discussion Do you ever feel like people want to interact with you but in small doses?

[BrentB]

So have you ever encountered people in your life who seem down 2 chill & kick it, & you get an overall good vibe from, but it seems like they need a break from you for a few weeks or month or two? Is that acceptable to you & would it be something you're willing to stand?

Edited February 14 by BrentB

[Daddy]

I'm the person that will chill with your for a whole weekend and won't hit you up for months. Has nothing to do with you, it's just the way I am. We are fighting our own demons while away from people but love hanging with people when the time is right. 

 

It may sound selfish to others, I get that. 

[Cesar]

not really. i’m normally the friend that pulls away from people.

 

i have a few friends, who almost everytime i see them. they literally only talk about themselves or can’t try to listen / comprehend to what i’m saying. i’d be all ears for their stories, but when it comes to me it’s almost like they didn’t hear what i said and just nodding their head while they hear me talk.

 

[perfect blue]

Lol, that's so funny because I categorize people into a "small dose friends" bucket. While I love them, people in this category are usually very extra and can be exhausting to be around for extended periods.

[Maneater]

That sounds like me tbh 

[Mocha]

the heart grows fonder with distance or something like that 

[Saint James]

no, i am that person

[poki]

I'm the one who ghosts on everyone haha

 

But the same time I don't like to be alone. I want to have more people around me. Whenever I do those personality tests I come up as 50/50 introverted / extroverted with like 1% difference so it makes sense. 

 

Video games is how all my friendships form over. In elementary school it was pokemon, and in my teens and today, League of Legends. 

[poki]

I've actually read a theory that a true extrovert will seek out new relationships instead of try to hone deep relationships so maybe that explains why people ghost. 

[Tudors]

No. People love my personality and looks. It's me who has to stop responding when they start ignoring my stories and talking about themselves instead

[popmusicisdead]

it's me, hi. i'm the problem it's me 

most people that i have ever come across have been pretty nice and friendly. i'm just an ******* that wants to be left alone all the time. 

[TeddyNeri]

I think it’s normal. To create a friendship, it takes time, and I believe everyone needs personal space. Personally, I can’t trust people right away.

[Alldeezy]

more like I want to interact with my friends in small doses .. I prefer to be on my own these days

[Pendulum]

I'm on the receiving end most of the times. Millennials and Gen Z's are emotionally immature. 

[JoeAg]

when I was in high school I would be super insecure about exactly this

 

I had friends who wouldn't really be caught dead hanging out with me in school, but would like to get stoned with me after school because I was only funny/enjoyable to be around then. or at least that's how it felt! as I've gotten older though, I've realized that everyone has their own social battery, and everyone has their own respective capacities for what they need in any given moment

 

I concur with what @Daddy said up there^

it's so true! I'll be great at responding for a bit and then just be awful for another while. and it never means I don't like the person, it just is how it is. I have a few best friends who I will almost always respond to. but to those who I don't do that with, it's not that I don't love them less, it's just that we don't quite have that same connection. and that ain't personal! we're in our twenties and all that, we're adults. I'm 27 for f*ck's sake, my prefrontal cortex is FINALLY developed MOTHAF*CKA 😃 MOTHAF*CKA IT'S TRUEEEEEEE 

 

but anyway! yeah. it's all about being transparent at the end of the day. if someone is asking me why i'm bad at responding I'll say pretty much everything I just said. and if people really are in that mindset of "taking you in doses" then they need to re-evaluate how surface level that can sound without any reasoning behind it. but yeah on my end i'm definitely willing to stand it, to answer your question, because I empathize with it 100%

[Pendulum]

What annoys me too is that everyone is taling about this loneliness epidemic or whatever but when people are met with interest for contact, they run away and stay complaining about their loneliness. I'm guilty of that too though. 

[Kern]

I don't really think about this

 

[Raptus]

20 hours ago, Tudors said:

No. People love my personality and looks. It's me who has to stop responding when they start ignoring my stories and talking about themselves instead

[Tudors]

2 minutes ago, Raptus said:

I can't hear what you are saying in this gif, baby

[Kamil24]

No, I am the one that wants people in small doses only I have too many friends and just need to recharge on my own.