FOCK Posted October 29 Posted October 29 (edited) So tonight, an average night, I was in bed & heard a knock on my apartment door around 10:30pm. I live alone & am on the first floor that requires building and lift access so I knew it could've only been one of my neighbours. My neighbour directly across from me had done this once or twice before, with the excuse that he's misplaced his keys & needed me to buzz him back up the lift when he was back from wherever, so I assumed it was just that again. Lo and behold, it was him, but this time seemed different, there was fear in his face & he asked if he could come inside, which had never happened before & I'm not generally an invite people into my space person. But I let him in. He was in a state. Cuts & bruises on his face and lip, highly strung and anxious. He's a nice guy from what I know in passing, scrawny short fellow gay, my age, but aged like Frankie Grande. It very much gave chemsex. He begins to explain to me how over the past 3 months, he's essentially been held hostage in an abusive situation in his own home. He'd met a man at a casino, and taken him home, only… he didn't end up leaving. I'll spare the finer details, but essentially, the man had done jail time for attempted murder, kidnapping & robbery. It first presented itself as a cash-pig/master dynamic - the man did not identify as gay. But quickly, this devolved into something dark. He'd shown me where he'd stabbed him in the thigh with scissors, explained how he'd taken both sets of his keys & his car keys, had choked him with a scarf, threatened to press a hot iron on his face, smothered him and jumped on his head in the bed, beat him, stole his credit card & extorted his money and accounts, punched him in the jaw & gut, schemed him into purchasing heroine for him etc. And he Would. Not. Leave. His sister also dies 10 days into knowing one another & he puts all her belongings into my neighbours car boot. I was at a loss for words at how this could've gone on for 3 months without my awareness. We weren't close but our apartments are right across from one another. This man had weaselled his way into his life in such a way that he was in total control, and would put on a persona of "charm" whenever anyone else was around. I've dated a narc before and know how this goes. So I explained to him the options and the possible outcomes of each. We ended up deciding to go to the local police station. I did not want this dragged out with my involvement now. The problem was, we'd heard that he'd come back into the apartment during the time we were talking - I could see him through my peep hole. So surely he'd know/see us if we walked out. We waited a while and ended up walking out anyway. On the way to the station, roughly a ten minute walk, my neighbour got a call from him that he put on loud speaker - and I could hear the threats he was making. He was watching us, somehow. He asked "who is that mate you're walking with?", "what lies are you telling him about me?", "why are you causing me trouble?" etc. Mind you, this is all in the dark, there's no one around, and I'm freaking the fock out because of how dangerous this man's record is. I couldn't see him anywhere, but apparently he could see us. Anyway, we get to the station, make a statement, they send out a patrol car whilst we're there to see if they can apprehend him as they had sufficient detail from us. They borrowed my key to be able to enter the building/level undetected. They reported back in an hour or so, and they failed to find him. He had left the apartment. They confirmed a restraining order, but noted that it could only be in effect once he was caught and served, in which case he would also be charged & arrested. We were done, so they asked us to head home as it's all they could do until he was found. I'm freaking out now because my neighbour had arranged to stay at his friends until he was caught, but I had no such option, and now felt that I've been "implicated" & potentially a target. How would I feel safe? What if he knocks on my door? Hurts me as punishment for helping? All the fears. As we are walking back from the station, we actually focking spot him. We'd walked RIGHT PAST my neighbours parked car & he was IN THERE. Seemingly asleep? Waiting? It was 3am at this stage, so he may have passed out while waiting for us to return? "Don't look keep walking" I said, "turn this corner quickly"… we hid behind the pub just a road down from our apartment complex. Called the cops. They had someone out within minutes, I was still on the call. They'd asked me to stay put, but every fibre of my being was shaking, I had no sight of the car now, I wasn't sure if he'd spotted and followed us etc. and we were in a dark alley. I braved the walk back up to get a view as the operator confirmed the cops had arrived - and sure enough: Spoiler Arrested. I'm tired & have work in a couple of hours when the sun rises. My anxiety is through the roof. We're getting his locks changed tomorrow & new keys. Have you ever had anyone arrested? Edited October 29 by FOCK 9
LovingDays Posted October 29 Posted October 29 This is so scary wtf. I'm glad they caught him and glad that you guys are safe now
Reginald Posted October 29 Posted October 29 Wow.. wow. You are a really good neighbor, for helping him out during his time of need. Spoiler I am living for these storytime threads today!! The tea is scalding 1
tost1 Posted October 29 Posted October 29 Not yet, but Gaga will get a knock from the local PD soon for not releasing the video
NoOneDiesFromLove Posted October 29 Posted October 29 (edited) No but I have information that can lead to Jennifer Lopez's arrest PS glad you two are safe Edited October 29 by NoOneDiesFromLove 8
LoveInStereo Posted October 29 Posted October 29 Wow, good on you for doing the right thing & helping that man. The situation sounds so scary! I reported a p-phile & got him arrested, convicted & sent to prison 1
The7thStranger Posted October 29 Posted October 29 36 minutes ago, FOCK said: "who is that mate you're walking with?", This jumped out at me. I have to imagine you're in the States with the photo you added, but if he said "mate," I have to wonder if he's British or Irish? If so, that makes me wonder if a deportation isn't on the table.
FOCK Posted October 29 Author Posted October 29 17 minutes ago, LovingDays said: This is so scary wtf. I'm glad they caught him and glad that you guys are safe now Thank you. Honestly, I cracked jokes in the post but it was terrifying. Let alone living through 3 months of it as he did. It's 4am now but I'm having trouble sleeping & feeling super jumpy at every damn little sound. I don't know how many people he knew/knows that could still be around for example and he'd explained how he used to climb up thru windows/balconies etc, so it's got me really on edge, even though he's apprehended. I'm glad to have helped in whatever way I could & don't regret it, though it's gonna take the both of us a while to feel normal/safe at home/in the area again, I think. He'd asked me to be in the room while he gave his statement & it was very insightful as how traumatic memories are recalled/how easily they get blanked out or how we seemingly self-blame/justify. I've encouraged him to get mental & emotional support & surround himself with trusted friends/family for the time being.
B-Luke Posted October 29 Posted October 29 Not per sé but I will have to open an investigation and request informal consultations with Spotify to get to the bottom of Disease's disastrous numbers cause I won't have that
FOCK Posted October 29 Author Posted October 29 (edited) 27 minutes ago, The7thStranger said: This jumped out at me. I have to imagine you're in the States with the photo you added, but if he said "mate," I have to wonder if he's British or Irish? If so, that makes me wonder if a deportation isn't on the table. Australia, Sydney. Both men were indigenous Australian, so there was the added context to consider with the apprehension to seek police help. Plus the additional consideration of how the police would treat a "gay" DV situation. Fortunately, they were helpful, patient & understanding in this instance. Edited October 29 by FOCK
itshyolee Posted October 29 Posted October 29 I was clutching my pearls while reading this omg. I have information that can lead to Madonna's arrest but I haven't called yet
The7thStranger Posted October 29 Posted October 29 1 minute ago, FOCK said: Australia, Sydney. Both men were indigenous Australian, so there was the added context to consider with the apprehension to seek police help. That unfortunately makes sense.
John Slayne Posted October 29 Posted October 29 what a story, that must've been scary af when you knew he was watching you. do you have a bf or a close friend that could stay with you for a couple of weeks? their presence could help you feel a bit safer
Pop Life Posted October 30 Posted October 30 (edited) Sis I'd be a nervous wreck. Especially since he SAW you? Idk how efficient law enforcement is in Sydney, but I hope the police actually hold onto him and don't just toss him back out into the city after a day or two. You did the right thing though, seriously. I once had a co-worker who had a crush on a mutual friend of ours but she was uncomfortable around him because he was clearly not right in the head. One night he admitted to me he'd been stalking her and knew her routine and where she lived. He said if she didn't start being nicer to him he was going to kill her. I tried interpreting it as a joke but he kept giving me all these details about how he was planning to do it so eventually I found an opportunity to slip away and call our boss who called the police. They were waiting for him the next morning. I wasn't there but they said he caused a scene and tried to fight the cops. I was a ball of nerves for a little while after that because on the night he told me we were the only two people on site so he had to have known it was me but thankfully I never saw him again. I hope it goes the same for you too Edited October 30 by Pop Life
Popboi. Posted October 30 Posted October 30 I mean, I've requested it as a lawyer so yes. But never in a situation like the OP.
Alldeezy Posted October 30 Posted October 30 no, remember my ex's housemates would call the cops on each other all the time because they were a bunch of crackheads yelling at each other and I had to keep telling the cops they were doing nothing wrong just having a fight with there partner (but not physically) i hated them
Hephaestus Posted October 30 Posted October 30 Oh my god??? That's so scary, but you did the right thing by helping your neighbor. Who knows what would've happened if you didn't. Take care sis
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