discussion Post Pride Depression & Life Choices

[PoisonPill]

I know it's much easier said than done, but sometimes in life you just need to take the leap even if you're not completely ready. Save every coin you make, try to earn cash the side selling your stuff online, find a place you can afford on the outskirts of Amsterdam... it will be hard but living an authentic happy life cannot be delayed.

 

 

Edited August 8, 2022 by PoisonPill

[Blankspace2010]

Move to Amsterdam babe. Life is too short. 

[Daddy]

And I'm over here in Berlin avoiding Pride cause I'm already surrounded by all kinds of gays all the time

[Cain]

21 minutes ago, Love Again said:

This is really a struggle for me as well because as much as I love my friend group, it’s really hard sometimes to not have friends in real life with the same interests, same music taste etc. 
 

On the other hand though, I could NEVER move to Amsterdam. I’m way too insecure to handle the gay scene there I would probably cry all the time and never go out in fear of being judged 

You can live in Amsterdam and avoid the cringey gayscene

[hardbrit]

37 minutes ago, Love Again said:

This is really a struggle for me as well because as much as I love my friend group, it’s really hard sometimes to not have friends in real life with the same interests, same music taste etc. 
 

On the other hand though, I could NEVER move to Amsterdam. I’m way too insecure to handle the gay scene there I would probably cry all the time and never go out in fear of being judged 

Same My friends either talk about hooking up with girls, and my girl friends talk about how the guys went up to her at the bar and got her a cheap drink What are we suppossed to say? Don't they notice how quiet we get when they talk about their experiences?

[Solaria]

2 minutes ago, hardbrit said:

Same My friends either talk about hooking up with girls, and my girl friends talk about how the guys went up to her at the bar and got her a cheap drink What are we suppossed to say? Don't they notice how quiet we get when they talk about their experiences?

It’s so unfair that you basically have a very late start in dating / sex etc when you are gay due to ur self discovery phase lasting longer. It’s also just not as easy / practically impossible when you are not conventionally attractive

[rzal]

1 hour ago, Whis said:

I’m from Belgium, not the Netherlands

I have to live atleast 3 more years in my current appartment  I absolutely love my current appartment though. I could use these 3 years to save as much money as possible maybe?

 

Thank you so much by the way, I really could use some people to talk to.
I LOVE my friends in real life but I don’t want to bother them with my gaydrama.

Can you visit a bigger city more often? Belgium is pretty small. 

[hardbrit]

30 minutes ago, Love Again said:

It’s so unfair that you basically have a very late start in dating / sex etc when you are gay due to ur self discovery phase lasting longer. It’s also just not as easy / practically impossible when you are not conventionally attractive

My not conventionally attractive straight friends ALL have partners. The gay scene is just too difficult tbh

[Chemist]

2 hours ago, Cain said:

Maybe in the US, I’d argue that in the Netherlands the quality of life is definitely better in big cities than in small towns. The only places where the quality of life is even better is in rich towns just outside of the big cities, but again you’d also need to be rich for that

Amsterdam is way more expensive than the rest of The Netherlands though. At least when it comes to rents

[Solaria]

10 minutes ago, hardbrit said:

My not conventionally attractive straight friends ALL have partners. The gay scene is just too difficult tbh

I just hate hate hookup culture. I know it works for a lot of gays and I get why, but the act of being purely judged on ur looks, a compartment where I don't feel secure in at all, just makes me really anxious. I dont think I could handle the rejection from it at all 

[Jagger]

I liked pride when I was in college. Now that I'm 26 though I find gay culture so cringe like it pretends to be so open minded but at the end of the day anyone that doesn't conform to what they consider gay enough is judged   and don't even get me started on the hyper sexuality. like I'm tryna move to Montana or something at this point and get out of my gay state lol at least the gays there will be into the outdoors, camping, sports, etc. i have nothing in common with city gays ?

Edited August 8, 2022 by Jagger

[Whis]

It’s sad to read that many of y’all had bad experiences with pride. I’ve never felt more free.

 

The only thing I felt was that other gays wouldn’t even try to look at me/flirt with me because I don’t have a muscle body 

Edited August 9, 2022 by Whis