discussion Why did you cheat on your partner?

[OmegaRidley]

1 hour ago, Jude said:

Huh? Been there and didn't get what's painful about it lol. I guess most ppl are just emotionally weak.

Yes I am and that's why my partner loves me. 

And excuse me but you don't have any authority to tell me what's morally wrong or right. 

What's edgy about my post? It's already 2022 ffs.  I didn't know this place is full of nuns.

Not cheating is not being a nun, it’s being a decent human being… 

[Rev8]

I almost cheated, basically gave it to destiny

but in the end, it didn't happen. I think I feel better because I was veeery conflicted

Was still interested in my previous fling and almost gave in (even tho he doesnt deserve me)

 

 

About being cheated on..we weren't in a relationship officially

but it was something very similar

he lied about it, I found it from a grindr person I actually talked the day after he did it

dont think he felt much remorse or whatever, he is an opportunist imo

But I would much rather prefer for him to not hide it and be open about it, since I wouldn't have been against him experimenting and whatever

I knew he wouldn't be my one and only anyways, I knew I just loved him very much...but it was obvious that we weren't one for another

Like...why couldn't it be good and open, while we were in this Love situation? But I guess I shouldn't be surprised since he was at the beginning of experimenting with boys (he is bi) and he didn't know how to act

it's funny cuz his longest relationship (that was with a girl) ended with her cheating on him. Kind of not surprised that she did it now? He really has issues

but u know..we all get drawn to toxic ppl

 

I've forgiven him countless of times and it's actually for myself. It's no use to try and show him why he is wrong anymore. He just takes it as me berating him and prolly treating him like a child (which is funny since he can't even argue with me, because I show him how wrong he is. he just doesn't have arguments against what I am saying (and he actually is experienced in arguing since that's his professional sphere)) We just use eachother for sex now rly..I get emotional sometimes but I am much more conscious about how going for it, is a bad idea and know that that's just my nature. Thank god that Im not so easily swayed by my heart, total sabotage organ in the relationship circle.

[Jude]

57 minutes ago, Hot Volcano said:

I specifically remember you saying in the Gaga base a while ago that you slept with a married man 

 

That's why I don't take these hypocrites on this site seriously. 

[simplywohoo]

35 minutes ago, Jude said:

 

That's why I don't take these hypocrites on this site seriously. 

I mean you can do whatever you want but it's really shocking to me that you don't see how it's shitty to hurt someone that is in love with you. If it's an open relationship and both parties are fine with it, it's absolutely fine and also not cheating but if you agreed to be exclusive and break that promise, how do you not see this as a dick move?

 

[The Last of Us]

I would never cheat on my partner and if I was ever cheated on, the relationship would end immediately. That’s just something I couldn’t forgive. 

[PopKills]

3. Do you think it's impossible to NEVER cheat ONCE during your entire love life?

Obviously depends on the person and circumstances,

 

4. Would you forgive your partner after cheating on you? Why or why not?

I actually did forgive my bf for cheating because it was one time during our first relationship (we broke up a few weeks later) and it wasn’t until a year later, when we were half a year in our second run, that I found out about it. 
Tbh if we hadn’t broken up in between I don’t think I could’ve forgiven him also if he were the kind of person to just cheat for fun I wouldn’t trust him anymore. But at that point it just wouldn’t make any sense to break up a great relationship for something that happened a year earlier. It’s all about the when, how, why.

[ABeyBraith]

I don’t enter monogamous relationships, therefore never cheat. 

[ProudLBS]

I haven’t cheated on my boyfriend and don’t intend to.

 

Though he has my blessing to cheat on me with his str8 best friend if he ever gets the chance  and I can attend orgies as I’m into voyeurism (but like a diabetic at a candy store: no touching!)

Edited August 2, 2022 by ProudLBS

[Pierrot]

No but I've been cheated on by someone I loved. I was almost suicidal it hurt so badly. Please never cheat or take cheating lightly. 

[JonginBey]

16 hours ago, Hot Volcano said:

I specifically remember you saying in the Gaga base a while ago that you slept with a married man 

[GoodGuyGoneGhetto]

22 hours ago, Juanny said:

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  go somewhere. You’re trash for saying it’s okay to hurt another person and treat them like they’re disposable because you’re feeling horny one day. 

I don’t understand why you’re getting mad at his comment though, Babe. 
 

Like…

 

You’ll never cheat. He clearly doesn’t care and think cheating is okay. Ignore it.

 

 

OT: I’ve never cheated but I’ve been cheated on. 
 

Well, I’ve dated people in the past, some I’ve dated for a while, and then still had fun with others but we were never official yet as BF’s. Once we made it official, I was faithful. Does that count as cheating? If so, I’m guilty. 

Edited August 3, 2022 by GoodGuyGoneGhetto

[Power love]

22 hours ago, Hot Volcano said:

I specifically remember you saying in the Gaga base a while ago that you slept with a married man

[GoodGuyGoneGhetto]

10 minutes ago, Juanny said:

what in the world is the purpose of this post  

 

you can literally say that about anything we talk about here. someone says incorrect facts about xyz. Just ignore it! I BET you I can find a post of you quoting someone with disagreement about something with this same logic

 

it’s a discussion forum. To discuss. I think cheating is wrong and so I voice my opinion about it. So please miss me with this nonsesne

What do you mean “what in the world is this post”?

 

I literally wrote out my thoughts. 
 

It literally isn’t that deep either, but okay King. 
 

 

11 hours ago, Pierrot said:

No but I've been cheated on by someone I loved. I was almost suicidal it hurt so badly. Please never cheat or take cheating lightly. 

Sorry to hear that Hon. x

[Uncatena]

23 hours ago, Hurem said:

According to people who are not sociopaths, I guess.

Thinking someone is a sociopath for having the opinion that cheating isn’t the worst thing of all time is such a weird thing to say lmao

[FreeXone]

Im not monogamous at all lmao

 

I get BORED

Edited August 3, 2022 by FreeXone

[Hurem]

1 hour ago, ChapelHooker said:

Thinking someone is a sociopath for having the opinion that cheating isn’t the worst thing of all time is such a weird thing to say lmao

You don’t see any sociopathic behavior in laughing at people who consider cheating a bad thing? Cheating implies lying and hurting another’s person feelings and with the kind of lack of empathy, you’re a sociopath in my book.

[TMRA]

I never cheated on my boyfriend but my ex of 4 years cheated on me.

I was really hurt and looking back I forgave him because I guess I was scared of being alone. But after like a few months I broke up with him because I just couldnt trust him anymore.

 

[Archetype]

No, it’s a really shitty thing to do to someone if you love them.  However, I wouldn’t consider it grounds for breaking up unless the cheating was something more than sex and it wasn’t a regular occurrence.  I typically believe that people can work things out if they are able to stay calm and talk about their feelings in an honest way without trying to hurt or demean one another, even if it’s uncomfortable.  

[zasderfght]

Cheating is how you and your partner define it. That being said... 

 

If I was with someone, and I was thinking about how much more satisfying it would be to sleep with another person and/or I was truly unhappy in the relationship, I'd at least be courteous to break up with the person I was seeing.

 

If someone cheated on me, I'd find it VERY difficult to take them back. That's not me being emotionally weak, as another person alleged, that's me understanding a boundary-- don't cheat on me, clearly-- that my partner knew very well about was crossed. And a boundary that was WILLINGLY crossed, at that. 

 

Yes, it's 2022, and language is evolving. Attitudes and perspectives surrounding sex and relationships and cheating are changing, but to say we shouldn't make a big deal out of cheating/a clear (and deliberate) betrayal of your partner's trust is ridiculous. 

Edited August 9, 2022 by zasderfght

[drip drop]

On 8/3/2022 at 11:59 AM, Archetype said:

No, it’s a really shitty thing to do to someone if you love them.  However, I wouldn’t consider it grounds for breaking up unless the cheating was something more than sex and it wasn’t a regular occurrence.  I typically believe that people can work things out if they are able to stay calm and talk about their feelings in an honest way without trying to hurt or demean one another, even if it’s uncomfortable.  

i think this part must be before than the cheating takes place 

[Iceland]

Never forgive cheaters. They will do it again.

 

 

[Archetype]

3 hours ago, drip drop said:

i think this part must be before than the cheating takes place 

Nnn I’m not speaking from experience here but if you really love someone, and you can spot BS, it’s worth it to hear why your bf or w/e cheated and what led to it.  That doesn’t mean you’ll end up staying together, but it’s better off to understand why they did it.  At least you can decide with more of a clear conscious and try to either repair or end things without regret.  Maybe this is more geared towards people in long term relationships and marriages, where you are together for more than just sex or looks, than short term relationships. 

[Dante]

i'm a Libra

[Before Today]

18 hours ago, Dante said:

i'm a Libra

so it's a yes? I'm a libra too lol

[Arrows]

Never have, never will, never been cheated on despite having had multiple partners   Guess I attract the good ones.

Edited August 10, 2022 by Arrows