YourNumber1Witch Posted January 30 Share Posted January 30 Hey, it’s not for me, not for all of us, but if it feels right and it’s working, go for it! Yeah, maybe there’s a chance it’ll fizzle out and not work, but the same could be said for literally any relationship. More power to you! 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
pxxxtrick Posted January 30 Share Posted January 30 Hot. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
rta1913 Posted January 30 Share Posted January 30 if that makes all three of you happy then go for it! Monogamous relationships (at least between two people) are not for everybody and honestly a little unrealistic. You can have a partner you love more than anything in the world, find them super attractive and have great sex with them but sometimes your body/brain crave something else. Either connection with someone else or just some sex fantasy. And I think it's healthy to pursue those urges (of course while being honest and open about it) because it usually leads to strengthen your own relationship. Now the only thing I wanna make shady comments about your story is... You said your husband mainly like young twinks but you guys are dating a young bear? (I mean good for him and evolving his taste). Also you called your husband vanilla but then also called him dominant, which one is it!? 1 3 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
CristianGarcia Posted January 30 Share Posted January 30 As long as it’s positive and not messy than good for you. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SinnerCity Posted January 30 Share Posted January 30 You do you babes x whatever feels right for you, if you’re not hurting anybody not causing harm to yourself, then explore your sexuality how you see fit 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Sheep Posted January 30 Share Posted January 30 (edited) All these comments about somebody getting "phased out" as if most normal relationships don't suffer that fate too OT: As long as youre all happy and as long as the young one converts you into a Gaga stan Edited January 30 by Sheep 3 2 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Carla Rosón Posted January 30 Share Posted January 30 A ticking bomb 1 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Twixters Posted January 30 Share Posted January 30 Is the third allowed to openly date? I feel like he will eventually find a partner of his own but as long as it works for now! 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Katamari Posted January 30 Share Posted January 30 Good for you life is too short 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Tudors Posted January 30 Share Posted January 30 (edited) Grindr is the worst place to meet a partner. This is for sure doomed from the start and someone will be phased out. Edited January 30 by Tudors 2 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Digitalism Posted January 30 Share Posted January 30 It seems like you came here looking for validation otherwhise you would just enjoy it. Which means that either you still haven't accepted your kinks or you think this may become problematic. I would do some self reflect 2 4 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Trent W Posted January 30 Share Posted January 30 Good Luck! Always wanted to try one, with a girl and a guy But there’s not a lot of people open, I’m also too picky to like 2 people at the same time. 1 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Chika Posted January 30 Share Posted January 30 Oh ok 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Illuminati Posted January 30 Share Posted January 30 53 minutes ago, brooklyndaddy said: You do you but may I ask why you are spelling it “boi”? Is this some special term different than the correct spelling? He's an Avril Lavigne fan 4 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
CandleGuy Posted January 30 Share Posted January 30 If it works for you then your happiness is all that matters I will say...managing the dynamic of a monogamous couple relationship is challenging enough that an entire couples therapy industry has been built on it. Adding a third person with their own thoughts, feelings, desires, and emotions makes it exponentially harder. I've never personally seen a throuple survive long term. But I hope to hear positive updates on your relationship! 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ATRL Moderator Ampersand13 Posted January 30 ATRL Moderator Share Posted January 30 It sounds like the three of you care deeply for one another and have fostered an environment of communication which is great! Sometimes I envy people who have such security in themselves and their partners to have arrangements like this but unfortunately I don’t think I’d be able to. Enjoy this, though! It sounds like a pretty great situation 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
brenda-walsh Posted January 30 Share Posted January 30 what is it with gays and open relationships? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Illuminati Posted January 30 Share Posted January 30 1 minute ago, brenda-walsh said: what is it with gays and open relationships? Maybe it's your personal bubble Open relationships and partner sharing/cuckoldry are even more common among straights 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Nashe Posted January 30 Share Posted January 30 ''my little kinky pig boi'' took me out one of the 3 of u is going to die, mmw 4 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
#Beautiful Posted January 30 Share Posted January 30 1 hour ago, Sheep said: All these comments about somebody getting "phased out" as if most normal relationships don't suffer that fate too 2 hours ago, Oktober Knight said: I've been with my husband for 9 years Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Sheep Posted January 30 Share Posted January 30 (edited) 7 minutes ago, #Beautiful said: Yes they're already beating the odds. I wouldn't ever get into any type of poly relationship myself but the way people forget that normal relationships have different versions of all the same problems gives blanket hating on anything that's different or beyond their understanding. It doesn't take a 3rd person for 2 people to drift apart(not that this is happening here) and often times a trifling 3rd person does that anyway in a monogamous couple(not that anybody in this situation is trifling). The supposed issues here by certain users aren't unique to throuples. Edited January 30 by Sheep 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Selegend Posted January 30 Share Posted January 30 Well with more i go on relationships more i get the fact that the relationship don't need to last forever to be great. It can be great while it lasts and u're already with this man for 9 years! I said that cuz the reality is that: it can get messy. But u know what? it ALWAYS can get messy If it feels right, if it makes the 3 of u happy, enjoy it. Just live it. have ur sex, cuddle, be exclusive ('just' the 3 of u) and see where it goes. it's not for me but life is made for us to explore, it's cliche but we only live once. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mr. Peanutbutter Posted January 30 Share Posted January 30 Good for you. I always feel kind of concerned for the person who joins a relationship with a couple, specially when they are together for 9 years cause you know... they have a history together and the third is just a newcomer but if it works, it works. Enjoy your men 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
LSD Posted January 30 Share Posted January 30 (edited) Some people will share almost anything with strangers on the Internet, but there are things you should keep to yourself. “My boi” Edited January 30 by LSD 8 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
DamianSolo Posted January 30 Share Posted January 30 Godspeed. I could never bring myself to be involved in such a situation. 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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