Thoughts on homophobic coworkers...?

[Da Vinci]

For some reason it was the one I LEAST expected but wow he really showed his real colors, so disappointing

[Europe]

Call him aside and discuss how his comments made you feel and ask him try to empathize with you - if you were on good terms before this should work.

[glitch]

Write down what they said. If it happens again go to HR

[Janet]

LOVE them.

[Cheers]

Unfortunately it might just be one of those cases where you have to go to work, do your job, and just ignore him. Unless he's harassing you or something. 

[Odette Violet]

if they reach to the point they are harassing you, better report it in your HR. Companies usually have employee handbook against discrimination. 

[Colmillo]

Seduce him and suck the homophobia out of him

 

 

Jk, just ignore him, it's impossible to like every single co-worker so I guess that's the best thing to do, only talk to him if you have to.

 

Does he know that you're gay btw? And if so, does he talk to you in a friendly way?

[getBusy]

Report to HR (if there's something to report) but also remember that HR is not your friend. 

Edited 3 hours ago by getBusy

[Da Vinci]

7 minutes ago, Colmillo said:

Does he know that you're gay btw? And if so, does he talk to you in a friendly way?

He doesn't know, I follow a "don't ask, don't tell" policy outside of my inner circles

 

[Just a Gay on ATRL]

What is the backstory/what was said?

 

But regardless, report to HR. If your company doesn't have your back after this, leave.

[Da Vinci]

Just now, Just a Gay on ATRL said:

What is the backstory/what was said?

 

But regardless, report to HR. If your company doesn't have your back after this, leave.

He went on a rant about "PC culture" and said that hopefully the world will "return back to normal" amidst all the LGBTs 

[NewStanner]

6 minutes ago, Da Vinci said:

He went on a rant about "PC culture" and said that hopefully the world will "return back to normal" amidst all the LGBTs 

*** all of these people who are so mad that gay/trans folks are finally able to be themselves openly. Zero tolerance policy, literally. Sadly, the world has recently been only getting more homophobic/transphobic, but all we can do is fight back and don't let them win. Any sort of hate speech should be reported

[Just a Gay on ATRL]

8 minutes ago, Da Vinci said:

He went on a rant about "PC culture" and said that hopefully the world will "return back to normal" amidst all the LGBTs 

Yeah, yikes. I stand by my first post to report to HR straight away.  I wouldn't even bother discussing with the coworker, he's clearly unhinged and best to just avoid him as much as you can. This is not something you should have to handle on your own. I would escalate.

 

 

[Colmillo]

18 minutes ago, Da Vinci said:

He doesn't know, I follow a "don't ask, don't tell" policy outside of my inner circles

 

Then I suggest just distance yourself from him, or throw hints that you're gay, if he's homophobic he's going to distance himself from you

 

[Anthinos]

I would tell him that he is welcome to have his opinion but that you are gay and it hurts you when he talks like that. Stop hiding and openly show that you are gay if you live in a safe country. Society doesn't become more tolerant if we hide. Personally, I talk about it openly. If someone asks me if I have a girlfriend, I say that I like men. I wear a small LGBT flag as a necklace etc. It's good when people get to know someone who is LGBT+ and they realize that we are no different from them.

 

If he threatens or insults you, you should of course report it.
 

[dumbsparce]

I don't think there's anything you can do if he just runs his mouth about gays in general. If it gets personal or he starts harrassing you though then you should take action asap.

[Genie in a Bottle]

There's nothing you can do about it. Just be grateful that you're not a hateful idiot and don't engage with him outside of what is only necessary. Give him the cold shoulder or grey rock.

[Redstreak]

53 minutes ago, Da Vinci said:

He went on a rant about "PC culture" and said that hopefully the world will "return back to normal" amidst all the LGBTs 

Baby that's when you should've said "you mean people like me?"

[LegaMyth]

If they try you, wait until you have a moment alone with them, and bust them upside their heads.

 

It's 2024. If you can't have the decency to treat me like a human being, I will beat your a**. There is no more to discuss.

[PrettyHurts]

end him

 

[Cheers]

1 hour ago, getBusy said:

also remember that HR is not your friend

the realest thing said in this thread

[Reginald]

That's your opportunity for an r/traumatizethemback moment: coming out after they say something home-of-hobeck

[Smarticle]

Find out if he's DL 

[willmcclure9]

This happened to me once at work.

 

I live in Melbourne (Australia) one of the most progressive cities in Australia. Me and my other gay coworker were in a friendship trio with our boss (straight woman). We were all pretty close and were friends outside of work too. After 4 years she got married to a muslim and then took me and my other friend aside one day and said "sorry i cant be friends with you guys because I disagree with your lifestyle now". We never spoke with her again outside of work stuff and we eventually both quit (me and my other gay co-worker/friend).

 

It was super crazy and sad considering we had been friends for years. 

[Lagerfeld]

Go to HR, but if they don't do anything - treat it as a coworker who just dislikes you. Nothing you can do.

 

This is why they need to know too by the way. **** the don't ask don't tell thing. Let them KNOW.