tost1 Posted Wednesday at 11:43 PM Posted Wednesday at 11:43 PM I'm sure there's a valid psychological explanation for it but, sadly, I'm not a psychologist
SmittenCake Posted Wednesday at 11:55 PM Author Posted Wednesday at 11:55 PM 11 minutes ago, tost1 said: I'm sure there's a valid psychological explanation for it but, sadly, I'm not a psychologist Steve lacey said he couldn't see himself w a black man because they're basically family or something or whatever lmao so hmm maybe it is psychological
sugarysunflower Posted Wednesday at 11:55 PM Posted Wednesday at 11:55 PM The irony that he rationalises his choice to not date other men of the same ethnic background is because they all have trauma.
Loca Posted Thursday at 12:00 AM Posted Thursday at 12:00 AM A preference that's built from self-hate that was systematically enforced on him, so, both. 7
dumbsparce Posted Thursday at 12:03 AM Posted Thursday at 12:03 AM (edited) There's no way he didn't say that for clicks. He said he's horny af and gets rejected a lot so what better way for him to find a man than a good old stunt for exposure? Which is sad in itself bc he's very good looking. Edited Thursday at 12:05 AM by dumbsparce
ArtDeco Posted Thursday at 12:05 AM Posted Thursday at 12:05 AM Probably trauma related. I can empathise on the whole getting hate on Grindr because racism on gay dating / hook up apps is so so real and awful. The guy is talking out of delusion tho and probably clout chasing atp. 2
Trent W Posted Thursday at 12:06 AM Posted Thursday at 12:06 AM I don't understand why people get online and say these things If you have a preference keep it to yourself 4
Devin Posted Thursday at 12:09 AM Posted Thursday at 12:09 AM in the black community there's diff levels. depending on the person and their dating history could be a result of colorism, internalized racism, trauma, or even fetishizing. 5 1
Popular Post Rotunda Posted Thursday at 12:13 AM Popular Post Posted Thursday at 12:13 AM (edited) If your preference doesn't prefer you, you have three choices: 1. Change yourself 2. Change your preferences 3. Get over it You don't get to hold the men you date/sleep with to certain standards and then get upset when they reject you because you don't meet those same standards. We can and should talk about how prejudice helps form our preferences and beauty standards, but if your stance on the topic is just rooted in your wish for hot guys to **** you, you just feel entitled to men's bodies. Edited Thursday at 12:17 AM by Rotunda 15
Domination Posted Thursday at 12:22 AM Posted Thursday at 12:22 AM It feels like whenever I meet someone who complains a lot about getting rejected on apps I'll sympathize with them for a minute before they inevitably start talking about their own preferences which are always rooted in prejudice or fetishization
ArtDeco Posted Thursday at 12:28 AM Posted Thursday at 12:28 AM 11 minutes ago, Rotunda said: If your preference doesn't prefer you, you have three choices: 1. Change yourself 2. Change your preferences 3. Get over it You don't get to hold the men you date/sleep with to certain standards and then get upset when they reject you because you don't meet those same standards. We can and should talk about how prejudice helps form our preferences and beauty standards, but if your stance on the topic is just rooted in your wish for hot guys to **** you, you just feel entitled to men's bodies. Girl if only it was that easy.. You can't just change yourself or preferences if that's what you're psychologically into. There's a lot more psychological stuff to why people are attracted to what they like and it could even stem down to porn addiction or abuse. I think it's more about finding spaces that are more welcoming and catered to what someone is looking for, rather than blaming it on themselves and having to change themselves too.
Rotunda Posted Thursday at 12:32 AM Posted Thursday at 12:32 AM Just now, ArtDeco said: Girl if only it was that easy.. You can't just change yourself or preferences if that's what you're psychologically into. There's a lot more psychological stuff to why people are attracted to what they like and it could even stem down to porn addiction or abuse. I think it's more about finding spaces that are more welcoming and catered to what someone is looking for, rather than blaming it on themselves and having to change themselves too. I don't think it's easy to do any of these things, but it's an inevitability. If you can't or don't want to change yourself or your preferences, you have to make peace with the fact that your dating pool is what it is. That can include finding spaces that maximize your odds, but at the end of the day, nobody is going to move mountains just so you can find a partner. 2
SimpleKindofLife Posted Thursday at 12:35 AM Posted Thursday at 12:35 AM You can see how much the self hatred has ruined his psyche
KingJay Posted Thursday at 01:45 AM Posted Thursday at 01:45 AM I Mean idk. I see a lot of black men that say "I only date other black men" or Latinos saying that they only date Latinos. What does that mean? 2
-brian Posted Thursday at 01:49 AM Posted Thursday at 01:49 AM I have no patience for this topic anymore Bc there is no solution, nobody has to be attracted to you, lower your standards or get the **** over it omg. Just a bunch of cry babies virtue signaling And this man is nuts, calling others ugly and admitting to racial preferences Stop seeking validation from how many hot men tap you on Grindr 9 1
Gov Hooka Posted Thursday at 01:56 AM Posted Thursday at 01:56 AM (edited) Let's leave - trying to turn getting rejected by white muscle gays (especially cuz some of y'all heauxs exclusively thirst after them and y'all know damn well who you are) into a pointless, narrative on "sexual racism" -behind in 2024, mkay. Edited Thursday at 01:57 AM by Gov Hooka 2 1
Katamari Posted Thursday at 02:31 AM Posted Thursday at 02:31 AM I'm confused is he famous? Why is he making a video like this and posting it on social media like we care ppl share way too much on the internet for no reason
teresaguidice Posted Thursday at 02:45 AM Posted Thursday at 02:45 AM 12 minutes ago, Katamari said: Why is he making a video like this and posting it on social media like we care ragebait to farm engagement or degenerative brain disease 1
Colmillo Posted Thursday at 03:25 AM Posted Thursday at 03:25 AM Self hatred definitely, if you really love yourself and think you're hot why wouldn't you find other people from the same race also hot? 1
Minto Posted Thursday at 03:34 AM Posted Thursday at 03:34 AM (edited) i'm sorry but how are you not getting attention on sniffies? even anon profiles get messages on that cesspool of an app Edited Thursday at 03:34 AM by Minto 3
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