Author Share Posted August 14, 2022 (edited) 2 minutes ago, Cain said: Ask him out on a date? I can only call him on a meet, since we never talked about sexual orientation, but it's unlikely that two straight guys will discuss the new Beyoncé album and the Christina Aguilera concert. In this part, I am very afraid of the past experience, when after sex I lost all interest in a person. I realized that I had no attachment to him, no special value, just a nice guy. So I want to understand how to develop an organic relationship with him... Edited August 14, 2022 by Fastlane Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jude Posted August 14, 2022 Share Posted August 14, 2022 Make yourself more attractive and always act kind to him, in time he will fall in love with you without him noticing. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ToMmY Posted August 14, 2022 Share Posted August 14, 2022 **** his **** Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
hardbrit Posted August 14, 2022 Share Posted August 14, 2022 40 minutes ago, Fastlane said: I can only call him on a meet, since we never talked about sexual orientation, but it's unlikely that two straight guys will discuss the new Beyoncé album and the Christina Aguilera concert. In this part, I am very afraid of the past experience, when after sex I lost all interest in a person. I realized that I had no attachment to him, no special value, just a nice guy. So I want to understand how to develop an organic relationship with him... Girl... Keep talking to him and don't be in a rush to have sex with him. Form a connection and go slow. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Smarticle Posted August 14, 2022 Share Posted August 14, 2022 52 minutes ago, Fastlane said: but it's unlikely that two straight guys will discuss the new Beyoncé album and the Christina Aguilera concert. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Bloodflowers. Posted August 14, 2022 Share Posted August 14, 2022 Just continue talking and then after a month or two, go out on a date at night and have a first kiss at the park underneath the stars Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
cOe Posted August 14, 2022 Share Posted August 14, 2022 This sounds like the dream. Go for it sis Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Fastlane Posted August 14, 2022 Author Share Posted August 14, 2022 (edited) 6 minutes ago, cOe said: This sounds like the dream. Go for it sis I can't believe too. He's hot as hell too, slim and has a shy personality. I don't want to lose a chance, but need to move carefully. Edited August 14, 2022 by Fastlane Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Zaram Posted August 14, 2022 Share Posted August 14, 2022 18 minutes ago, Bloodflowers. said: Just continue talking and then after a month or two, go out on a date at night and have a first kiss at the park underneath the stars That sounds romantic Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
truthteller Posted August 14, 2022 Share Posted August 14, 2022 even an organic hits need some payola or radio push Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
AbeHicks Posted August 14, 2022 Share Posted August 14, 2022 Suck his D in the handicapped bathroom stall Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Fastlane Posted August 14, 2022 Author Share Posted August 14, 2022 I found him on Tinder. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
jesus del rey Posted August 14, 2022 Share Posted August 14, 2022 1 hour ago, Fastlane said: I found him on Tinder. I hope you'll match and make this a The Roof worthy thread Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Pacify Him Posted August 14, 2022 Share Posted August 14, 2022 Just keep doing it and give him lots of reciprocal attention. Key word: reciprocation. Some people move fast and some move slow. Don’t be surprised if it took them more than a year to ask you out. The more you don’t think about wanting a relationship, the more it grows organically Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
T.O.A.D.S. Posted August 14, 2022 Share Posted August 14, 2022 1 hour ago, truthteller said: even an organic hits need some payola or radio push Period Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Bloodflowers. Posted August 14, 2022 Share Posted August 14, 2022 2 hours ago, Fastlane said: I found him on Tinder. Did you swipe to match? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Topaz Posted August 14, 2022 Share Posted August 14, 2022 Def keep spending time and if u think having sex will ruin it bc of the connection at least you know he wasnt the one for you. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Fastlane Posted August 14, 2022 Author Share Posted August 14, 2022 1 hour ago, Bloodflowers. said: Did you swipe to match? I didn't choose him because I'm not sure if he has Tinder+ to view his fans. It seems to me that it is too early to move on to active actions and you need a “moment” to show your interest and feelings. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Into The Void Posted August 14, 2022 Share Posted August 14, 2022 5 hours ago, Fastlane said: I can only call him on a meet, since we never talked about sexual orientation, but it's unlikely that two straight guys will discuss the new Beyoncé album and the Christina Aguilera concert. In this part, I am very afraid of the past experience, when after sex I lost all interest in a person. I realized that I had no attachment to him, no special value, just a nice guy. So I want to understand how to develop an organic relationship with him... Don't have sex to early? Develop feelings first I guess and this sounds like a you problem I mean your telling us you lost interest. Why did u lose interest in past experience? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Fastlane Posted August 14, 2022 Author Share Posted August 14, 2022 1 hour ago, Insanity said: Don't have sex to early? Develop feelings first I guess and this sounds like a you problem I mean your telling us you lost interest. Why did u lose interest in past experience? Because it was always one scenario that we would start sending dick pictures and get ****** on the first date. Apparently, having received the "victim", I no longer received any interest in learning more about her (hobbies, interests, biography details). It is done. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Oktober Knight Posted August 14, 2022 Share Posted August 14, 2022 Just keep talking and see where it goes, there's nothing more organic than that. If it leads up to dinner or future dates, then you're on the right track. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
PrettyHurts Posted August 14, 2022 Share Posted August 14, 2022 Talk to them Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
imabadkid Posted August 14, 2022 Share Posted August 14, 2022 7 hours ago, ToMmY said: **** his **** basically. men only care about sex so that likely is the quickest way to his heart. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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