discussion How do you take someone reacting to your message without responding further?

[Just a Gay on ATRL]

We've all seen it - the person you're talking to will thumbs up, laugh at, heart etc your message and say nothing further afterwards. Obviously context matters in these cases, but how do you typically take it when someone reacts to your message without any further communication?

 

I feel like my instant gut reaction is that they're always trying to end the conversation.   Which obviously can be appropriate sometimes but also can feel really abrupt and at worst, passive aggressively telling you to stop talking to them

[illia]

I do this sometimes, but it's only because I have nothing to add to the topic

[KennethPettyGang]

Perhaps you should stop over analyzing it and come to the conclusion that if this is a constant occurrence it means they don't wanna talk to you clearly 

 

a person truly interested in conversation would continue 

[Just a Gay on ATRL]

40 minutes ago, KennethPettyGang said:

Perhaps you should stop over analyzing it and come to the conclusion that if this is a constant occurrence it means they don't wanna talk to you clearly 

 

a person truly interested in conversation would continue 

Who said it was a constant occurrence in my life or that I was continuing to talk to people who constantly do it to me? Thread was just about a topic I've occasionally observed and was curious about what other people thought. Your posts are always so damn confrontational and go to personal attacks/assumptions immediately lol.

[glitch]

Another reputation point, thank you

 

[Dolce Vita]

ngl i do this with certain people bc i just don't feel like replying properly but want to acknowledge whatever they sent me so im not being rude 

[AshleyLovescats887]

When it's a good reaction, my ego gets a little boost

When it's a bad one, I start throwing chairs and tables and dming whoever downvoted me to get rid of the reaction or else

 

[javieraloud]

10 minutes ago, illia said:

I do this sometimes, but it's only because I have nothing to add to the topic

This.

 

Don't over think it, if you want the conversation to keep going just bring our another topic.

[Princess Aurora]

It depends on the context. If they're busy and still open the messages and reply later, it means they care. 

[Cruel Summer]

It's contextual, obviously, but I usually assume that's their entire response and the end of the conversation - because often, it is, and they don't come back and add to it later. When it's a friend or family member who I know is just busy and will talk later, I don't pay it any mind at all. If someone does it several times, though, to me that's a pretty clear indication they aren't interested in talking anymore. 

[West Coast]

down vote their last 100 posts in return

 

[Loca]

It means the conversation is over. Move on

[HausOfPunk]

I do this when I'm too lazy to respond but don't want to be rude.

[PerfectCure]

It's texting 101, if you react to a message then it means you want to end the convo there, for at least some time (a few hours) or permanently. They might message you later if the conversation was not monotone though (and you can do the same.)

[yonsé]

it means they don't have anything else to add.

 

if its a friend, its not a big deal because we'll often have something to say to each other later on.

 

if its in a romantic situation they want the conversation to end....that's not great lol

[Supervillain]

It's annoying but I believe it's a sign. If they wanted to engage further they would reply   

[Devin]

sometimes no response is needed lol.

 

reactions are meant to show person A that person B acknowledges what u said w/o leaving u on read.

[ChooseyLover]

Depends on the message but it's really not that deep. What I do is turning off some options in my settings so I can't know if someone has read my message and the other person can't know either. I think it's the best thing I've ever made because I tend to overthink a lot.

[tjspy]

I usually take it like they only reacted to it without having anything further to respond 

[KennethPettyGang]

40 minutes ago, Just a Gay on ATRL said:

Who said it was a constant occurrence in my life or that I was continuing to talk to people who constantly do it to me? Thread was just about a topic I've occasionally observed and was curious about what other people thought. Your posts are always so damn confrontational and go to personal attacks/assumptions immediately lol.

You're right I'm sorry babe 

[Devin]

51 minutes ago, Just a Gay on ATRL said:

I feel like my instant gut reaction is that they're always trying to end the conversation.   Which obviously can be appropriate sometimes but also can feel really abrupt and at worst, passive aggressively telling you to stop talking to them

OK that is your perception. if u never ask them its all left to speculation. there is multiple outcomes here:

 

- they could be busy, working, etc.

- they have nothing else to add to the subject.

- you may not have nothing to add to the subject.

- you may not be top priority for them at that time.

- you could be a boring person to talk to.

- you may not be an effective communicator.

- they might not be an effective communicator.

 

communication works both ways. if u feel like ur giving 80% to their 20%. stop engaging/reaching out and allow THEM to text you. like @glitch mentioned u can basically be unbothered.

[Just a Gay on ATRL]

7 minutes ago, Devin said:

OK that is your perception. if u never ask them its all left to speculation. there is multiple outcomes here:

 

- they could be busy, working, etc.

- they have nothing else to add to the subject.

- you may not have nothing to add to the subject.

- you may not be top priority for them at that time.

- you could be a boring person to talk to.

- you may not be an effective communicator.

- they might not be an effective communicator.

 

communication works both ways. if u feel like ur giving 80% to their 20%. stop engaging/reaching out and allow THEM to text you.

All valid points here. I agree with what a lot of people here are saying to not overthink it too much. I think the passive aggressiveness is only in the absolute worst case scenarios of reacting, thankfully this rarely happens to me but has happened before.

 

Also agree it's important to communicate. If someone ends the convo with me by reaction I will usually give them the space after to reach out to me when they want because they were prob just busy or distracted by other things 

[discosean]

I vindictively downvote them. 

[gagacasanova]

I do it to acknowledge the message and also because I have nothing else to say.

[Alldeezy]

Lmao I do that with Allday because I never want to be left on read by him