discussion Is it a preference or self hate? Black gay only wants white & Latino men!

[brazil]

What i usually think is that it's ok to have a preference, but out of millions of different types of black men you can't find one attractive? Or you're dismissive exclusively due to race? That seems like self-hate to me.

[Tropez]

This is self-hate. If you can't find men of your own race attractive, and make a large sweeping dismissal of those men due to trauma then that's why you're single. Deep down inside, I can imagine this person has disdain for himself due to his race. 

[Cottonmouth]

I don't think it's self-hate but the reasoning he gives for why was really off.  I think the one user nailed it on the head. You can't have standards and then get upset when people hold you to theirs. 

 

I have no issues dating within my culture. But I feel I do notice 'red flags' a lot more easier from guys in my culture than I do for others. Hence why I feel the pool for guys who share the same background as me is smaller.

 

I thought that's what he was initially referring too before going with "spreading the melanin" smh. 

 

I also find people just don't like dating themselves. I don't necessarily like the idea of dating someone who looks like me and  could be my brother . I feel a lot of couples get comments for looking like siblings - they go viral every so often on twitter. I wouldn't route that in self-hate though. But I will never understand why exclude a certain race from the start. I like a person for who they are and what they represent as opposed to aesthetics. 

Edited Thursday at 07:26 AM by Cottonmouth

[MP2K]

The series of videos he's posted since the first one prove that he's mental and self-hating, he even admits to having those issues in the past (which clearly hasn't improved).  And good luck getting you a Mexican man, you just stereotyped them and basically described a straight man is what you're looking for. 

[toast]

Reads more like someone who hasn't fully processed their feelings about how their race interacts with their sexuality.

 

I don't think this is necessarily self-hate, but I definitely think he has some unpacking to do .

[BGKC]

We all have standards and/or types (sexually). It only gets weird when you yap on about your sexual preferences and fetishizes as act as though it's "sad" that people aren't matching up with your idea of "love"

Love is blind and it doesn't always match up with your sexual fantasies. This boy is just a young, dumb lustful attention seeker who needs to go to a bathhouse or something. 

Edited Thursday at 08:12 AM by BGKC

[MattieB]

White supremacy did such monumental damage right down to the genetic level it's going to take generations and willing effort to begin to remove the damage.

 

We not only have to tackle external forces like racists/white nationalism but internal forces like c**ns/sellouts, colorism, xenophobia, misogynoir etc

 

You know it's bad when every nonwhite country has a bleaching/inferiority complex problem

 

Sidebar It is mostly always the dark skin black folks especially black men suffering from extreme self-hate and we know why

Edited Thursday at 08:25 AM by MattieB

[Embustera]

Self hate, you can have a prefences but you have attractive people in every race.

Edited Thursday at 08:40 AM by Embustera

[ImsoLOUD]

it gives trauma which is unfortunate 

 

It's the opposite for me tho… I'm black and other black men (esp w/ fat asses) rule my world 

[imabadkid]

from watching his video, it seems more like he doesn't know how to attract a man because he's not ugly. Gays don't realize, you have to lure a man in, u have to make him intrigued by you, it can be exhausting but that's the game u have to play, going on grin*r are saying, "you're hot lets f*ck" doesn't always do it especially if you want masc men who 99.9.% of everyone else is chasing.

 

no tea no shade but a lot of girlies don't know how to get a man or keep a man. when it comes to preference and self hate, that stuff goes so deep who knows why he feels that way? Clearly there's some form of trauma but I also see a lot of people say (from other races) they're only looking for black, etc. do not even get me started on straight couples where the c*ck husband only wants black men to bang his wife, it gives v much fetishism but who knows why people like what they like. 
 

even the part where he says he asked the bottom is he ugly like GIRL men like confidence, you have to know you're that b*tch and you know how to satisfy and any man that isn't interested that's his lost. he seems to have low self esteem which also could be turning people off to him. 
 

   

Edited Thursday at 11:52 AM by imabadkid

[Khal]

It's always them, omg

 

Every single time I've come across a black, asian, latino, arab etc gay online complaining about how they're struggling because whites don't find them attractive, they always end up being the types who also want to date exclusively outside their race. Weirdos  

[smartalek22]

You can have whatever preference you want to (but keep it to yourself) as long as you accept everybody else also has that exact same freedom. 
 

If you're pathetically hypocritical about it then wipe your own tears. 

[Namie-Knowles]

Mr. Septum saying that since Black people are homophobic he can't find himself dating one in a video. I guess White people are really nice to Black people like himself and not homophobic at all. 

 

He has bullshit reasonings and it boils down to "White Supremacy has made me hate myself and people that look like me." He's self-hating and cooked. On top of that, he is trying to find "love" on ******* Sniffies.

 

To end this: Yes he has a requirement (not preference) that was formulated by the hand of White Supremacy. He's OUT.

 

10 hours ago, Khal said:

It's always them, omg

 

Every single time I've come across a black, asian, latino, arab etc gay online complaining about how they're struggling because whites don't find them attractive, they always end up being the types who also want to date exclusively outside their race. Weirdos  

Chile, yes. It's the most pathetic thing I've ever seen. 

[Elementary]

Black man: I don't date white

World: Ok, cool

 

White man: I don't date POC

World: WTF you racist ****

[AvadaKedavra]

I dont think ethnicity is the situation here. He's flamboyant and a bit extra and the gays are very in love with masc and like serious men. Thats his situation with rejection
As a latino i personally would love to have a white, black, latino, east-asian, middle eastern boyfriend. Each one for each day of the week.
I dont like preferences. There's hot men in every race-ethnicity.

[Sir Galahad]

4 hours ago, Elementary said:

Black man: I don't date white

World: Ok, cool

 

White man: I don't date POC

World: WTF you racist ****

Not really. There's clearly been a lot of backlash towards the guy for obvious reason.

 

He clearly has self-esteem issues imo. He basically says that the black guy needs to be a tall Adonis. Seems like the standard isn't the same for others.