Revolution Posted March 20 Share Posted March 20 A narcissist is someone with insecure self esteem. They are very sensitive to criticism or negative feedback. They also seek admiration or approval from others. Many narcissists may also cope by exhibiting one or more of the following: Attention seeking or people-pleasing behaviors Become perfectionists (to avoid self-criticism) Have a sense of entitlement or arrogance as a shield Alternate between states of overconfidence and inferiority Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Gesamtkunstwerk Posted March 20 Share Posted March 20 Yes, I've had one close to me growing up and a partner too. I feel really sorry for them because they're truly miserable and depressed people deep inside but they don't know why and there's very limited options for treatment, if they even want it. But having those people in my life is 100% a losing game, so I cut them out and I've never felt better The amount of energy I've lost in my life trying to accommodate them is scary. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
HRHCOLLECTION Posted March 20 Share Posted March 20 Oh it seems like I am one Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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Capris Groove Posted March 20 Share Posted March 20 I think your definition is missing how they always feel superior to others, whether it's deserved or not. They're totally self-involved and can't feel empathy for others. What you described can just be someone with low self-esteem, which isn't the same thing. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Gesamtkunstwerk Posted March 20 Share Posted March 20 (edited) 8 minutes ago, Capris Groove said: I think your definition is missing how they always feel superior to others, whether it's deserved or not. They're totally self-involved and can't feel empathy for others. What you described can just be someone with low self-esteem, which isn't the same thing. I think it sums it up fine in "Alternate between states of overconfidence and inferiority". The ones I know are actually very insecure and the over inflated ego is their coping mechanism. That's why they often switch feeling from inferiority to superiority and back again. Edited March 20 by Gesamtkunstwerk Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
dussel_06 Posted March 20 Share Posted March 20 I want to be a narcissist so I can stop obsessing with other people and just be obsessed with myself instead. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Illuminati Posted March 20 Share Posted March 20 Everyone knows a narcissist but no one wants to admit to being one 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Capris Groove Posted March 20 Share Posted March 20 (edited) 14 minutes ago, Gesamtkunstwerk said: I think it sums it up fine in "Alternate between states of overconfidence and inferiority". The ones I know are actually very insecure and the over inflated ego is their coping mechanism. That's why they often switch feeling from inferiority to superiority and back again. Hmm, no doubt that they're highly insecure underneath it all, but I think the obsession with all things self and the imagined superiority over others are really the defining traits. Lots of people are very sensitive to criticism and do people pleasing behaviours, become perfectionists, etc., just because of low self-worth, but that doesn't make them narcissists. From what I understand everyone has some level of narcissism, which psychologsts say is healthy, but when it gets into NPD you have a problem. Edited March 20 by Capris Groove 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
GeeDuval Posted March 20 Share Posted March 20 (edited) After dealing with a manipulative narcissist for 9 yrs, all I can say walking away, cutting all ties and communication has been the best decision. you don't know how strong you are until you accept an apology that you were never going to receive, and when you learn that their actions has more to do with them than YOU best feeling ever. total brat, very insecure, when people would spark up a conversation with me at a bar or restaurant, he would make it all about him, a man child basically. He would throw tantrums if we didn't pick a restaurant he wanted to go, all activities had to do with alcohol. Looking back, he was just numbing his pain away. His own friends would catch him on Grindr and send me his pictures, he would deny it to my face. Everyday I thank God I walked away from all that, all we can do is work on ourselves and hope they are getting the help they need. Edited March 20 by GeeDuval 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Princess Aurora Posted March 20 Share Posted March 20 Some of my relatives are completely narcissists Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Capris Groove Posted March 20 Share Posted March 20 2 minutes ago, GeeDuval said: After dealing with a manipulative narcissist for 9 yrs, all I can say walking away, cutting all ties and communication has been the best decision. you don't know how strong you are until you accept an apology that you were never going to receive, and when you learn that their actions has more to do with them than YOU best feeling ever. total brat, a man child would throw tantrums if we didn't pick a restaurant he wanted to go, all activities had to do with alcohol. Looking back he was just numbing his pain away. His own friends would catch him on Grindr and send me his pictures, he would deny it to my face. Everyday I thank God I walked away from all that. Glad I can catch the red flags now. I'm glad you're away from that MESS. Good for you sis. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
GeeDuval Posted March 20 Share Posted March 20 22 minutes ago, Gesamtkunstwerk said: I think it sums it up fine in "Alternate between states of overconfidence and inferiority". The ones I know are actually very insecure and the over inflated ego is their coping mechanism. That's why they often switch feeling from inferiority to superiority and back again. This. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Gesamtkunstwerk Posted March 20 Share Posted March 20 2 minutes ago, GeeDuval said: a man child would throw tantrums if we didn't pick a restaurant he wanted to go Tbh, this is how I started to question if my ex was one, because he couldn't believe when his friend group didn't want to go the exact place he wanted to go as the only one. He literally felt like they betrayed him each time it happened. I thought "this guy is not right in the head" Glad you got rid of him! It's the best you can do. 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jon Snow Posted March 20 Share Posted March 20 40 minutes ago, Gesamtkunstwerk said: Yes, I've had one close to me growing up and a partner too. I feel really sorry for them because they're truly miserable and depressed people deep inside but they don't know why and there's very limited options for treatment, if they even want it. But having those people in my life is 100% a losing game, so I cut them out and I've never felt better The amount of energy I've lost in my life trying to accommodate them is scary. same. i felt so bad for them, i wanted to help, i was protective and everything. i knew the burdens they had, and i knew they deserve to feel better. but then i realized nothing i ever do will change them and they just end up hurting me. they never understand when they do something wrong, and don't seem to want to change. in recent years i fully stopped being friends with one, and i stopped being close with another. i was in love with the third one and it was the best feeling when i cut all the ties with them Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
WitnessOblivia Posted March 20 Share Posted March 20 Honestly, a small percentage of the population is an actual narcissist. There's a spectrum of narcissism, and we're all on it. It's become so popular to armchair diagnose people we've had terrible experiences with. With that said, narcissism is common enough to know for sure that all of us have come into contact with multiple narcissists at some point. I don't think anyone close to me is a narcissist, but some are definitely on the wrong side of the spectrum, me thinks. 3 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
shyboi Posted March 20 Share Posted March 20 i never understood the concept of narcissism, people use it for everything moody? you a narcissit, perfectionist? you a narcissist, ambitious? ya, most likely a narcissist, hot? def narcissist Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Gesamtkunstwerk Posted March 20 Share Posted March 20 4 minutes ago, shyboi said: i never understood the concept of narcissism, people use it for everything moody? you a narcissit, perfectionist? you a narcissist, ambitious? ya, most likely a narcissist, hot? def narcissist None of these traits defines narcissism, some of them aren't any of those things besides moody 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Pendulum Posted March 20 Share Posted March 20 Everybody is a narcissist to an extent and people definitely misuse the term. I don't think I've ever met a person with a narcisstic personality disorder BUT I had an encounter with a very.. interesting gay guy a few months back. Take the twink archetype and apply a narcissistic filter ten times on top. Yuck. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
GeeDuval Posted March 20 Share Posted March 20 (edited) 29 minutes ago, shyboi said: i never understood the concept of narcissism, people use it for everything moody? you a narcissit, perfectionist? you a narcissist, ambitious? ya, most likely a narcissist, hot? def narcissist Check below: 1 hour ago, Capris Groove said: I think your definition is missing how they always feel superior to others, whether it's deserved or not. They're totally self-involved and can't feel empathy for others. What you described can just be someone with low self-esteem, which isn't the same thing. . making everything about them, insecurities, fitting in, manipulating others, not being themselves, etc. when you know yourself you don't have to try so hard in other words I guess. Being a Perfectionist, having confidence and ambitious is very different than someone who's insecure and pretentious. Edited March 20 by GeeDuval 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
UnusualBoy Posted March 20 Share Posted March 20 You forgot to mention that a narcissists only care about themselves, do not care about your feelings nor what you think. So, no, I haven't. I've known arrogant people, vein people but they show at some degree caring for others unlike a narcissist. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Gladiator Posted March 20 Share Posted March 20 No and I don't know anyone who is. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
єѕℓαм Posted March 20 Share Posted March 20 I'm not but i'm a perfectionist and i love + respect myself but not to the point of arrogance but my cat is definitely one 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Cesar Posted March 20 Share Posted March 20 yes, my ex. he completely destroyed sense of self & caused me alot of trauma. that i still have trouble dealing with sometimes. i wouldn't wish the experience on anyone tbh 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Alldeezy Posted March 23 Share Posted March 23 my ex is one .. knowing how he has treated the next 2 girls .. screams Narcissists he is the most awful person Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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