MidnightsAtPeace Posted Saturday at 07:33 PM Share Posted Saturday at 07:33 PM I started seeing and hooking up with a guy I met online. He's barely six months older than me and almost exactly my type (masc but sweet and open minded). He used to pick me up since he lived just five minutes away. The sex was good, and he was really nice. I found out that we both go to the same university and went to high schools just two blocks apart. He kept saying he wanted more than just casual sex, and I agreed. After our 4th date, he stopped texting me for no apparent reason. When I reached out, he said his mother was hospitalized and promised to make it up to me. I told him I was there for him and to take as much time as he needed. Fast forward 6-8 days later, he had completely stopped texting me. When I confronted him, he apologized and said it was bc of his mom's situation, though he had changed his whatsapp pfp without responding to my texts. I asked if he was willing to give it another try and meet up, and he said yes. I even told him that if he had a change of heart, he should let me know, but he insisted he was still into me and wanted to meet again. I stopped texting him because I was tired of always being the one to text first. It's been about a month now, and he still hasn't checked up on me (he's changed his pfp three more times btw). He was so nice and sweet, and I don't know what to do. Should I ask for closure? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SinnerCity Posted Saturday at 07:35 PM Share Posted Saturday at 07:35 PM The only closure you need is knowing that you deserve better and he wasn't into you the same way that you're into him. Don't put him first over you babes x 14 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Strawberry Bubble Posted Saturday at 07:39 PM Share Posted Saturday at 07:39 PM No, let him go 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MidnightsAtPeace Posted Saturday at 07:41 PM Author Share Posted Saturday at 07:41 PM 5 minutes ago, SinnerCity said: The only closure you need is knowing that you deserve better and he wasn't into you the same way that you're into him. Don't put him first over you babes x thank u legend 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TedMiracle Posted Saturday at 07:41 PM Share Posted Saturday at 07:41 PM No. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
tost1 Posted Saturday at 07:42 PM Share Posted Saturday at 07:42 PM Let it go def 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
єѕℓαм Posted Saturday at 07:44 PM Share Posted Saturday at 07:44 PM Hell no you should always put yourself first and keep it pushing and never look back life is way too short 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
tjspy Posted Saturday at 07:48 PM Share Posted Saturday at 07:48 PM He seems like that type of as*hole I'm sorry :( 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Smarticle Posted Saturday at 07:48 PM Share Posted Saturday at 07:48 PM He's a keeper 9 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
EtherealCat Posted Saturday at 07:50 PM Share Posted Saturday at 07:50 PM yes, nothing more attractive than desperation and he does sound nice and sweet 4 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kavish Posted Saturday at 07:50 PM Share Posted Saturday at 07:50 PM 6 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
shyboi Posted Saturday at 07:54 PM Share Posted Saturday at 07:54 PM (edited) 26 minutes ago, MidnightsAtPeace said: I even told him that if he had a change of heart, he should let me know It's been about a month now, and he still hasn't checked up on me (he's changed his pfp three more times btw). imagine someone using the words "change of heart", i would run too. Edited Saturday at 08:00 PM by shyboi 3 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
suburbannature Posted Saturday at 07:54 PM Share Posted Saturday at 07:54 PM It's over, babes 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
BtDecember Posted Saturday at 07:56 PM Share Posted Saturday at 07:56 PM He's a manipulator - he's manipulating you with his "kindness" so no, just move on. 4 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Hitchhiker Posted Saturday at 07:59 PM Share Posted Saturday at 07:59 PM 1 minute ago, BtDecember said: He's a manipulator - he's manipulating you with his "kindness" so no, just move on. This, let him go. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TheRealGâteau Posted Saturday at 08:02 PM Share Posted Saturday at 08:02 PM Clear communication is king. You deserve better. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
selena_lavigne Posted Saturday at 08:02 PM Share Posted Saturday at 08:02 PM It's only over when you want it to be because it sounds like you are chasing after yourself. You are coming up with romantic scenarios in your head with breadcrumbs he gave you that you internalized and adapted and created a storyline in your head that is much more interesting than the loser you are trying to date. 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MidnightsAtPeace Posted Saturday at 08:10 PM Author Share Posted Saturday at 08:10 PM 15 minutes ago, shyboi said: imagine someone using the words "change of heart", i would run too. that wasn't my exact quote i told him he should let me know if he wasn't interested 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MidnightsAtPeace Posted Saturday at 08:11 PM Author Share Posted Saturday at 08:11 PM 8 minutes ago, selena_lavigne said: It's only over when you want it to be because it sounds like you are chasing after yourself. You are coming up with romantic scenarios in your head with breadcrumbs he gave you that you internalized and adapted and created a storyline in your head that is much more interesting than the loser you are trying to date. this was a wild read (in a good way) thank u Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
sweetblindness Posted Saturday at 08:16 PM Share Posted Saturday at 08:16 PM Let him go, you won't have to chase the right person for you 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Feetree Posted Saturday at 08:22 PM Share Posted Saturday at 08:22 PM Please watch this short video I myself have returned to this many times as I'm going through a delulu crush but not as bad as your situation 5 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
selena_lavigne Posted Saturday at 08:23 PM Share Posted Saturday at 08:23 PM 11 minutes ago, MidnightsAtPeace said: this was a wild read (in a good way) thank u Men are all the same. They have about 20 people lined up to go out with and they always have a favorite they will prioritize. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MidnightsAtPeace Posted Saturday at 08:28 PM Author Share Posted Saturday at 08:28 PM 5 minutes ago, Feetree said: Please watch this short video I myself have returned to this many times as I'm going through a delulu crush but not as bad as your situation thank u so much it actually helped 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MidnightsAtPeace Posted Saturday at 08:30 PM Author Share Posted Saturday at 08:30 PM 4 minutes ago, selena_lavigne said: Men are all the same. They have about 20 people lined up to go out with and they always have a favorite they will prioritize. I always tell myself that I'm done with men but I always go back I just know if I texted him he would act all nice and sweet and blame his ignorance on something new Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
kataraqueen Posted Saturday at 08:34 PM Share Posted Saturday at 08:34 PM Personally I'm petty so I force the closure through blocking and archiving. Everyone works through things in their own way! Do what ever feels right in your heart 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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