discussion Gays, can you date someone who is religious? Is it self-disrespect?

[FlyOnTheWall]

I did once. He was the second guy I ever dated, we were both 18. After it ended because he couldn't accept us having different views on religion he radicalized, started preaching homophobia at his church and ended up marrying a 16 year old girl from his church when he was like 20  Never again! 

Edited July 15 by FlyOnTheWall

[Bloodflowers.]

Only if they accept Jesus Christ as our Lord and Saviour

[vale9001]

not a full american christian.  In America if you're religious most time you're seriously religious with the bigotry side and everything. In Europe is different, 95% of the people believes in a church including gays but at the same time it's not that deep. It's not easy to explain but religion is more like cultural folklore you believe to and not something like the mother of Carrie or people reading the bible on the table. In my country for example 90% of the population says he's a believer but then only the 18% of under 40 goes to the Church on Sunday. Religion is the figurine of the favourite saint of your auntie near to a souvenir from London. 

Edited July 15 by vale9001

[SlimyGhoul]

Honestly, no. I dated someone religious before (I'm not religious at all) and it was a big source of conflict because they couldn't reconcile with the fact that I wasn't religious and also wasn't willing to practice their religion. 

 

Religion to me is all a fairytale, massive lies and fantasies made up to explain the world around us when we didn't know any better and are now used to control people. It all seems very strange and cultish to me. I don't think I could ever believe in any sort of religion. People who are religious seem low-key crazy to me, like doomsday cultists.

Edited July 15 by SlimyGhoul

[Zylo]

I'm very open minded and was raised religious myself so it doesn't bother me. Besides, most people who are young & around my age that are religious aren't as bad about it as some think.

 

My last ex was religious. Very sweet guy who prayed every night and even read the Bible for a bit before we'd cuddle to sleep. He never forced me to do either. The ex before him was an atheist who was also very kind. Neither worked out, but it had nothing to do with their religious views or mine. 

 

[shinyshimmery]

Yes. I actually want a partner who believes in God and is semi-religious. My family is Catholic and while we don't practice religion devotedly... we still have some customs. I personally like to pray at night, and have religious images/figures around my house for spiritual protection and well-being. But I am not the type to read the bible, or go to church every Sunday. 

[Cesar]

no absolutely not.

 

they tend to lack critical thinking + can never think outside of the box because their religion grooms them to only about life or situations within the limits set by that religion.

 

I believe that if you need a religion to have a moral compass/to be a good person, chances are you aren't a good person to begin with

[Venice B]

Depends on their level of faith lol I don't think I could date someone who's SUPER into religion or something...

[Badgalbriel]

It depends on their level of religious. My boyfriend believes in God, but doesn't belong to any religion. 

[Sazare]

Maybe like a Buddhist or something but no one theistic tbh

[Dante Silva]

Yes you can and it can be very hot when the other person has been raised to believe everything you do in bed together is taboo.

[lustforyou]

It would depend. My last ex was "religious" in the sense that he had a bible on his nightstand, went to church with his family on holidays, and would say he's a Christian lol. So, a very low practicing religious person, and was mostly it just in name only, so we vibed fine. However, he was so because that's how he was raised, and his family was still very religious and conservative. We ended up having to end things against my own wants (I really loved him tbh) because he was very close with his family and finally said he probably would realistically never come out and would eventually marry a girl; and even if he didn't, he'd never drop them and would never be able to bring me around them anyways so it was just a dead end. It's been over a year later and he still is just as closeted with them, so I feel right in my decision, but it still really really sucks 
 

That aspect of it is what would turn me off from dating a religious person. I find it very rare that a gay man became religious on his own in his 20s+, meaning it's probably from childhood, and now I'd be afraid that their family is still very religious and conservative and that he wouldn't want to break from that

[alexrex]

As long as they don't shove their religion in my face and try to convert me, we are ok. I have the right to belief in whatever I want, so does my partner. 

[DAP]

In theory, yes. But I'm of the opinion that most religious people (gay or otherwise) want someone with the same beliefs as them and atheism is too great of a chasm to reconcile. I do try to approach life with a sense of curiosity so I can't say no. I'd even go as far a participate in ritual, but never convert tho.

[terrorblade]

depends on the religion

[Rith]

only if they are hot

 

edit: but i!d be scared at nights thinking he might just snap and kill both of us because we are faguettes

Edited July 15 by Rith

[KatyPrismSpirit]

dating someone with such conflicting beliefs is probably very depressing. i want someone who feels free, comfortable and liberated. but at the same time, it's hard out here for everybody so i won't judge

[Kiel D-01]

Nope, 0% chance. 

[Vixen Eyes]

1 hour ago, DawnAnti said:

Not against you precisely but I don't know if some of you are actually this slow or act this way to troll cause as i said "if it doesn't effect me in ANY SORT OF WAYS"

imagine all your life having only a Sunday off from work, family, etc. then you find a potential life partner youd want to spend that one day off with for relaxing, etc. now imagine them wanting you to go to church with them on that day of relaxing.

id rather stay single and keep my day off for relaxing than to leave the house for hours in a hard ass pew crowded around strangers who might want to kill you for being gay.

[dinorhino]

1 hour ago, Cesar said:

no absolutely not.

 

they tend to lack critical thinking + can never think outside of the box because their religion grooms them to only about life or situations within the limits set by that religion.

 

I believe that if you need a religion to have a moral compass/to be a good person, chances are you aren't a good person to begin with

CLOCK IT

[NoOneDiesFromLove]

As long as they're not practicing because you're not dragging my ass to church every Sunday or whatever 

[ScorpiosGroove]

I simply wouldn't be able to respect nor take someone seriously who lets his life be dictated by made-up stuff in old books

[Quiqui4eva]

If they're not dedicated to it, sure

[Rotunda]

I could date someone who is super religious. I don't think someone super religious could date me. I'm a preacher's kid, so my relationship to the church is very negative and very unmovable. 

 

I have friends who are both queer and have backgrounds in theology/divinity, and a lot of them are more culturally religious/spiritual than fundamentalist. I also had fling with a chaplain who was very sweet, and while his religiousness wasn't an issue for me, I do wonder if my atheism would have been hard for him. 

[brazil]

If they were non practicing (believe in something, goes to mass once every three years), then I guess it would be ok. 

 

But if they were practicing yeah, that would be a no. If I was straight that would likely still be a no, just too much of a fundamental difference.