discussion Is it possible to be emotionally attracted to women and sexually attracted to men

[ALΞX]

Um its called being gay. 

[vale9001]

53 minutes ago, PrettyHurts said:

The bi/queer phobia 

Bi sexual means sexual. Bisexuals are again sexual attracted to both sexes.

 

Feeling emotionally more feminine and being attracted sexually only to men It's like closer to the experience of being a gay man than bisexual 

Edited March 3 by vale9001

[Arrows]

I mean, if that’s how you genuinely feel, why ask others if it’s possible? You’d know better than anyone.

Edited March 3 by Arrows

[Kayseri Mantisi]

37 minutes ago, LittleStarmen said:

Thats friendship. no romance exist without physical attraction babe

 

but feel bad for the people who are using this as an excuse to not come out of the closet

Please I was replying to Pendulum cuz the OP said they're romantically attracted to both genders but sexually only to men, I'm not debating about if it's something that exists or not, i'm gay

[Heldenzeit]

I'm not attracted to anyone but still horny af, try that. 

Edited March 3 by Heldenzeit

[dumbsparce]

No

[Princess Aurora]

What do you mean by emotionally attracted?

[Revolution]

idk. but could be bi. try punanny. it's not that different from hole.

[reymiu]

I just have a lot of thoughts after seeing Bradley Cooper's Maestro y'all

 

[Mordecai]

Are you sure you're not just being subconsciously influenced by the heteronormativity of society?

 

I'm bi and used to think I'd only want to settle down with a woman because it'd be easier, but now I'd be happy with either

[JoeAg]

YES! are you kidding me? absof*ckinglutely 

 

has anyone told you differently? if they have, tell them the f*ck off honestly. as a bisexual man, the way I'm attracted to different genders is constantly in flux. in all honesty, I like having a few men in my life to cuddle with and maybe not have a ton of sex with but a lot of me falling asleep on their chests or vice versa. and then I like to have a lot of other men to f*ck and maybe only a few minutes of cuddling with if any. I've always been extremely non-monogamous, but I've only concretely realized recently that I like different guys to take different positions (for lack of a better term at this instant) in my sexual and romantic life. and you know what? that might even change, I'll never put it past myself to have constant flux, like I said before. when it comes to women, I really like cuddling and making out and talking for hours, and I love feeling validated by women as someone they can enjoy being around. do I like sex with women too? definitely! but sex has never ever been a first thought with women for me. usually when I see a woman I'm interested in, I'm like "oh she seems so cool I wanna go on walks with her and get drunk and laugh together." whereas for men, it can range from the aforementioned "woman first thought" as the first thought to, every so often, "oh my god he's so f*cking sexy I want to put his **** in my mouth so badly right now!!" but that might change too. maybe someday I'll see a woman and be like "oh my god I want to kiss her by the creek" or something like that. honestly that barely feels right of me to say. idk. the sexual spectrum, the romantic spectrum, the platonic spectrum... don't let these things define you. be YOU. find love in any way you feel is right, and don't let traditionalists tell you that your way is incorrect or invalid. 

[magazine]

isn't that how gay works?

 

[JoeAg]

no but carrying on with that thought though... like I've caught myself watching TV or scrolling through instagram reels a lot lately and seeing hot men and just off the cuff exclaiming out loud to myself "oh he's so cute I'd put his d*ck in my mouth"  maybe that's a bad b*tch move, maybe I'm just the horniest b*tch in my friend group. either way, we love cute men whose penii we'd collectively suck

[RussianRoulette]

Yes. It also works the other way around. 

We all have a protective/nurturing side to us. Don't you feel like you transform into a babygirl with a man and then turn into a protector with a lady? 

Some women are just soft and smell nice and delicate and precious. I love them in a different way.

[John Slayne]

romantic and sexual attraction manifest in various ways in humans, so yes anything is possible and you can call it whatever you like as long as you're comfortable with it. at the end of the day it's your life, live it the way you want to. don't listen to dogmatic gays or straights telling you you're something else. 

[alexrex]

We're all the same omg 

[duybeeGAshantiGA]

I have experienced that before. I even felt the urge to marry her eventho im not sexuallu attracted. I felt that special emotion

 

[Khal]

Isn’t that just being gay, but wanting emotional connection with women i.e., wanting them as friends?

 

Emotional connection doesn’t always have to be “romantic”, and as the OP isn’t attracted to women, I’m not sure how he’s bisexual. 

[imabadkid]

ignore some of the people in here… yes it’s possible, there’s a ton of bi people who fall into that category. Not saying you’re bi because sexuality is a very individualized journey.

[ImsoLOUD]

2 hours ago, tost1 said:

Everything is possible if you're delusional enough

this is the real tea 

[imabadkid]

47 minutes ago, John Slayne said:

romantic and sexual attraction manifest in various ways in humans, so yes anything is possible and you can call it whatever you like as long as you're comfortable with it. at the end of the day it's your life, live it the way you want to. don't listen to dogmatic gays or straights telling you you're something else. 

exactly. I always forget how many dogmas people have when it comes to sexuality esp on ATRL, “he’s not straight if he’s letting a guy suck him!!” “you can’t be sexually attracted to men and romantically attracted to women!!” 
 

… it’s like girl you guys need to go out into the world more. people have all kinds of experiences and viewpoints and  perspectives on their personal sexuality and sexuality in general. people do what feels right and works for them and it’s their own journey that no one can truly tell them about because they’re not them.

[shimind]

that's the story of basically every closet gay out there who also loves his wife 

[Bones]

I always felt it, even to the point I wanted my best friend to fall in love with me and it ended with both of us hospitalised in mental institutions. Have a good day y’all 

[reymiu]

27 minutes ago, duybeeGAshantiGA said:

I have experienced that before. I even felt the urge to marry her eventho im not sexuallu attracted. I felt that special emotion

 

Well then what happened eventually if you don't mind me asking?

[Comedor]

From good sis ChatGPT:

 

A person who is emotionally attracted to women and sexually attracted to men may identify as bisexual. Sexual orientation is complex and can encompass various attractions. It's essential to respect individual self-identifications and understand that people's experiences of attraction can vary widely.