Bussea Posted October 12 Posted October 12 (edited) Im gonna explain it poorly but I do for two of these main reasons: Whenever I'm around straight people in a social setting or even at work and they see me interacting with other gay men they always think that we're either going to flirt with each other or we just HAVE to like/acknowledge each other for their entertainment Every time a gay man comes into my work my coworkers always have to bring him to my attention like okay???! It makes the whole interaction (if we do speak) awkward because it's like we're being gawked at and they're expecting us to flirt with each other or accuse you of doing so for no reason dd Another reason is that a lot of gays will automatically assume that you like them or trying to flirt with them when you're just genuinely trying to make friends. I compliment everyone and just genuinely nice and it always gets misread? so I try to watch my words so I can appear friendly but not too stand offish but then i feel like im not being myself? idk i have a large circle of gays friends I've met in high school and earlier 20s that happened organically, but now it always just a weird cloud of awkwardness when i try to make new friends or interact now? gay, so confusing Edited October 12 by Bussea 1 1
Joey307 Posted October 12 Posted October 12 No and it sounds like it's the straight people making it uncomfortable not you or the other gay person 6
KennethPettyGang Posted October 12 Posted October 12 Yes because I am unfortunately a popular figure in the gay community and they only ever see and fein over one thing
alexrex Posted October 12 Posted October 12 6 minutes ago, Bussea said: I compliment everyone and just genuinely nice and it always gets misread? Many times this very thing happens when you are nice to other people. It's mosty based on how people assume things or read things that are just not there.
Popular Post glitch Posted October 12 Popular Post Posted October 12 12 minutes ago, Bussea said: I compliment everyone and just genuinely nice and it always gets misread? So you randomly messaging me "I'm hard" a few days ago, how was I supposed to read that? 15
glitch Posted October 12 Posted October 12 Anyway to answer the question I'd say it depends on the gay. I find a lot of the 365 party girl gays very judgemental and awkward to be around, but equally I've met a lot of very friendly gay men who are very easy to talk to. I think in settings where I'm talking to a gay guy one on one are fine. It's areas with lots of gays, like gay bars or Carly Rae Jepsen and Azealia Banks concerts, that I find very intimidating. 1
Adam’s Eve Posted October 12 Posted October 12 9 minutes ago, glitch said: So you randomly messaging me "I'm hard" a few days ago, how was I supposed to read that?
itshyolee Posted October 12 Posted October 12 26 minutes ago, Bussea said: Another reason is that a lot of gays will automatically assume that you like them or trying to flirt with them when you're just genuinely trying to make friends. I compliment everyone and just genuinely nice and it always gets misread? so I try to watch my words so I can appear friendly but not too stand offish but then i feel like im not being myself? I feel you on this and it's just so awkward because there were a few times where some guys were feeling themselves because they thought I wanted them, but I just wanted to be friends Sometimes I think about converting to introvertism.
Onyxmage Posted October 12 Posted October 12 No, gay men dont have the power to make me feel uncomfortable.
Odette Violet Posted October 12 Posted October 12 Nope, I don't socialize much nowadays but I'm in good terms with them mostly. Most of my best friends in HS are gays
єѕℓαм Posted October 12 Posted October 12 No i get along well with other gays but sometimes i feel uncomfortable around straight people or maybe just disgusted by some of the things they say/do that's all
ATRL Moderator Juánny Posted October 12 ATRL Moderator Posted October 12 1 hour ago, glitch said: So you randomly messaging me "I'm hard" a few days ago, how was I supposed to read that?
Bussea Posted October 12 Author Posted October 12 1 hour ago, glitch said: So you randomly messaging me "I'm hard" a few days ago, how was I supposed to read that? well normally you can read so I was hoping you wouldn't
Illuminati Posted October 12 Posted October 12 No but I feel awkward with women sometimes if they assume I'm flirting 1
Janet Posted October 12 Posted October 12 Lowkey. I have barely any gay friends and it might have something to do with sexual tension ddd 1 1
BadHabits Posted October 13 Posted October 13 8 hours ago, Bussea said: Im gonna explain it poorly but I do for two of these main reasons: Whenever I'm around straight people in a social setting or even at work and they see me interacting with other gay men they always think that we're either going to flirt with each other or we just HAVE to like/acknowledge each other for their entertainment Every time a gay man comes into my work my coworkers always have to bring him to my attention like okay???! It makes the whole interaction (if we do speak) awkward because it's like we're being gawked at and they're expecting us to flirt with each other or accuse you of doing so for no reason dd Another reason is that a lot of gays will automatically assume that you like them or trying to flirt with them when you're just genuinely trying to make friends. I compliment everyone and just genuinely nice and it always gets misread? so I try to watch my words so I can appear friendly but not too stand offish but then i feel like im not being myself? idk i have a large circle of gays friends I've met in high school and earlier 20s that happened organically, but now it always just a weird cloud of awkwardness when i try to make new friends or interact now? gay, so confusing Wish this was my struggle, I have no gay friends and never related to those gay men who base their whole personality off of being a Mean Girl. 1 1
YouSmellLikeHospital Posted October 14 Posted October 14 (edited) I've noticed that with some straight people who know I'm gay. They get all hyped up and point out to me another gay when they see one like it is a spectacle But also, I feel like I have led some gays on who think there is something more when I just want to be friends I recently met a guy off of Tinder and I thought it was clear that we were only meeting up to be running buddies, but he was very touchy feely and kept making innuendos and comments indicating that he wants me. I laughed them off, but it was kind of an ego boost tbh even though I just want to remain platonic friends I hiked with with another gay that I met on Bumble BFF who was complaining about how gays only want to be friends with people they want to ****, yet he was going on about hooking up with straight guys on there and putting "bisexual" in his profile instead of gay to get his foot in the door with the straights Edited October 14 by YouSmellLikeHospital
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