Jump to content

Passive aggressive roommates; advice on moving out situation?


Recommended Posts

Posted (edited)

I met my roommates from Instagram. He was a friend that I knew through the horror community. I work six days a week and am almost never home. I had a traumatic living experience moving back to my hometown after my abusive ex, and thought this place seemed great due to how they told me they always watch movies all the time, and play board games and were really chill. However day three of living there, they never spoke to me and I noticed they were really weird fast, and then randomly when I went to walk my dog one afternoon he didn't tell me the backyard sliding glass door was broken and because they have cats,  It opened up so I got screamed at and threatened to be kicked out If It ever happened again which made me sick. Ever since then, I have been walking on eggshells.

 

My roommate works from home, and made It quite known that from 8 to 5 It's "quiet time which I respect tho It's crazy since he works In the living room office. However they're serious potheads smoking 24/7 starting at 7 In the morning which they warned me about but It actually makes me sick, and also are extremely dirty.

 

The guy who rents this house Is super passive aggressive to me now, and they seem to nitpick everything I do. I was on the phone with someone and It got heated. I told them to leave me alone for a second which made me break down.

He ran up to my room and started banging on my door. didn't ask if I was okay which he doesn't have to do so but — making threats saying he didn't care about what was going on. That It's business, we're not friends That It's his quiet time, and that we'd have a serious talk If It happens again. This was the only time I have ever gotten loud at this house. I just take care of my dog, and go to work.

 

They put my food In a meat container In the fridge, and I cannot put It anywhere else. They removed the dining table after I used It, and now I have to eat In my room. They leave dishes In the sink that pile up with food, and bugs roam all over them. They leave candles overnight that I have to blow out to not start a fire. They also get on me about the smallest things, and I legit don't know why. I don't even talk to them anymore at this point.

 

He also nitpicks about things like my dog shedding hair on the stairs, despite my leg injury that makes it hard which I clean It 24/7 but sometimes I am busy. I always clean everything, so I don't disagree with him but he acts crazy towards me. He'll text me eight times In a row, or bang on the ceiling to my room even tho I clean It daily. 

 

I work at a theme park, and my coworker from my job after telling him my situation was shocked, and offered me a place to stay. Two months rent free, and closer to both of my jobs. I don't have a lease here, but I'm afraid to tell my roommates now I'm hopefully leaving as It's the 19th. I am afraid of what they'll do. But I can't take It anymore. I'm also delaying It because I'm seeing the new apartment tomorrow, and wanna sign everything before but It's not much of a notice as rent Is due soon. Advice?

Edited by MasterXPosed

Posted

Girl, that seems A LOT more than passive aggressive. I would be booking it out of there asap.

  • Like 2
Posted

You should have moved out on the first day though :suburban:

Posted
Just now, Donquizote said:

You should have moved out on the first day though :suburban:

I've been looking for a place everyday, and finally found one with my coworker to see It tomorrow

Posted

call the cops, they are giving off evil vibes :skull:

Posted

Moving out is the best decision.

 

They sound like not very nice people to live with, and it's not healthy for you to feel uncomfortable all the time when you are home. 

Posted

Start the car. 

Posted

Buy a surveillance camera to monitor your room for anything sinister when you're out.  :rip:

 

 

Posted

I agree with harwee on getting the the camera for your room until you move out....

Do you have a friend you can bring when you tell them you're moving out? I would quietly pack then have someone with you the day you move out and tell them.

Posted (edited)

Gurl pack up your **** in the middle of the night and LEAVE before they do something to you or your dog :biblio:


Have your coworker write up a contract for a short-term lease and establishes clear rules and boundaries so you don't end up on this same situation again.

 

Use these next two months to really lock in and save up as much money for you to be self-sufficient enough to get your own place.

Edited by king_queen
  • Thanks 5
Posted (edited)

I'm not sure how laws work where you are, but if you don't have a formal lease with them, I believe by default you're a month-to-month tenant and can move out whenever (assuming you pay for any period of time where you and your belongings are dwelling in the unit). 
 

Edited by Rotunda
Posted (edited)
3 minutes ago, Rotunda said:

I'm not sure how laws work where you are, but if you don't have a formal lease with them, I believe by default you're a month-to-month tenant and can move out whenever (assuming you pay for any period of time where you and your belongings are dwelling in the unit). 
 

Yeah, he rents the house and I have no lease or written agreement. I just know It's getting close to December 1st, and I have not told them yet. But I wanted to be 100 percent In this new apartment, and have It confirmed before I bring It up. But my friends will be here with me If I need help

Edited by MasterXPosed
Posted
12 minutes ago, MasterXPosed said:

Yeah, he rents the house and I have no lease or written agreement. I just know It's getting close to December 1st, and I have not told them yet. But I wanted to be 100 percent In this new apartment, and have It confirmed before I bring It up. But my friends will be here with me If I need help

Yeah realistically you may be on the hook for December given your jurisdiction may require 30 day notices even without a lease, but ideally you'll be off the hook for anything in 2025 if you can plan your move before the end of this month.

Posted

I wouldn't even tell them anything, I would just grab my things and run away :rip:

  • Thanks 6
Posted

Don't even bother telling them anything, just make sure you leave without issues and go. I'm so sorry to hear what is happening to you

Posted

This sounds like prison. Can't believe you're paying to stay here. If there are any laws see what you can do, like renters rights. 
 

If I were you I would run the first chance I got 

Posted (edited)

oh my Balkan temperament could never, they should be thankful they're not Hungarian, I'd call the cops in a minute and wave them goodbye.  Just leave as soon as possible.

Edited by kellebrity98
Posted
6 hours ago, MasterXPosed said:

I met my roommates from Instagram.

Without even reading the rest, that was your first mistake.

 

Because why are you moving with people you barely know? It's no joke living with people 24/7, you gotta know in advance if you guys bear with each other on a daily basis.

Posted

girl wtf leave asap why are you letting this loser make your life a prison 

Posted
8 hours ago, MasterXPosed said:

My roommate works from home, and made It quite know that from 8 to 5 It's "quiet time which I respect tho It's crazy since he works In the living room office. However they're serious potheads smoking 24/7 starting at 7 In the morning which they warned me about but It actually makes me sick, and also are extremely dirty.

I read everything, but there was no need to read past this! Run!!! I can't imagine the stench and thick air in that house :mazen: 

Posted

That sounds like human torture, girlie u need to leave asap. Who knows what else they've done to your stuff or your room while you were out. 

Posted

A roommate being passive aggressive is one of the worst things that could happen cause there's no real conversation about what to fix to make it better, they just hate you for whatever reason but it's not your fault.

 

Posted

Your story sounds like the perfect horror movie and I'm sorry to hear that. Get out of it asap :biblionana:

Posted

You are scared because they've bullied you and broken you down a bit to accept it. It will feel empowering to tell them you are leaving and know that you are not legally bound to them at all, and never ever have to see them again.

 

Get excited! Things are going to get much better

Posted

What a behaviour! Move out as soon as you can.

×
×
  • Create New...

Important Information

We have placed cookies on your device to help make this website better. You can adjust your cookie settings, otherwise we'll assume you're okay to continue.