dinorhino Posted March 29 Posted March 29 (edited) 1 hour ago, glitch said: Good for her. I remember losing my virginity and waking up the next day and realising literally nothing was different. It's such a stupid "milestone" and it's much better to wait until you're ready. Far too many people, especially women, have told me how awful their first time was and how they felt pressured into doing things they didn't want to do. Peer pressure of virginity is not about the experience anymore, it's purely about not wanting to be on the chopping block for being ridiculed~socailly ostracised for being a virgin. Or in other words, people subconsciously want the social benefits of not being a virgin anymore and not being susceptible to being ridiculed for being one still. Virginity is a socially-constructed concept but it's still real regardless because people enforce it, much like race (not saying being a virgin is as serious as being a minority/racialised for example, just comparing two purely social constructs; comparing =/= equating). People who often say virginity doesn't matter/losing it doesn't matter don't realise the social benefits that come along with it. Especially for men and especially the older you get as well. I have noticed a lot of people that say don't judge someone by their 'body count' will vehemently not want to date someone who's a virgin, especially if they're older. 3 minutes ago, FENTY. said: Having sex > watching p*rn duh. Of course it's healthier But I wasn't talking about one night stands anyways. You can get to know someone, a few dates and still don't fall in love. But if you are attracted to them why not have sex idgi It's healthy if it's safe sex and you're enjoying it sure. They were probably referencing one-night stands rather than FWBs which is what you seem to be referencing Also some people are just not built for hook ups, one-night stands or FWBs. They need a deep emotional connection with someone to have sex or else it feels like a chore. Also having sex just to have sex doesn't mean it's good or worth your time. Mediocre~bad sex is not comparable to a good wank tbh. Edited March 29 by dinorhino 3
FENTY. Posted March 29 Posted March 29 8 minutes ago, dinorhino said: It's healthy if it's safe sex and you're enjoying it sure. They were probably referencing one-night stands rather than FWBs which is what you seem to be referencing Also some people are just not built for hook ups, one-night stands or FWBs. They need a deep emotional connection with someone to have sex or else it feels like a chore. Also having sex just to have sex doesn't mean it's good or worth your time. Mediocre~bad sex is not comparable to a good wank tbh. I agree and I am not a stranger to performance anxiety and stuff like that. It is complex but sometimes it doesn't have to be taken so seriously and can be enjoyed like every other activity
Apolonio ₃₄ Posted March 29 Posted March 29 2 hours ago, Darn Tootin said: She's right. Sex is actually insignificant in the grand scheme of things No you didn't just…keep that same energy.
hypnodemiluv Posted March 29 Posted March 29 good, let's normalise people who using their brain instead f*cking like animals 1
Dr. Alexander Posted March 29 Posted March 29 1 hour ago, FENTY. said: Having sex > watching p*rn duh. Of course it's healthier But I wasn't talking about one night stands anyways. You can get to know someone, a few dates and still don't fall in love. But if you are attracted to them why not have sex idgi You don't have to watch p*rn to get off. What are you on? Attraction and surface level interaction is not enough. That's actually scary because you could be sleeping with the enemy…literally. Like…no.
Bussea Posted March 29 Posted March 29 27 minutes ago, Rogue said: No you didn't just…keep that same energy. Tired of hiding from my truth 1
i spit on haters Posted March 29 Posted March 29 1 hour ago, popmusicisdead said: good for her. i wish i was still a virgin instead of the used up old wh*re that i am at my age This ATRL. Trust me you aren't alone in feeling this way.
dinorhino Posted March 29 Posted March 29 1 hour ago, FENTY. said: I agree and I am not a stranger to performance anxiety and stuff like that. It is complex but sometimes it doesn't have to be taken so seriously and can be enjoyed like every other activity It's not even performance anxiety but also just general safety, sexual and otherwise. It's not that serious as long as you're keeping yourself safe and not putting others at risk. Different strokes for different folks, both sexually and non-sexually interpreted.
Haus Rat Posted March 29 Posted March 29 I know someone who didn't lose theirs until 40... and after her first time she got pregnant... with twins lol. It was a happy story and the person was the man she married, and tbh she said she was so much happier that she waited until she was with someone she knew she wanted to spend the rest of her life with and in a stable place in life.
IBeMe Posted March 29 Posted March 29 good! I feel like a lot of people lie about losing their v card early anyway so this is refreshing. 35 does seem like a lot later than most but I would wager that the vast majority of ppl lose their v card a lot later than they claim lol.
naval23 Posted March 30 Author Posted March 30 9 hours ago, Haus Rat said: I know someone who didn't lose theirs until 40... and after her first time she got pregnant... with twins lol. It was a happy story and the person was the man she married, and tbh she said she was so much happier that she waited until she was with someone she knew she wanted to spend the rest of her life with and in a stable place in life. The eggs were egging
stevyy Posted March 30 Posted March 30 I lost my virginity at 12. I probably was a little too early. But I was ready. Everyone should decide when they engage in these activities.
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