HANZ94 Posted February 4, 2022 Share Posted February 4, 2022 (edited) I finally did with my entire family at 27 years old I am mexican, I live in a northern state and my family still lives in a very small city, meanwhile I live in the capital of the state which has like 1 million people I've been wanting to do it for a long time but this month something really pushed me to finally do it. I had an injury in my foot so I Couldnt walk for a month (january) so All I could do is watch movies and tv while staying at my parents house I watched the movie brokeback mountain for the first time in my life and man it really hit me hard, no other movie made me feel like this and impacted my way of viewing life, I could not waste another day in the closet so I finally told my family. I was soooo depressed in january, like never before, crying all day thinking about that movie and how my life could end the same way, I was always at my room with the door closed and crying non stop, I HAD to come out NOW I asked my mom to take me to the store but once we were getting there I asked to stop and park the car. then I simply told her, she was shocked, she even said she thought I was the son with the least chances of being gay, she just never expected it, she cried, I cried but she told me that she loved me no matter what and nothing would change. that was on sunday and I actually had to leave that day to come back to my place but before doing that I told my older brother and he was also very accepting, he said he saw it coming tho, he said he always knew but never wanted to push me to come out, he said "that's something you should do when you feel ready" I also cried with him and told him how it hurt to be hiding all these years, he gave me a hug and told me that everything was gonna be OK. I couldnt tell my father tho, he has always been kind of homophobic and made hurtful jokes in the past, he is the reason I stayed in the closet all this years, I was SCARED of him but I also loved him cause he has always been a great father, I asked my mother and my older brother if they could tell him I was gay while I was leaving the city. Once I got to my apartment my mother called me and said the most shocking words I've ever heard in my life "We told your father about you, he is shocked but says he still loves you and nothing would change, family will always be first, it doesnt matter what others say, he loves you and said it's a shame you are not home cause he wanted to give you a hug" I never expected this to happen, it felt like a dream. the next day they all told my younger brother and sister and as expected they accepted me as well (they have always been very open minded) and even sent me a message telling how I was still the most unique and favorite brother for them. I am SHOCKED, all my life I prepared myself for the worst only to end up being the opposite, now I regret not coming out A LOT sooner, I should have known my family would love me no matter what, I feel so blessed right now, I'm still crying tho, it's just A LOT of emotions coming all together, happines, regret, relief, anger, all of that at once now it feels weird tho to be this vulnerable and exposed cause people finally know who I really am it's been exactly 2 week since I've been out of the closet and life really feels different now, I'm so thankful to god for giving me this wonderful family 1 week later after coming out I finally talked to my father and he said the most wonderful things to me I swear he gave me a speech/moment similar to that scene in Call Me By Your Name when the father talks to Elio and how he knows it and he accepts it and even encourages him to live his life to the fullest. My father Also said that if I ever have a lover/boyfriend I am so welcome to bring him home and meet my family, I never in a million years expected him to say that I'm so happy right now and blessed for having this family btw I made an Insta post, yall can meet me and my family https://www.instagram.com/p/CZfrufUpDYJ/ Edited February 12, 2022 by HANZ94 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
slik Posted February 4, 2022 Share Posted February 4, 2022 Congratulations! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Zeferino Posted February 4, 2022 Share Posted February 4, 2022 Felicidades, me alegra que todo haya salido bien Not you being my neighbor Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Punky Rooster Posted February 4, 2022 Share Posted February 4, 2022 lovely to hear and go and enjoy your life! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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zezar Posted February 4, 2022 Share Posted February 4, 2022 (edited) none of these words are in the bible ? just kidding. happy for you King, we miss you ❤️ Edited February 4, 2022 by zezar Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ATRL Moderator kelly-clarkson Posted February 4, 2022 ATRL Moderator Share Posted February 4, 2022 Felicidades rey @HANZ94, me alegra leer esto Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
gatito Posted February 4, 2022 Share Posted February 4, 2022 we’re happy for you Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
liam13 Posted February 4, 2022 Share Posted February 4, 2022 Congratulations I’m happy for you you have a great family too, i’m a bit jelly tbh. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Miss Show Business Posted February 4, 2022 Share Posted February 4, 2022 How wonderful! So happy for you. Congratulations! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
BTS Posted February 4, 2022 Share Posted February 4, 2022 (edited) So happy for you! There's no point having regrets about coming out sooner. It's something that can't be changed. Plus now that you're 27, you live away from home, you (presumably?) have a job and your life together, I'm sure that all contributed to your family's acceptance. They know they have nothing to worry about. You're a great son and have made them proud regardless. Edited February 4, 2022 by BTS Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Sometimes Posted February 4, 2022 Share Posted February 4, 2022 (edited) Congratulations! Coming out and self-acceptance is a very difficult journey, and I'm so proud of you for doing it on your terms and when you felt ready. Edited February 4, 2022 by Sometimes Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
UseYourIllusion2002 Posted February 4, 2022 Share Posted February 4, 2022 Congratulations Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Roberto Posted February 4, 2022 Share Posted February 4, 2022 Felicidades, cariño. Nada mejor que ser aceptado tal como eres y que eso te dé paz y tranquilidad. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Technicolor Posted February 4, 2022 Share Posted February 4, 2022 Happy for you! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ATRL Moderator Legend E Posted February 4, 2022 ATRL Moderator Share Posted February 4, 2022 So happy for you Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
DuffLavigne Posted February 4, 2022 Share Posted February 4, 2022 Congrats, I know you must be relieved Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
caleb. Posted February 4, 2022 Share Posted February 4, 2022 I'm happy for you. Go live your best life. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Nightingale Posted February 4, 2022 Share Posted February 4, 2022 I'm so happy for you. Congrats on getting here Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
abrahamjmr Posted February 4, 2022 Share Posted February 4, 2022 ¡Me siento sumamente feliz por ti! Así debería ser siempre. Te envío un enorme abrazo, querido. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Rev8 Posted February 4, 2022 Share Posted February 4, 2022 Yass ***** Sending u love and Congrats! It's great to hear that u are gonna be living like your own self, free!! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
GuyNextDoor Posted February 4, 2022 Share Posted February 4, 2022 Felicidades we Me sacó una sonrisa leer tu post. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Oktober Knight Posted February 4, 2022 Share Posted February 4, 2022 Awwww congratulations! I love hearing successful coming out stories like this. Your family sounds so loving and you're very lucky to have their support. I'm very happy for you! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
HANZ94 Posted February 4, 2022 Author Share Posted February 4, 2022 (edited) thank you all for your kind words yes I'm so happy and lucky jamas habia sido mas feliz en mi vida Edited February 12, 2022 by HANZ94 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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